Topic: Messed up relations
Goofball73's photo
Sun 12/13/09 12:52 AM


Boy, did I ever see some drama tonight. Basically, this chick I know found out that about three hours ago, her boyfriend was out banging another chick. Okay, so you are all gonna think what I thought right? Dude is history. No way she takes him back right? Well, dude shows up at her place, they have an argument, they make up, next thing I know they shag and are all lovey dovey now? WTF???????noway noway noway


I feel sorry for this girl. Sorry that she doesn't know she is worth more then that! There is not one good reason for anyone to cheat.....man or woman! If you aren't happy in your relationship then LEAVE!


In truth, she is one of those girls that it appears she needs a man in her life, or else she just can't function. Which, I never got that. Because you end up getting abused mentally so much. But I guess that is a self esteem issue.

Katzenschnauzer's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:05 AM
Men will often let their unit do their thinking for them but women rarely let their va-jay-jay think for them so I guess his unit is doing her thinking for her.noway

yellowrose10's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:11 AM
goof...I think is does have to do with self esteem. similar to stay with an abusive person.

CatsLoveMe's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:13 AM

Men will often let their unit do their thinking for them but women rarely let their va-jay-jay think for them so I guess his unit is doing her thinking for her.noway


Not necessarily, psychology and sex can often go hand in hand, and depending on this woman's sex drive or how much she maybe really does love this Tiger Woods guy, she'll still do it anyway. Poor Tiger.laugh

Katzenschnauzer's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:18 AM


Men will often let their unit do their thinking for them but women rarely let their va-jay-jay think for them so I guess his unit is doing her thinking for her.noway


Not necessarily, psychology and sex can often go hand in hand, and depending on this woman's sex drive or how much she maybe really does love this Tiger Woods guy, she'll still do it anyway. Poor Tiger.laugh







I can't back this up but I would venture to guess that she has very little sex drive because I think you have to be somewhat comfortable in your own skin to enjoy sex and she can't be that comfortable in her own skin. Whew!

CatsLoveMe's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:23 AM

Boy, did I ever see some drama tonight. Basically, this chick I know found out that about three hours ago, her boyfriend was out banging another chick. Okay, so you are all gonna think what I thought right? Dude is history. No way she takes him back right? Well, dude shows up at her place, they have an argument, they make up, next thing I know they shag and are all lovey dovey now? WTF???????noway noway noway


Okay, I'm going with the facts at hand, detective as I am, but SHE did make Yeah-Yeah with the guy, even after she found out, so this implies she either has a sexual overdrive, or she has no one of her own to fall back on, so she concedes and does the Cha-cha with him anyway.:banana:

Katzenschnauzer's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:26 AM


Boy, did I ever see some drama tonight. Basically, this chick I know found out that about three hours ago, her boyfriend was out banging another chick. Okay, so you are all gonna think what I thought right? Dude is history. No way she takes him back right? Well, dude shows up at her place, they have an argument, they make up, next thing I know they shag and are all lovey dovey now? WTF???????noway noway noway


Okay, I'm going with the facts at hand, detective as I am, but SHE did make Yeah-Yeah with the guy, even after she found out, so this implies she either has a sexual overdrive, or she has no one of her own to fall back on, so she concedes and does the Cha-cha with him anyway.:banana:











She didn't enjoy the sex she had with him that night. This I KNOW. She uses it as a weapon. I wonder if she had him shower first.

CatsLoveMe's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:30 AM
Edited by CatsLoveMe on Sun 12/13/09 01:32 AM
Okay now this is getting into the therapy realm, and the sexual power play or the sex card as it were. Did she really not enjoy it? Or did she? And if she didn't, what was her motive? Was it to make him feel guilty for what he did? Or did she feel guilty for something she did, or maybe not giving him attention or serenity? Who knows. The mystery continues. This sounds like a soap opera to me.laugh











yellowrose10's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:31 AM
yeah-yeah???? cha-cha ??? laugh love itlaugh

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Sun 12/13/09 01:31 AM
Edited by Calleigh12 on Sun 12/13/09 01:50 AM
I'm with Tina on this one, as long as they're happy. Nothing I'd ever get involved in, but whatever.....

