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Topic: Mingle etiquette
Tootsweet13's photo
Wed 05/20/09 04:57 PM
If someone emails you and expresses interest in you, and you do not share that interest, do you think it's nicer to send a reply email and nicely tell them that or is it better just not to respond?

I have seen several male profiles saying that they think it is rude for someone not to respond to an email they have sent. But if it were me, I think I'd rather get NO response than a rejection.

What's the proper etiquette in this situation?

Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 05/20/09 04:58 PM
you could always pull the lesbian card surprised surprised

MeChrissy2's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:00 PM
Not sure if there is ettiquette but I think a response saying thanks for the interest but I'm just here for friendship is courteous.

FindMe1113's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:02 PM

If someone emails you and expresses interest in you, and you do not share that interest, do you think it's nicer to send a reply email and nicely tell them that or is it better just not to respond?

I have seen several male profiles saying that they think it is rude for someone not to respond to an email they have sent. But if it were me, I think I'd rather get NO response than a rejection.

What's the proper etiquette in this situation?


If you send a response email of non-interest, they feel insulted. So therefore I don't respond at all, that way feelings don't get hurt and they DO get the message loud and clearglasses

Jess642's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:03 PM
I was out the back smoking when etiquette101 was happening.



I do as I wish, and am comfortable with others doing as they wish... do I respond to ALL mail? nope.

Do I HAVE to? Nope.

DO I want to? You can't make me if I dont wanna!


:wink: laugh

chickayoshi's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:10 PM
It's based on how the person writes the message. If it's a nice message where they show interest, then I'll reply with a nice rejection. But if it's a message where the person is disrespectfully trying to get with me, then I wouldn't send a message.

Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:11 PM
sometimes sayin nothing is sayin everythin


:banana: :banana: :banana: :banana: :banana:



Jess642's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:13 PM

sometimes sayin nothing is sayin everythin


:banana: :banana: :banana: :banana: :banana:






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bigsmile

amouseinmask's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:13 PM
personally I think someone should atleast tell you.

ArtGurl's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:17 PM
It is a personal choice.

For me, it feels rude not to reply. They are the same human being whether behind a keyboard or in line behind me at the grocery store. I respond the same way.



Jess642's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:18 PM

It is a personal choice.

For me, it feels rude not to reply. They are the same human being whether behind a keyboard or in line behind me at the grocery store. I respond the same way.





(she doesn't smoke) :wink: tongue2

cityblues21's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:22 PM
I have replied, and not replied. The ones who I have replied to mostly seem to be a bit rude about it. However, if anyone would ever choose to read one's profile... maybe a lot of their confusion would have been avoided in the first place. ohwell

7z3r05's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:23 PM
rule #1

know thy audience

TxsGal3333's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:29 PM

Not sure if there is ettiquette but I think a response saying thanks for the interest but I'm just here for friendship is courteous.


Ditto I always respond to e-mail regardless what it is and yes have even told a few thanks but think we would be better as friends only.

I just think it is out of respect to answer someone. I mean if someone was standing before you and asked a question would you not think it was rude to just ignore them and turn your back and walk away.

So what if it is the internet does that mean our values go out the door because we can hide behind our computer? JMObigsmile

TxsSun's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:29 PM
I always respond whether my response is positive or negative.

Who knows, you could make a really good friend.


Riding_Dubz's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:30 PM

Ditto I always respond to e-mail


last time i showed intrested you didn't hit me back tears tears

ArtGurl's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:31 PM


It is a personal choice.

For me, it feels rude not to reply. They are the same human being whether behind a keyboard or in line behind me at the grocery store. I respond the same way.





(she doesn't smoke) :wink: tongue2



no but I eat Rolo's like they are going out of style bigsmile :tongue: laugh

msmyka's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:32 PM
That all depends on the email they send you. I specifically outline in my profile the kind of emails I will NOT respond too. That way I do not feel guilty if I do not respond to some guys gibberish and/or sexually derogatory email.

Tootsweet13's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:32 PM


Not sure if there is ettiquette but I think a response saying thanks for the interest but I'm just here for friendship is courteous.


Ditto I always respond to e-mail regardless what it is and yes have even told a few thanks but think we would be better as friends only.

I just think it is out of respect to answer someone. I mean if someone was standing before you and asked a question would you not think it was rude to just ignore them and turn your back and walk away.

So what it is the internet does that mean our values go out the door because we can hide behind our computer? JMObigsmile


Well, it's not really about losing our values. I think it's more a question about what would the consensus prefer? As I said, I tried to think about how I would feel in that situation, and I would prefer to get NO reply, rather than have someone actually tell me they are not interested. So it's good to hear what others would prefer, because my preference is apparently not the norm.

msmyka's photo
Wed 05/20/09 05:35 PM
Me personally, I could care less if someone doesn't respond to my email. Some people really take offense. To those people I say, calm down!

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