Topic: Would..... YOU
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Wed 12/02/09 03:56 PM





No.

Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working.

If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on.

How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that?


I'd love it.


O.K.

I was assuming that you actually liked your job, life and family.:tongue:


That's why you shouldn't ever assume.:tongue: I've never had a job I liked, then again I feel work is work and if I need to do something "fun" that's what hobbies are for- of which I have many.

As for my family, they are fine in their own way, but it wouldn't kill me if I lived away from them, that's what phone calls, emails, visits and letters are for, if I wanted to keep in contact. Also, keep in mind, not everyone likes their family, and it's erroneous to assume they do. Many people don't even speak to their family, for whatever reason, so moving away from them would be a blessing, not a curse.

As for my life, it sucks, and it has for some time, so if I could move out of this chithole and go find a better life somewhere else, I'd be gone in 2 seconds flat, no regrets.

Btw, I'm aware your comment was not directed towards me, but it just annoys the crap out of me when someone "assumes" something about someone.flowerforyou



If someone doesn't like their life, job, or family, then they may be due for a change anyway, so making a move might be a GOOD idea.

But personally, I would make sure those are the reasons you make the move. The internet relationship could just be a "throw-in" on the whole deal - at least a contributing factor to the destination.

I just wouldn't advise making it the sole purpose of moving. JMO

As far as assuming goes, I was referring more to the OP's question. That it was some type of dilemma. Didn't mean to annoy you.:wink:


Yeah, most relationships go to hell after a while anyway, LDR or not. I'd never move someplace I hated just for a guy, I think that's crazy. I watched a stupid court show yesterday for like 10 minutes- I usually skip that trash, but this tale was actually interesting- and this girl tricked this guy into moving away from his friends, family, and job and once she got him there, she dumped him. So then he was all pissy, and a part of me felt sorry for him, but then I figured he should have thought the whole thing out before making such a drastic move.

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Wed 12/02/09 05:58 PM






No.

Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working.

If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on.

How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that?


I'd love it.


O.K.

I was assuming that you actually liked your job, life and family.:tongue:


That's why you shouldn't ever assume.:tongue: I've never had a job I liked, then again I feel work is work and if I need to do something "fun" that's what hobbies are for- of which I have many.

As for my family, they are fine in their own way, but it wouldn't kill me if I lived away from them, that's what phone calls, emails, visits and letters are for, if I wanted to keep in contact. Also, keep in mind, not everyone likes their family, and it's erroneous to assume they do. Many people don't even speak to their family, for whatever reason, so moving away from them would be a blessing, not a curse.

As for my life, it sucks, and it has for some time, so if I could move out of this chithole and go find a better life somewhere else, I'd be gone in 2 seconds flat, no regrets.

Btw, I'm aware your comment was not directed towards me, but it just annoys the crap out of me when someone "assumes" something about someone.flowerforyou



If someone doesn't like their life, job, or family, then they may be due for a change anyway, so making a move might be a GOOD idea.

But personally, I would make sure those are the reasons you make the move. The internet relationship could just be a "throw-in" on the whole deal - at least a contributing factor to the destination.

I just wouldn't advise making it the sole purpose of moving. JMO

As far as assuming goes, I was referring more to the OP's question. That it was some type of dilemma. Didn't mean to annoy you.:wink:


Yeah, most relationships go to hell after a while anyway, LDR or not. I'd never move someplace I hated just for a guy, I think that's crazy. I watched a stupid court show yesterday for like 10 minutes- I usually skip that trash, but this tale was actually interesting- and this girl tricked this guy into moving away from his friends, family, and job and once she got him there, she dumped him. So then he was all pissy, and a part of me felt sorry for him, but then I figured he should have thought the whole thing out before making such a drastic move.



that makes sence I almost moved out of the country for a woman who lived in nigeria but I figured I would look up her address befor I got there originaly I was going to pay about $3000.00usd for a one way tickit to nigeria then look up her address after I got there but I looked it up befor getting the ticket good thing i did because she lied about the address the street address she gave was not real and the name of the rode was a name of a city and I searched all kinds of web maps I thaught the map was wrong and it didn't recognize the rd. but thats in the past now I will only move were I can drive if i can't drive there I wont move but I would still move to be with someoen as long as i can drive the distance.

cherie091279's photo
Wed 12/02/09 06:00 PM
In a heartbeat, no second thoughts...if I loved the guy and he loved me.

Atlantis75's photo
Wed 12/02/09 06:00 PM
Edited by Atlantis75 on Wed 12/02/09 06:00 PM

Would you.....smokin

Give up being close to family & friends.
Leave your job....

All, for a long distance relationship.


Yep, in exchange of someone who really loves me, and due to the fact that this corrupt world revolves around money, and no matter how much I hate it, I'd still have to work, so I wouldn't jut go without having a sure position there.

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Wed 12/02/09 06:01 PM







No.

Too many variables affect a relationship and keep it from working.

If it doesn't work out (which seems to be the case for 99% of internet LDRs), you at least have your family, job, and life to fall back on.

How'd you like to be dumped and be 5 states away from all that?


I'd love it.


O.K.

I was assuming that you actually liked your job, life and family.:tongue:


That's why you shouldn't ever assume.:tongue: I've never had a job I liked, then again I feel work is work and if I need to do something "fun" that's what hobbies are for- of which I have many.

As for my family, they are fine in their own way, but it wouldn't kill me if I lived away from them, that's what phone calls, emails, visits and letters are for, if I wanted to keep in contact. Also, keep in mind, not everyone likes their family, and it's erroneous to assume they do. Many people don't even speak to their family, for whatever reason, so moving away from them would be a blessing, not a curse.

