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Ok so I met this guy on another unnamed site. A localish guy even. He is totally handsome, beautiful smile, witty, just dreamy.
 He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. He wanted ME to go out on a date, and I blew my chances.He gave me his number and I never called him. I am not a rich girl, he is successful, I felt like the girl in pretty in pink when she was embarrassed about where she lives.  I have done this too many times, and I cant stop myself. How can I regain confidence when my home life isnt all that great?  I do not want a man to rescue me, Im content in the life I have now. I work hard and have my bills paid on time each month.I just dont want anyone to think Im a loser. Help me get over my fear of being poor and letting someone know.  I may regret this thread tomorrow. 
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just be who you are, and if he can't expect everything that intails than he's not worth it anyway. Be proud of what you do have, it doesn't matter how much money or "stuff" you have it's about WHO you are inside and what you have to offer somebody, nothing to do with money.
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Honey dont tyr to be anybody that your not... be yourself and if a man cant accpt you for that and theres no sense in trying to please him Relax and say what you feel in your heart and I am sure your friendship will blossom
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Ok so I met this guy on another unnamed site. A localish guy even. He is totally handsome, beautiful smile, witty, just dreamy. He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. He wanted ME to go out on a date, and I blew my chances.He gave me his number and I never called him. I am not a rich girl, he is successful, I felt like the girl in pretty in pink when she was embarrassed about where she lives. I have done this too many times, and I cant stop myself. How can I regain confidence when my home life isnt all that great? I do not want a man to rescue me, Im content in the life I have now. I work hard and have my bills paid on time each month.I just dont want anyone to think Im a loser. Help me get over my fear of being poor and letting someone know. I may regret this thread tomorrow. Basically put, you've been thinking too much. You've essentially taken part in the age-old practice of "thinking twice", and it might have cost you. Instead of just giving the fella a chance to see if he's even someone you'd consider for a relationship, you got caught up in a whirlwind of secondary (and even tertiary) nonsense that has resulted in your losing your chance. In the end, it's not about how much money someone makes, or the kind of vehicle they drive, or whether or not they have tattoos on them. It's about the interpersonal connections that may come up between two people. Unfortunately, too many people out there don't seem to know or even care to know this fact. |
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he must have seen someone worth getting to know better if he asked for a date :) so dont be ashamed of where you live or what your in come is! you are a beautiful person and thats what he sees and if after meeting him he doesnt feel the same that that is his loss
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Don't let your "haves" and "have nots" run how you make your life decisions. I don't have a pot to pee in. I live with my mom rent free. I work a part time job that barely gives me enough money for gas to go back and forth to work. But you know what. I love myself and I want to find someone out there to live happiness with me. It is all about what you want in your heart to give and what you are willing to accept. All the worldly things don't mean crap if you don't love them together. Sorry-I got deep there for a moment....not my usual self.
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Kitten I think this holds true for alot of us. I don't live in the best of places and sometimes I tend to do the same thing you've done. But at the same time I feel that if someone cannot accept me for me then they are not worth my time. I work a full time job, raise my son on my own, and go to school so I'm definitely not a slacker. I think we tend to think that men are going to think we are looking for a hand out or to be saved which is no not the case. I believe that men are leary of women now days thanks to money grubbing women looking for a free ride and we know this and pay the price.
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Ok so I met this guy on another unnamed site. A localish guy even. He is totally handsome, beautiful smile, witty, just dreamy. He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. He wanted ME to go out on a date, and I blew my chances.He gave me his number and I never called him. I am not a rich girl, he is successful, I felt like the girl in pretty in pink when she was embarrassed about where she lives. I have done this too many times, and I cant stop myself. How can I regain confidence when my home life isnt all that great? I do not want a man to rescue me, Im content in the life I have now. I work hard and have my bills paid on time each month.I just dont want anyone to think Im a loser. Help me get over my fear of being poor and letting someone know. I may regret this thread tomorrow.
