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I just realized my life long dream of living near the sea, so for me, no.
I often wonder though, how in a long distance relationship, do you get to know one another well enough to even get as far as talking about it? Unless there is enough money that frequent travel is doable...I would not give up my job/home/family or any one of them to move or let a man move here unless I wholeheartedly believed this was the next and last love in my life. How can you know that after a few trips spread over a significance amount of time. Just something I think about, probably because of this site....I believe in 'chat globally, date locally'. |
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Would you.....  Give up being close to family & friends. Leave your job.... All, for a long distance relationship. Yes in a NY second I would.
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I just realized my life long dream of living near the sea, so for me, no. I often wonder though, how in a long distance relationship, do you get to know one another well enough to even get as far as talking about it? Unless there is enough money that frequent travel is doable...I would not give up my job/home/family or any one of them to move or let a man move here unless I wholeheartedly believed this was the next and last love in my life. How can you know that after a few trips spread over a significance amount of time. Just something I think about, probably because of this site....I believe in 'chat globally, date locally'. I don't know how you can ever know if someone is your next and last love in life. Nothing is guaranteed. Unfortunately. |
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I hate where I live, so yes, yes I would.
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Would you..... Give up being close to family & friends. Leave your job.... All, for a long distance relationship. In my experience, a long distance relationship is worth slightly less than a empty Pop-Tarts box. As I have no family or friends, that really wouldn't be much of a sacrifice, either; but I would never attempt another long distance relationship regardless. |
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Would you..... Give up being close to family & friends. Leave your job.... All, for a long distance relationship. In my experience, a long distance relationship is worth slightly less than a empty Pop-Tarts box. As I have no family or friends, that really wouldn't be much of a sacrifice, either; but I would never attempt another long distance relationship regardless. Thanks for mentioning PopTarts, now I'm hungry.... |
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I just realized my life long dream of living near the sea, so for me, no. I often wonder though, how in a long distance relationship, do you get to know one another well enough to even get as far as talking about it? Unless there is enough money that frequent travel is doable...I would not give up my job/home/family or any one of them to move or let a man move here unless I wholeheartedly believed this was the next and last love in my life. How can you know that after a few trips spread over a significance amount of time. Just something I think about, probably because of this site....I believe in 'chat globally, date locally'. I don't know how you can ever know if someone is your next and last love in life. Nothing is guaranteed. Unfortunately. Oh I know there are no guarantees in this life, I guess I meant if we were as sure as it is possible to be... |
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I just realized my life long dream of living near the sea, so for me, no. I often wonder though, how in a long distance relationship, do you get to know one another well enough to even get as far as talking about it? Unless there is enough money that frequent travel is doable...I would not give up my job/home/family or any one of them to move or let a man move here unless I wholeheartedly believed this was the next and last love in my life. How can you know that after a few trips spread over a significance amount of time. Just something I think about, probably because of this site....I believe in 'chat globally, date locally'. I don't know how you can ever know if someone is your next and last love in life. Nothing is guaranteed. Unfortunately. Oh I know there are no guarantees in this life, I guess I meant if we were as sure as it is possible to be... 
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She would have to have a killer RV, a boat, and NASCAR Season passes.
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Yes I would, if both was on same page, and was a progressive relationship.BUT!! I would expect the same from my partner.The point being which move is in the best intrest for both.You have to weigh out both sides.This is not just a one sided desision.One does have to look for a job that moves..so a lot of research has to be one who's more flexable?Who rent who owns...there is so much that has to be done,before you make that move. I agree. I have done it several times. Although I dont think you have to give up emotional closeness with the family just because you move. We are meant to grow up and move on to lives of our own, but it never should change the relationship of love and respect between biological family. |
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i don't look at it as giving anything up...however he wld have to prove that he really loves me before i make a move
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Yes I would, if both was on same page, and was a progressive relationship.BUT!! I would expect the same from my partner.The point being which move is in the best intrest for both.You have to weigh out both sides.This is not just a one sided desision.One does have to look for a job that moves..so a lot of research has to be one who's more flexable?Who rent who owns...there is so much that has to be done,before you make that move. I totally agree with this.. Ditto! 
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Would you..... Give up being close to family & friends. Leave your job.... All, for a long distance relationship. i never thought i could til i was in an LDR....yes |
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No.
Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working. If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on. How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that? |
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No. Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working. If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on. How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that? I'd love it. |
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No. Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working. If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on. How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that? I think for me the idea of a LDR has to move at a slow speed and well communication is a must. I dont' think moving from place to be with someone without living in the same town to adjust shouldn't be done I think it is vital. I just know for me I could do it and I have done it. He was a wonderful man we just couldn't agree on core things that wouldnt' have mattered if he lived next door. I think to limit oneself is scary you never know who is waiting there for you. I say take a chance and grab the brass ring. |
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No. Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working. If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on. How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that? I'd love it. O.K. I was assuming that you actually liked your job, life and family. 
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Would you..... Give up being close to family & friends. Leave your job.... All, for a long distance relationship. Yeah as long as i can still visit my family now and then my mom lives in florida my dad lives in battle creek my grandma and aunt live in Olivet I live between Olivet and Marshel in the middle of no were in an old farm house that really needs a lot of work that i can't afford so yeah I'd leave as long as the relationship was seriouse even though i live in a crap of a house if its that or be homeless lost in some city or state that i dont know i will stay put but if the relationship is real sure id leave no problem |
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Edited by
Calleigh12
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Wed 12/02/09 03:23 PM
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No. Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working. If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on. How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that? I'd love it. O.K. I was assuming that you actually liked your job, life and family. That's why you shouldn't ever assume. I've never had a job I liked, then again I feel work is work and if I need to do something "fun" that's what hobbies are for- of which I have many. As for my family, they are fine in their own way, but it wouldn't kill me if I lived away from them, that's what phone calls, emails, visits and letters are for, if I wanted to keep in contact. Also, keep in mind, not everyone likes their family, and it's erroneous to assume they do. Many people don't even speak to their family, for whatever reason, so moving away from them would be a blessing, not a curse. As for my life, it sucks, and it has for some time, so if I could move out of this chithole and go find a better life somewhere else, I'd be gone in 2 seconds flat, no regrets. Btw, I'm aware your comment was not directed towards me, but it just annoys the crap out of me when someone "assumes" something about someone.
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No. Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working. If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on. How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that? I'd love it. O.K. I was assuming that you actually liked your job, life and family. That's why you shouldn't ever assume. I've never had a job I liked, then again I feel work is work and if I need to do something "fun" that's what hobbies are for- of which I have many. As for my family, they are fine in their own way, but it wouldn't kill me if I lived away from them, that's what phone calls, emails, visits and letters are for, if I wanted to keep in contact. Also, keep in mind, not everyone likes their family, and it's erroneous to assume they do. Many people don't even speak to their family, for whatever reason, so moving away from them would be a blessing, not a curse. As for my life, it sucks, and it has for some time, so if I could move out of this chithole and go find a better life somewhere else, I'd be gone in 2 seconds flat, no regrets. Btw, I'm aware your comment was not directed towards me, but it just annoys the crap out of me when someone "assumes" something about someone. If someone doesn't like their life, job, or family, then they may be due for a change anyway, so making a move might be a GOOD idea. But personally, I would make sure those are the reasons you make the move. The internet relationship could just be a "throw-in" on the whole deal - at least a contributing factor to the destination. I just wouldn't advise making it the sole purpose of moving. JMO As far as assuming goes, I was referring more to the OP's question. That it was some type of dilemma. Didn't mean to annoy you. 
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