No!

Distance CANNOT kill love.

Neither can time.

...real love lasts.

It ain't easy and it ain't for the faint of heart.

It hurts but feels sooooo right.

It is feeling lonely when you hang up....but that is better than feeling lonely sleeping in the same bed with someone who just doesn't care anymore.

Being close is no guarantee.....



If you ain't willing to suffer and endure for what you desire....then you want convenience....

Been there.

I am guessing some people can handle LDRs and some people can't.
I would guess the majority of people can't though.
However I do believe if it is true love ,the people involved would try to be together as much as possible and maybe even one of them would move.

Too much distance or too little?
Physical distance or emotional distance?
Loaded question...

Hehe....she said "loaded"

I guess that's another variable!

Physical or emotional variable?

I'm not sure if distance can kill love, but most of us need some sort of physical contact (even if a hug) in a relationship. Not being there in person can create all kinds of issues.


Personally I need a person to be living close to me for me to want to start a relationship, otherwise it's kind of a joke. I don't live in dreamy dreamy land so I can't imagine falling for somebody far away, but I know that many others on dating sites can. I'm too much of a realist. I don't believe that people can be so rarely wonderful that I would'nt be able to find one nearby.

I am going to say yes and no.

Truth is, you can love somebody, but have distance create or highlight certain problems.

For instance: How many soldiers have gone overseas for an extended time, only to have a spouse leave them? Truth is, that spouse probably misses the soldier tons, but spends everyday worrying whether they will come home in a body bag. Some people cannot handle that kind of strain.

I knew the wife of one soldier who became all messed up on booze and drugs. He left her because she had changed so much in his absence. He tried to work through it, but she was too far gone to get the message. (I know....I was there for some of this.)

So, distance can create worry, anxiety, paranoia...

It can also cause a relationship break down faster. Everyone has quirks, and sometimes those quirks become more pronounced over distance. Vice versa, those quirks may come under greater scrutiny. The lack of intimacy allows for something to be lost in translation over long distance communication. A false interpretation or a slight miscommunication can plant the seed of doubt. Over time (weeks, maybe months) the seed blossoms into a lack of trust. A breakdown in trust is the best way to kill a long distance relationship.

The question now becomes, would these relationships have lasted if distance wasn't an issue? In this day and age, it's hard to tell. Seemingly good relationships turn bad for odd reasons. I'm sure some of these relationships would last without distance, but I highly doubt all of them would.

Now, if two people seriously love each other enough, they can overcome the problems of distance. It takes work. Some of that work is just maintaining a level of trust. Some of it comes from being sympathetic to your partner. And I'm not just talking about communication. I mean how you go about your daily life. The memory of your partner can be used to give you strength against adversity, to help you move one step closer to being united while still being the person they fell in love with. When both are strong enough to keep the relationship together despite distance, then distance cannot kill love.

So to distill it down to the essence: people kill love, not distance. Though I'm sure there are a few who could debate this reasonably well. Some might call it a "Chicken vs. the Egg" scenario.

Methinks anything can Kill Love

If you let "It" kill it.

Damn I have always lived in Dreamy Dreamy land, probably how i ended up thinking this can work..

But I love him so it doesnt matter, and he is so rarely wonderful that i know i wont be able to find anyone like him anywhere.

Methinks you are right

True, Luis. But also, sometimes people learn an important lesson too. That lesson can allow the same love to blossom again. You can't force it to, but you have to keep faith. When you see it re-kindling, you have to be willing to fight for it like you will never have another chance.

At least, that is what happened to me. I am very glad I learned what I did. I am very glad I was given a second chance. And I am very glad I fought for it, just as I will need to continuing doing from here on.

Josie, you sound like someone else I know (at least she is in private). And now I feel the same way about her.

It's a great feeling, isn't it?

I hear what you are saying. I am not against LDR. I havent really had one ever though, so i really am not a good candidate. But based on what you have said, i do understand how people are able to make it last, even now with the all the military families. I suppose one party would have to eventually move to the other party to make it last.

Yes, but on the flip-side of this coin. Yes, you can't force it & if one has done something that completely shatters the trust then it may be better to just let the love die & move on. That's where I am at at least.

Good luck action!

I have faith and love has no boundries

I like this answer,,the best,,as it states truth,,and simplicity,,both in its self...although when I first read it,,I thought it read,,I HAVE FAITH, THAT LOVE HAS NO BOUNDARIES..
So its still cool,,,,lol


IF two people really BOTH feel love for their other,,NOTHING IS TO GREAT TO KEEP THEM APART,,To LOSE their Love,,To wait, As Long as their entire lives,

BUT,,what are we calling, their love on,,one date and 6 months of chat?

I have had a lady tell me in three weeks of just emailing each other a little,,that she loved me...so

I GUESS the point I am trying to make or say,,,is MANY FEEL THEY LOVE EACH OTHER,,,deeply,,,but THEN,,one finds out,,they DON'T have THAT really inside their heart,,,and so they split up..



IF you feel a love so deep for your other,,that YOU would,,and could die for them,,,,THEN,,,you have THAT love which will NEVER BREAK,,maybe tare,,,maybe a small crack,,BUT ITS REPAIRED QUICKLY,,and THATS LOVE,,,,

FEW now days,,have this DEEP of a love for each other,,,because AS THEY DO have love for each other inside them,,,its just NOT the kind that if LOST,,,they become shattered,,,,,and might never regain themselves? THATS a real deep LOve..

NO ONE wants to GIVE everything they have inside ,,JUST for love,,so they RESEAVE THAT DEEP,,,because they really fear that hurt if they lost it...So they LOVE,,,but,,its a weaker,,all around love,,
TO me through my seeing others and talking with many here,,plus
My on trails, with love,,

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