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Basically put, you've been thinking too much. You've essentially taken part in the age-old practice of "thinking twice", and it might have cost you. Instead of just giving the fella a chance to see if he's even someone you'd consider for a relationship, you got caught up in a whirlwind of secondary (and even tertiary) nonsense that has resulted in your losing your chance. In the end, it's not about how much money someone makes, or the kind of vehicle they drive, or whether or not they have tattoos on them. It's about the interpersonal connections that may come up between two people. Unfortunately, too many people out there don't seem to know or even care to know this fact. exactly..well put.. |
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My best friend that passed a while ago taught me
it aian't about what ya got (physically) it's about if your happy ... he was the brokest guy in the world as long as he woke up with 2 dollars and a half a pack of cigrettes in his pocket he was happiest guy in the world and he made everyone else around him happy  |
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Edited by
johncarl
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Wed 07/29/09 08:22 PM
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My best friend that passed a while ago taught me it aian't about what ya got (physically) it's about if your happy ... he was the brokest guy in the world as long as he woke up with 2 dollars and a half a pack of cigrettes in his pocket he was happiest guy in the world and he made everyone else around him happy |
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nobody has screwed up more than i have
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As other's said, be proud of who you are. It doesn't matter where you live, how much money you make, etc. You are a good person, and, also said, he must have seen "you", and was interested. Anyone you look at is going to look, seem, be treated like or told, that they are not "good enough", the ones that feel like that or say that...are the real losers, because while they are so busy turning away from the "suitable" things and people, they aren't going to find true beauty or happiness, and that's their loss. Don't let the things you have or don't have, or any other temporary things define you, let your inner beauty shine through to compliment your outer beauty, intelligence, humor, and passions guide you to where your heart wants to go to make you happy.
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I dont think there is any way for me to respond to each and every one of you. But this is why I love this site. You are all so amazing. Thank you for all the words above me. I tend to forget a lot of things about life, and I guess we all need a reminder sometimes. Everyone around me is so materialistic, I guess thats why I feel the way I do.
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Ok so I met this guy on another unnamed site. A localish guy even. He is totally handsome, beautiful smile, witty, just dreamy. He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. He wanted ME to go out on a date, and I blew my chances.He gave me his number and I never called him. I am not a rich girl, he is successful, I felt like the girl in pretty in pink when she was embarrassed about where she lives. I have done this too many times, and I cant stop myself. How can I regain confidence when my home life isnt all that great? I do not want a man to rescue me, Im content in the life I have now. I work hard and have my bills paid on time each month.I just dont want anyone to think Im a loser. Help me get over my fear of being poor and letting someone know. I may regret this thread tomorrow. Two ways here; one, you get rich really quickly then you are no longer poor...or two, you deal with the fact that you may never be rich (a lot like most people) and find the simple inbetween. What makes you most happy? I imagine your daughter, I assume as much anyway. Does she care that you might not make as much money as Paris "Dumbass" Hilton? |
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Don't beat yourself...we are always our worst critics, maybe he just likes you for who you are...
If you want a kinder world, behave with kindness. If you want a peaceful world, make peace WITHIN YOURSELF. Your suffering serves no one, So let go of expectations and Liberate your Life. Only from your freedom can you free others.
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i suck at giving advice so ill just say hope it all ends well for ya
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I dont think there is any way for me to respond to each and every one of you. But this is why I love this site. You are all so amazing. Thank you for all the words above me. I tend to forget a lot of things about life, and I guess we all need a reminder sometimes. Everyone around me is so materialistic, I guess thats why I feel the way I do. |
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Edited by
Atlantis75
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Wed 07/29/09 08:51 PM
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He is like the opposite of me, in every sense. No tattoos, just your every day guy. He seems so out of my league. Opposite of you doesn't mean he is not compatible or not for you. You know what? Most people are not looking for someone who is exactly like them but quite the contrary. Take me for example, I had g/fs who were just like me and after a while we couldn't stand each other for more than a few days together. While I had g/f completely opposite of me and I just loved how I felt like she filled in a role to counter me and my ways ..a different personality, a different way of thinking and yet we loved each other. As we are opposite of sex, it's also good to have an opposite way of seeing things and yet the 2 makes a perfect combination of making sense. This guy might have been looking for what he isn't and already accepted you as you are.
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