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I'm gonna rant off here a bit. This is not aimed at anyone particular it's not about any of you who knows me somewhat already but others
'one hit wonders" - what I mean with that I'm gonna explain right now. So I log on...and I find a nudge..so I nudge back, everything is fine. Then I get an email usually saying - Hey, how are you? So I reply I'm great thank you...and you? Nothing more. Sometimes I add something like "I'm great, thanks for looking me up, how is your evening? "...or similar. Then a big frickin' silence. So ok...I think she might logged off or something, got busy etc..so I wait...1 day later I write her again.. "Hi!"....no reply. Then I see her being logged on a few times already ever since..so it's not that she hasn't come back yet. Some of the friends here can attest that I'm nice and never say anything completely stupid..I try to be funny and nice, so no excuses that I might be a 'perv' or someone who should be avoided at all costs. My question is....Why do you email guys if you don't plan to respond? Imagine the reverse scenario.. - You're standing in a bar with other friends..and I walk up to you and say "Hi! How are you?" Then you say "I'm fine thanks, and you?" And instead of responding to you , I turn around and walk away. You would probably look at your friends and say "What an idiot". Am I right? Now, imagine this done to you not once but 3-4 times. How would that make you feel? Not returning nudges is one thing, and I can understand when someone doesn't respond, because they logged off suddenly or their computer went bad etc....but look When you email someone, that person thinks that you are interested. Interested for talking or getting to know each other, somehow you want a conversation or at least an email back or friendship whatever. So any of you ladies...explain to me what's going on? |
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Edited by
GG2
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Thu 03/26/09 12:03 PM
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Don't take it personally. You're very attractive. Sometimes we gals just like to window shop, and maybe some cut it short to show that they don't wish for it to go any further.
I'm not crazy about the 'nudge' thing, if you're interested in someone just come out and say it. |
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I have no idea......I avoid the "Hi, how are you emails"
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Sorry, I got nuthin. I've had this happen to me and I'm a woman.
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Edited by
2KidsMom
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Thu 03/26/09 12:03 PM
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Dude...Wow....
I cannot even begin to explain this. You know why?..Because it has happened to me too- but from the guy's. I'll watch this..because, I would like a answer also. |
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Hi Gypsy, how AREN'T you, today?
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Edited by
AZAR09
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Thu 03/26/09 12:05 PM
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I'm gonna rant off here a bit. This is not aimed at anyone particular it's not about any of you who knows me somewhat already but others 'one hit wonders" - what I mean with that I'm gonna explain right now. So I log on...and I find a nudge..so I nudge back, everything is fine. Then I get an email usually saying - Hey, how are you? So I reply I'm great thank you...and you? Nothing more. Sometimes I add something like "I'm great, thanks for looking me up, how is your evening? "...or similar. Welcome to my world........  Then a big frickin' silence. So ok...I think she might logged off or something, got busy etc..so I wait...1 day later I write her again.. "Hi!"....no reply. Then I see her being logged on a few times already ever since..so it's not that she hasn't come back yet. Some of the friends here can attest that I'm nice and never say anything completely stupid..I try to be funny and nice, so no excuses that I might be a 'perv' or someone who should be avoided at all costs. My question is....Why do you email guys if you don't plan to respond? Imagine the reverse scenario.. - You're standing in a bar with other friends..and I walk up to you and say "Hi! How are you?" Then you say "I'm fine thanks, and you?" And instead of responding to you , I turn around and walk away. You would probably look at your friends and say "What an idiot". Am I right? Now, imagine this done to you not once but 3-4 times. How would that make you feel? Not returning nudges is one thing, and I can understand when someone doesn't respond, because they logged off suddenly or their computer went bad etc....but look When you email someone, that person thinks that you are interested. Interested for talking or getting to know each other, somehow you want a conversation or at least an email back or friendship whatever. So any of you ladies...explain to me what's going on? Welcome to my world.......
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im not hatin on you,
 but it is what it is, Next 
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Edited by
GG2
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Thu 03/26/09 12:11 PM
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I like this site alot, that's why I keep my account open. It's like being at a fun party except we can't be in the same room. Everyone can be shy at one point or another. Some may feel frightened at the prospect of on-line chat moving into the 'real world'. Some may figure "Nothing's gonna come of this so why bother replying?" Some may just be too lazy to reply.
 On the same hand there is such a thing called "net-iquette". |
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I like this site alot, that's why I keep my account open. It's like being at a fun party except we can't be in the same room. Everyone can be shy at one point or another. Some may feel frightened at the prospect of on-line chat moving into the 'real world'. Some may figure "Nothing's gonna come of this so why bother replying?" Some may just be too lazy to reply. So you're saying there might be something, that some kinda wake up after sending the mail, that "Ohh sh.t..I emailed someone and now it's suddenly becomes more real and I don't even know what I'm doing or what I'm gonna say so better off just stop this before it becomes more"... |
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It's not a woman thing. Men do the same thing. I'm sure it happens to many people as well.
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Maybe she was murdered by an ax murderer right after the 3rd email?
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Is the man period over???
 
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Men often do the same thing. Stupid little "hi" or "how are you" emails. Too many crickets.
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It's not a woman thing. Men do the same thing. I'm sure it happens to many people as well. Sorry, I can only talk from one point of view, don't know what the guys doing so good if it goes for both sides. |
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Can't speak for anyone else, since I have no idea what's going on (or not going on, as the case may be) in their head. It could be that they had no idea what else to say, and were hoping that you'd carry the conversation. Or, they might have been in shock that you replied, and didn't know what to do afterwards. Or, they're just conversationally challenged and would prefer to carry on a relationship made up entirely of nudges and winks?
I've had things like that happen, where they either say "yes" to mutual match or nudge me. So, I'll say hello in a message, and open with a few things to start the convo rolling, only to get no response or a one line message. *shrug* I've gotten to the point now where I will still reply, because even if there isn't a match, I am always open to new friends and good convo - if they don't reply back, I just delete and move on. |
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I would reply to all of your emails
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maybe they dont know what else to say???
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I would reply to all of your emails I know you do hon.. ... Men often do the same thing. Stupid little "hi" or "how are you" emails. Too many crickets. Right....would others like to get a first email from a stranger, by having him writing his entire biography in it or a list of deeds I have done or perhaps a summary of last night's Millenium episode? |
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atlantis.... look... i didn't respond because you were stalking me. you know that.
i can't handle that. you want to have my love children. i can't deal. you want to make me your bare foot and pregnant house keeper. its not my style. so i'm sorry. but no. okay seriously. some people message... A THOUSAND GUYS!!! (or girls) and then pick and choose who responds. get it? i know its a crappy thing to do but i also know its a reality and it happens. do you know how many times guys have messaged me and THEN took a look at the rest of my pix? LOL trust me. you're not the only one.. its just a fact of online dating. you pansy. |
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