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Topic: If you're meeting local people
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Tue 11/18/08 08:09 AM
from here or any other site like this, do you usually meet quickly? As in that day or the next? Or, do you chat a bit, then decide if you want to meet? I'm just curious, because the local guys I receive emails from are in such a rush to meet. Almost all of them are the same. I see no harm in waiting a week or two in order to chat a bit first. Most local guys seem to think differently, though.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:11 AM

from here or any other site like this, do you usually meet quickly? As in that day or the next? Or, do you chat a bit, then decide if you want to meet? I'm just curious, because the local guys I receive emails from are in such a rush to meet. Almost all of them are the same. I see no harm in waiting a week or two in order to chat a bit first. Most local guys seem to think differently, though.

I prefer to chat a little before meeting.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:13 AM
There was one time I met someone the day after we talked....actually....wait...2 times. I wish I would've talked a long time before we met...I would've gotten to know their real side. I like talking for a while before I meet someone now. Let's me know who I'm going to see....:thumbsup:

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Tue 11/18/08 08:15 AM
i think they like to meet to be sure its the person they are chatting with. depending on schedules a week should be more than enough.just think if you met them some other way besides the internet how would you handle it.flowerforyou

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Tue 11/18/08 08:16 AM
This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:16 AM
There is no harm in waiting until you are comfortable with a meet. You are not being mean, as you are still communicating, take your time until you think the time is right.

:thumbsup:

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Tue 11/18/08 08:17 AM
Nope, I'm in no rush here. I had a woman give me her number in her introduction letter, I wrote her back telling her I wasn't even ready to talk on the phone. I mean how can I want to call someone I haven't even chatted with in a thread, let alone through email.

Nope, I'm a little too parinoid I guess. Besides, I'd feel a lot more comfortable if I already know the woman I'm meeting is going to be at ease with me anyway.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:24 AM

This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.


When they do that to me, I feel like running the opposite direction.scared

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Tue 11/18/08 08:25 AM

Nope, I'm in no rush here. I had a woman give me her number in her introduction letter, I wrote her back telling her I wasn't even ready to talk on the phone. I mean how can I want to call someone I haven't even chatted with in a thread, let alone through email.

Nope, I'm a little too parinoid I guess. Besides, I'd feel a lot more comfortable if I already know the woman I'm meeting is going to be at ease with me anyway.


Yeah, a guy emailed me today (from a different site) and gave me his number in the second email because he said he didn't like sending emails back and forth and didn't have time for it. Then proceeded to have a fit because I was moving too slow. laugh

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Tue 11/18/08 08:25 AM

from here or any other site like this, do you usually meet quickly? As in that day or the next? Or, do you chat a bit, then decide if you want to meet? I'm just curious, because the local guys I receive emails from are in such a rush to meet. Almost all of them are the same. I see no harm in waiting a week or two in order to chat a bit first. Most local guys seem to think differently, though.


I don't meet quickly. noway First, there's emails and then there's phone conversations.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:26 AM


This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.


When they do that to me, I feel like running the opposite direction.scared


Exactly! I don't really see what the huge rush is for. I guess these guys are meeting as many people as possible right away?

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Tue 11/18/08 08:28 AM



This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.


When they do that to me, I feel like running the opposite direction.scared


Exactly! I don't really see what the huge rush is for. I guess these guys are meeting as many people as possible right away?


I don't know why. It is sure creepy, though.

It takes all kinds. I went on a second date with someone that I met offline. He wanted me to move in and we never even kissed. There was no 3rd date. noway

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Tue 11/18/08 08:29 AM




This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.


When they do that to me, I feel like running the opposite direction.scared


Exactly! I don't really see what the huge rush is for. I guess these guys are meeting as many people as possible right away?


I don't know why. It is sure creepy, though.

It takes all kinds. I went on a second date with someone that I met offline. He wanted me to move in and we never even kissed. There was no 3rd date. noway


Yikes. scared scared

Winx's photo
Tue 11/18/08 08:30 AM


Nope, I'm in no rush here. I had a woman give me her number in her introduction letter, I wrote her back telling her I wasn't even ready to talk on the phone. I mean how can I want to call someone I haven't even chatted with in a thread, let alone through email.

Nope, I'm a little too parinoid I guess. Besides, I'd feel a lot more comfortable if I already know the woman I'm meeting is going to be at ease with me anyway.


Yeah, a guy emailed me today (from a different site) and gave me his number in the second email because he said he didn't like sending emails back and forth and didn't have time for it. Then proceeded to have a fit because I was moving too slow. laugh


If they have a fit, it's their problem - to me.

I've had those emails too. I just tell them that I only email on here for awhile. The end.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:30 AM

This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.
well yeah then thats rushing it:smile:

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Tue 11/18/08 08:32 AM
Go slow, take your time.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:32 AM





This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.


When they do that to me, I feel like running the opposite direction.scared


Exactly! I don't really see what the huge rush is for. I guess these guys are meeting as many people as possible right away?


I don't know why. It is sure creepy, though.

It takes all kinds. I went on a second date with someone that I met offline. He wanted me to move in and we never even kissed. There was no 3rd date. noway


Yikes. scared scared


Yes, Yikes. scared I found out a year later that he was stalking me.scared scared

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Tue 11/18/08 08:32 AM


This isn't even after talking much. It's usually after a couple short (2 or 3 sentence) emails that they want to meet. Maybe it's just me, but I find that a little weird and too fast.
well yeah then thats rushing it:smile:


I guess it just surprises me how many are like that. I'd say about 90% of the guys who email me are like that.

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Tue 11/18/08 08:33 AM
scared A local woman I met on here wanted to see me within the 1st 5 mins!
stupid me did!
I was seduced into a booty call at my own place!
she was atractive and stupid me bought the phoney charm & promises!
My heart was broken & I cried like the sensitive man I am for now 3 months!
I still ain't completely over it!
Take your time is my suggestion!
Don't buy what I fell for!
I feel like a piece of meat that was on sale!tears

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Tue 11/18/08 08:36 AM

scared A local woman I met on here wanted to see me within the 1st 5 mins!
stupid me did!
I was seduced into a booty call at my own place!
she was atractive and stupid me bought the phoney charm & promises!
My heart was broken & I cried like the sensitive man I am for now 3 months!
I still ain't completely over it!
Take your time is my suggestion!
Don't buy what I fell for!
I feel like a piece of meat that was on sale!tears


You fell for it? Right into bed with her, huh?

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