ok so i have been talking to this guy for a month. and a couple of weeks
ago when we were talking he was said,"i consider you my gf and when
girls try to hit on my i tell them im taken." so when he said that i
believed him...now im not so sure. i just recently found out he was
talking to some girl on myspace and told her he doesn't have a gf. so i
confronted him about it and he said it was nothing and i should he is
only into me and noone else. but now i kinda find it hard to
believe...he tells me one thing and tells someone else something
different. i dont want to get hurt again. so what should i do?

depends...how hung up on this guy are ya'? If you like him alot...pay
attention and keep your guard up. These sites are notorious for that
kind of thing! Don't get hurt, dreamer...

Dreamer, You should find out for sure. You shouldn't waste your time
with people that play those kinds of Games...

Take it from someone that has been hurt waaay to many times. Life is to
short for that and There is Someone out there Just For You!!

Sometimes they are Right under your nose...

I'll keep you in my prayers...

The dude is fronting on you------men like to mess around like that.

Are you sure he told the girl that on myspace. I have a by and he talks
to other girls and I talk to other guys, and I have had a few tell me he
said this that or the other and he says differently, I believe him.
When we are not online talking, we are on the phone talking, when he
goes out with his friends he is always talking to me either by phone or
text. I think you should go with your gut. If you dont feel you can
trust him to the fullest, then dont enter into a relationship with him,
all relationships should be based on trust.

Well if he truely wants a relationship with you and considers you his
g/f then that's what he should be telling others...It seems he is not as
serious as he lets on!!!!!!!!

When words and actions don't match up...You have a problem!!!!!!

Good Luck!!!!!!

follow your heart and be true to yourself.....and that gut feeling that
you and every other woman was given ....use it, trust it, and listen to
it......it was given to us because not all men tell the truth and GOD
knew we would need something to guide us and help us along the way!!!!
thats no sh*t!!!! god luck hun....this to shall pass!!!!!

tonya

thanx guys for the advice. angelintraining he actually told me that he
did talk to her and said he didn't have a gf. his exact words "we havent
hooked up".

Time to move on then Dreamer... It will be easier to do it now...

I guess the first question you need to ask yourself is how do you really
feel about this guy? Do you really know him and can you really trust
him? You really have to listen to what your feeling and if you get the
feeling that you are being played, then you have to make that decision
on if you should stay or go.
I know that its not just men who play games. Its a shame that people
can't grow up and realize that other people get hurt by their actions.
Good luck on what you decide, just don't dwell on things! There are way
to many men out there to let ONE hurt you!!

dreamer....tell me how that made you feel??? then tell me if you want
to feel that way again....you see where im going with this dont you????

your better than that....dont let any man do that to you!!!!!

tonya

you guys are all right. i mean me i told people i had a bf because to me
relationships aren't just games...some people think differently. that
would be like me talking to others and whatnot. he is "supposed" to call
me tonight and talk about. so i guess we'll see what happens.

I said it and know it to be true. You never know anybody until you
spend time with them in the real word.

In maters of the heart you got to know them before you believe them.

I sometimes wonder...do we really know someone after we spend time with
them in the "real" world??? I have found it to be that you can be with
someone and not even realize whats going on with them. Honestly, I don't
know IF you really ever know anyone...they have to LET you know
them

One word......dust.

You start dictating terms, he starts dictating terms....what a tangled
mess it becomes...all the talk in the world is just that...

If you are unsettled with the differences...move on....doesn't sound
like a good match...different terminologies, and splitting hairs
already...

Never compromise your integrity.

I agree unsure...You know as much as they want you to or will let
you...Fortunately there are some that aren't afraid to open up and show
you who they are and don't need to play games!!!!!!!

Unsure I agree with you, one may never know a person but you absolutly
will never know a person just by talking to them on the internet.

Jesse you hit the nail right on the head, hon, take it from an old man,
it sounds to me like he is playing the field, get out before this man
hurts you, but only you can make that decision, follow your heart, and
your intuition,

Babe you need to realize that to find a lover you must first find a true
friend, and to do that ya gotta be a friend. Lovers are close friends
who have gone to the next step , Take your time and don't fall for the
first thing that comes along. Friends and lovers take time and you
cannot hurry this process ever!

NO TRUST
NO RELATIONSHIP