What do you do if you had "met" someone off this site....emailed, even talked on the phone...only to find out that EVERYTHING they had told you was a lie!!!.....I mean EVERYTHING!!!.....why would someone do that?????

What you do: Never speak to them ever again and try to forget that it happened.

Why someone would do that: Because they think that they're not good enough, and that the only chance they'll ever have with an attractive woman is by lying about themselves.

Sorry to hear it.

It's a power trip to many... i dont know why!!

your cheating on me!!!!

It's always awful to be deceived...no matter how. It's happened to me quite a few times. Luckily this happened before you got close to this person...RUN, lol.

Unfortunately, there will always be people like that on the "net" and in "real life". You just gotta take the good with the bad and keep moving on.

oops....guess I got caught....you will always be my #1 baby!!!!

well to start i would be mad .butit would be their lost .a liear always a liear

I have to agree with this.

That is nothing new . Many people from here are coming from craigslist(not all of us but yes they jump in here from the casual section) . Just watch out who you talking with .Be smart

sorry th here that i think thats something we all been through just have to keep going forward and hope the right person comes along

call me i'll fix that for you

One thing I have learned about this online stuff, is there is no relationship, no emotional investment, no nothing until you meet and look them in the eye. Up to that moment they are nothing more than acquaintance and if you allow more than that you are just fooling yourself.


Lesson hard learned.......for myself.......


sorry it happened to you....just learn form it and realize you are the better person and move on..........

been there had the same thing happen they have low self esteme if they are lying from the beginning they are liers and cannot tell the truth good that you found out early. but not all are like that keep trying

you wanna borrow my rolling pin...hahah na it hurts but you have to move on...it happens to me

Because it's the internet and they can.

Hate to see that happen ....to anyone....

Hmmmmm....

if I was just a wee tad .......younger.....

internet is full and i mean full of liers and scammers you never now even if they apear tio be your friend, i mean 96 probaly more is just fake

First, as has been stated, I am sorry that you experienced the effect of someone so dishonest. That type of thing is neither fun or easy but you'll bounce back--time has a funny way of seeing to that.

But there is another point here that I think deserves to be made. The Internet, while allowing for people to lie and be less than forthcoming is not the only way that such deceit occurs. A person geographically close can (and some do) be very dishonest. The Internet might allow for a temporary period of time with which to sharpen such hubris but it is not the only way. There is still a rather obvious (if not overused) stigma that "Online" dating is so very different from real-world dating. First, "Online" is simply a vehicle. A dishonest person will be dishonest regardless of whether or not they have a PC to play on.

To that end, the stigma is sort of overplayed in some ways because the people you meet online are really the same people who you might otherwise meet in a book store, or a coffee house, or a bank. The tool they are using to find dates does not define their values--it just amplifies them.

I agree with the responder here on this thread who wrote about everything being one thing but meeting being completely different. He's right. Meeting in person is huge. But the advantages to this form of connection are very evident.

They range from safety, pace, and a minimal investment of time if the idea is to get to know people casually.

Sorry this turned in to a rant but I can see both where the OP is coming from and where others have been as well and it seems important to take time, verify and trust whatever intuition you might possess.

OK, I'll be quiet now.

-Drew

Queen, so many people get brave sitting there in front of their monitor that they will say anything to you to get on your good side. They never think that the person they are lieing to will ever know the truth about them so they keep doing it. There are many on this site like that, but there are also many on this site who are genuine and would not think about lieing. Just hang in there and you will find the one who would not even think about not telling you the truth!