Topic: Mingle etiquette
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Wed 05/20/09 05:37 PM



Not sure if there is ettiquette but I think a response saying thanks for the interest but I'm just here for friendship is courteous.


Ditto I always respond to e-mail regardless what it is and yes have even told a few thanks but think we would be better as friends only.

I just think it is out of respect to answer someone. I mean if someone was standing before you and asked a question would you not think it was rude to just ignore them and turn your back and walk away.

So what it is the internet does that mean our values go out the door because we can hide behind our computer? JMObigsmile


Well, it's not really about losing our values. I think it's more a question about what would the consensus prefer? As I said, I tried to think about how I would feel in that situation, and I would prefer to get NO reply, rather than have someone actually tell me they are not interested. So it's good to hear what others would prefer, because my preference is apparently not the norm.


Judging from the number of threads regarding this topic, I would say the consensus would prefer a reply. Unless someone is being a complete azz, I think they deserve a response.

Not sure how being yourself translates into the perceived right to be rude and blow people off. We can all come up with a respectful reply, even if we have to lie.

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Wed 05/20/09 05:43 PM

Not sure how being yourself translates into the perceived right to be rude and blow people off. We can all come up with a respectful reply, even if we have to lie.


Wait, I'm confused...was this part directed to me?

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Wed 05/20/09 05:45 PM


Not sure how being yourself translates into the perceived right to be rude and blow people off. We can all come up with a respectful reply, even if we have to lie.


Wait, I'm confused...was this part directed to me?


Nope. flowerforyou

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Wed 05/20/09 05:46 PM



Not sure how being yourself translates into the perceived right to be rude and blow people off. We can all come up with a respectful reply, even if we have to lie.


Wait, I'm confused...was this part directed to me?


Nope. flowerforyou


Ok, whew! I would hate to think that anyone thought that I didn't care about hurting someone's feelings.

I did take everyone's advice and sent a few replies out! Thanks!

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Wed 05/20/09 05:48 PM




Not sure how being yourself translates into the perceived right to be rude and blow people off. We can all come up with a respectful reply, even if we have to lie.


Wait, I'm confused...was this part directed to me?


Nope. flowerforyou


Ok, whew! I would hate to think that anyone thought that I didn't care about hurting someone's feelings.

I did take everyone's advice and sent a few replies out! Thanks!


I'm sorry, it was my error. I was making a reply to the thread as a whole, and perhaps should have made my post separately. Sorry for the confusion.

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Wed 05/20/09 05:49 PM

That all depends on the email they send you. I specifically outline in my profile the kind of emails I will NOT respond too. That way I do not feel guilty if I do not respond to some guys gibberish and/or sexually derogatory email.


:thumbsup:

Happens to me a lotwhoa

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Wed 05/20/09 05:49 PM
I dunno....replies are nice, but I'm sort of with what other people said. I got a few rude replies lately after responding nicely.

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Wed 05/20/09 05:52 PM


That all depends on the email they send you. I specifically outline in my profile the kind of emails I will NOT respond too. That way I do not feel guilty if I do not respond to some guys gibberish and/or sexually derogatory email.


:thumbsup:

Happens to me a lotwhoa


Then there is this email I just received:

"you sleep with married guys on the side"

Poor grammar and punctuation aside, based on content, I am gonna choose not to answer this one! laugh

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Wed 05/20/09 06:19 PM
I personally prefer no response ( which I am use to) it's a sure way of letting someone know your just not interested.

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Wed 05/20/09 06:22 PM
I would always answer Pats blushing

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Wed 05/20/09 06:23 PM
this is the circular complaint.

every couple of weeks someone posts in here about this

at first i cared... yes you should send a polite response.

but now.. after seeing soo many people whine about it..

no.

no i dont.

and i dont care.

get over it.

welcome to the internet.

:P thanks!

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Wed 05/20/09 06:24 PM

I would always answer Pats blushing



flowerforyou

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Wed 05/20/09 06:25 PM
Ditto, Pats. If the chick don't call back after you leave a message, she ain't interested.

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Wed 05/20/09 06:26 PM

Not sure if there is ettiquette but I think a response saying thanks for the interest but I'm just here for friendship is courteous.


Unless, of course, your profile says " Interested in Dating or Long term Relationship ".

Then you'd just be lying to the guy which is even worse than being rude.

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Wed 05/20/09 07:18 PM
Edited by beautyonthefire on Wed 05/20/09 07:21 PM
If I am approached by someone in person out of the blue I am always nice (if they are) but politely say i'm taken rather than say "I'm not that into you". That is more difficult to say on a dating site. I guess I should work on that cause i agree it isn't fun to be the person not getting the response.

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Wed 05/20/09 07:20 PM
thanks but no thanks. laugh


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Wed 05/20/09 07:22 PM
bigsmile

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Wed 05/20/09 07:23 PM

If someone emails you and expresses interest in you, and you do not share that interest, do you think it's nicer to send a reply email and nicely tell them that or is it better just not to respond?

I have seen several male profiles saying that they think it is rude for someone not to respond to an email they have sent. But if it were me, I think I'd rather get NO response than a rejection.

What's the proper etiquette in this situation?


I used to answer every email, even the not so polite ones but I've learned it's easier for me not to answer if I'm not interested. They seem to like it better too. I've gotten a few rude emails when I've sent polite rejections.

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Wed 05/20/09 07:57 PM
Edited by msmyka on Wed 05/20/09 07:57 PM



That all depends on the email they send you. I specifically outline in my profile the kind of emails I will NOT respond too. That way I do not feel guilty if I do not respond to some guys gibberish and/or sexually derogatory email.


:thumbsup:

Happens to me a lotwhoa


Then there is this email I just received:

"you sleep with married guys on the side"

Poor grammar and punctuation aside, based on content, I am gonna choose not to answer this one! laugh


Thats what I'm talkin about. :thumbsup:

edit: Actually I might respond to that one to let him know he's a jackass.

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Wed 05/20/09 09:28 PM
I tell them thanks for the msg and good luck in their search.

What happened to the menopause thread? There's a bad blow-job thread but the menopause thread, where questions were being asked, was deleted?? What's wrong with this picture? noway spock