As for my life, it sucks, and it has for some time, so if I could move out of this chithole and go find a better life somewhere else, I'd be gone in 2 seconds flat, no regrets.

Btw, I'm aware your comment was not directed towards me, but it just annoys the crap out of me when someone "assumes" something about someone.flowerforyou



If someone doesn't like their life, job, or family, then they may be due for a change anyway, so making a move might be a GOOD idea.

But personally, I would make sure those are the reasons you make the move. The internet relationship could just be a "throw-in" on the whole deal - at least a contributing factor to the destination.

I just wouldn't advise making it the sole purpose of moving. JMO

As far as assuming goes, I was referring more to the OP's question. That it was some type of dilemma. Didn't mean to annoy you.:wink:


Yeah, most relationships go to hell after a while anyway, LDR or not. I'd never move someplace I hated just for a guy, I think that's crazy. I watched a stupid court show yesterday for like 10 minutes- I usually skip that trash, but this tale was actually interesting- and this girl tricked this guy into moving away from his friends, family, and job and once she got him there, she dumped him. So then he was all pissy, and a part of me felt sorry for him, but then I figured he should have thought the whole thing out before making such a drastic move.



that makes sence I almost moved out of the country for a woman who lived in nigeria but I figured I would look up her address befor I got there originaly I was going to pay about $3000.00usd for a one way tickit to nigeria then look up her address after I got there but I looked it up befor getting the ticket good thing i did because she lied about the address the street address she gave was not real and the name of the rode was a name of a city and I searched all kinds of web maps I thaught the map was wrong and it didn't recognize the rd. but thats in the past now I will only move were I can drive if i can't drive there I wont move but I would still move to be with someoen as long as i can drive the distance.


You're joking, right?huh

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Wed 12/02/09 09:21 PM
I've been asked that and I think my answer will be yes. I would still keep my house and rent it out. Most of my family is dead and my son is a free spirit. I have lived in this state for almost 30 years and have seen pretty much everything I need to.

I will never pass on the chance to be with someone that loves me as much as I love him. We have no guarantees in life. If I feel like a giddy school girl and only anticipate things getting better, why not? I would make sure I have a job securely in place before moving. I would make sure that I would be able to take care of myself, just in case.

My family could come and visit. A new location, a new view, a new love, a new job. Win, win, win and go to bed happy every night with my love by my side.

Updawg's photo
Wed 12/02/09 09:22 PM
No

Updawg's photo
Wed 12/02/09 09:25 PM
No

Nor would I ever ask anyone else to either.

However, I would move if I were in a real relationship.

SitkaRains's photo
Wed 12/02/09 09:26 PM
I find it interesting that there were women that said yes and unless I missed something no men.

I wonder why?

Ruth34611's photo
Wed 12/02/09 09:27 PM
I can't. I have children that I won't uproot.

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Wed 12/02/09 09:32 PM

I find it interesting that there were women that said yes and unless I missed something no men.

I wonder why?


I think it has to do with the majority of people not liking change. I am different in that I actually embrace it. I like change.

My man would after his son is out of school in 2 1/2 years. I'm not a patient woman. I'm not waiting that long. My son is grown. He has a better job than me. I live in Michigan, which has got to be the worst state in which to find a job. Opportunities are greater where he lives. So I'm the one that makes the sacrifice for now.

SitkaRains's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:02 PM


I find it interesting that there were women that said yes and unless I missed something no men.

I wonder why?


I think it has to do with the majority of people not liking change. I am different in that I actually embrace it. I like change.

My man would after his son is out of school in 2 1/2 years. I'm not a patient woman. I'm not waiting that long. My son is grown. He has a better job than me. I live in Michigan, which has got to be the worst state in which to find a job. Opportunities are greater where he lives. So I'm the one that makes the sacrifice for now.

I think you are right, I know when I came out on the internet I figure it would be so easy to find someone right next door right.. sure... I then knew I would relocate for the right one, island living on this rock is different and well alot of people just can't do it.

I wouldn't wait 2 1/2 years either.. No way.

DTHRomeo's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:10 PM

Would you.....smokin

Give up being close to family & friends.
Leave your job....

All, for a long distance relationship.


Ask me in 5 yrs smokin

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Wed 12/02/09 10:16 PM

I find it interesting that there were women that said yes and unless I missed something no men.

I wonder why?
YES,,,lol,,,IN A HEART-BEAT,,,,if I was secure in feeling she felt the same for me that I did her,,,,THATS a FACT!!!

I drive a truck,,I will never be w/o a job, its been my job for thirty years, as I am the best, on paper that anyone could be,,so work,,is not a problem,,just the feelings of that,,,heart,,wink,,

As for my kids,,hey,,they would have no problems coming to see me anywhere in these states,wink,,:heart: drinker :wink:

Atlantis75's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:20 PM

I find it interesting that there were women that said yes and unless I missed something no men.

I wonder why?


You missed something, yes. whoa <--- Look up a few posts.

I wonder why you missed it also.

Monier's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:22 PM

Would you.....smokin

Give up being close to family & friends.
Leave your job....

All, for a long distance relationship.


yes

Jtevans's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:27 PM

Would you.....smokin

Give up being close to family & friends.
Leave your job....

All, for a long distance relationship.



depends....can i pimp her out if the relationship turns sour?

DTHRomeo's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:31 PM


Would you.....smokin

Give up being close to family & friends.
Leave your job....

All, for a long distance relationship.



depends....can i pimp her out if the relationship turns sour?


noway laugh laugh laugh laugh

Jennerling's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:34 PM
hell no noway

DTHRomeo's photo
Wed 12/02/09 10:47 PM

hell no noway


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