Katzenschnauzer's photo
Sun 12/13/09 01:36 AM

Okay now this is getting into the therapy realm, and the sexual power play or the sex card as it were. Did she really not enjoy it? Or did she? And if she didn't, what was her motive? Was it to make him feel guilty for what he did? Or did she feel guilty for something she did, or maybe not giving him attention or serenity? Who knows. The mystery continues. This sounds like a soap opera to me.laugh



















I've got it. She had sex with this cad in order to "cancel out" the sex he had with the other chick. It's a sick maze.

myshell711's photo
Sun 12/13/09 03:56 AM

Boy, did I ever see some drama tonight. Basically, this chick I know found out that about three hours ago, her boyfriend was out banging another chick. Okay, so you are all gonna think what I thought right? Dude is history. No way she takes him back right? Well, dude shows up at her place, they have an argument, they make up, next thing I know they shag and are all lovey dovey now? WTF???????noway noway noway


She sounds as though she's the type to feel incomplete without a man in her life....can't figure people like that out...too much work..

ujGearhead's photo
Sun 12/13/09 04:05 AM
Yeah-Yeah? laugh laugh laugh laugh laugh

I never heard that one before! I'll be keeping that one in mind when I run into lack of 'undirty' names. lol

ujGearhead's photo
Sun 12/13/09 04:07 AM


Okay now this is getting into the therapy realm, and the sexual power play or the sex card as it were. Did she really not enjoy it? Or did she? And if she didn't, what was her motive? Was it to make him feel guilty for what he did? Or did she feel guilty for something she did, or maybe not giving him attention or serenity? Who knows. The mystery continues. This sounds like a soap opera to me.laugh



















I've got it. She had sex with this cad in order to "cancel out" the sex he had with the other chick. It's a sick maze.


Do one guy to moot the poking of another? If this goes on enough, will we all become virgins???????????

Lilypetal's photo
Sun 12/13/09 04:43 AM
She is probably thinking...he just had sex with "her" and he still wants me. I must be hotter than her. I had a friend in high school like this girl.

Goofball73's photo
Sun 12/13/09 06:51 AM
The girl here does love sex. I know because she complains about not getting enough from him...which also adds confusion as to why she feels she needs to be with this guy. Again, it all points back to self esteem for me because it is like she thinks she can't do better. Here is the funny thing. They have been together for about two months now, and this is already going on...haha!

Also, the dude is putting up with her crap too. I mean, he got yelled at by her. Yes, he got sex, and basically now knows he can walk all over her. But she honestly feels that now he won't ever do it again.shocked :laughing: :laughing:


KeepingTheFaith's photo
Sun 12/13/09 06:54 AM
Edited by KeepingTheFaith on Sun 12/13/09 06:56 AM
I'd be curious to know what his boyfriend "status" is, because it is a factor in the situation. Are they exclusive? I ask because I've learned that many guys, despite being in a long-term, intimate relationship do not consider it cheating if they've never OFFICIALLY agreed to be exclusive and only sexually active with each other. Weak, I know! However,most women think that's a given so they're destroyed when he cheats....and it IS cheating!

My opinion? Even great sex can't replace love and trust. She needs to wise up, kick his butt to the curb and move on!

KeepingTheFaith's photo
Sun 12/13/09 06:56 AM

The girl here does love sex. I know because she complains about not getting enough from him...which also adds confusion as to why she feels she needs to be with this guy. Again, it all points back to self esteem for me because it is like she thinks she can't do better. Here is the funny thing. They have been together for about two months now, and this is already going on...haha!

Also, the dude is putting up with her crap too. I mean, he got yelled at by her. Yes, he got sex, and basically now knows he can walk all over her. But she honestly feels that now he won't ever do it again.shocked :laughing: :laughing:




Ahhhhhh.....two months?!?! Never mind....

Goofball73's photo
Sun 12/13/09 06:59 AM

I'd be curious to know what his boyfriend "status" is, because it is a factor in the situation. Are they exclusive? I ask because I've learned that many guys, despite being in a long-term, intimate relationship do not consider it cheating if they've never OFFICIALLY agreed to be exclusive and only sexually active with each other. Weak, I know! However,most women think that's a given so they're destroyed when he cheats....and it IS cheating!

My opinion? Even great sex can't replace love and trust. She needs wise up, kick his butt to the curb and move on!


Funny you should ask that, because he is one of the most insecure guys I have ever met. At first, he didn't want to put a "title" on their relationship. Ok. So she actually saw an ex boyfriend of hers one night, talked to him to catch up, had a few drinks with him, and then nothing happened (this is what I am told now). So, he gets mad at her for that, and then decides he wants to make them exclusive. laugh laugh

Seriously. I have never seen a messed up relationship like this one. Oh, and according to her, he is very possessive (Duh! Ya think?). He doesn't like another man looking at her, but he can flirt with any chick he wants....and bang them too.laugh

KeepingTheFaith's photo
Sun 12/13/09 07:06 AM


I'd be curious to know what his boyfriend "status" is, because it is a factor in the situation. Are they exclusive? I ask because I've learned that many guys, despite being in a long-term, intimate relationship do not consider it cheating if they've never OFFICIALLY agreed to be exclusive and only sexually active with each other. Weak, I know! However,most women think that's a given so they're destroyed when he cheats....and it IS cheating!

My opinion? Even great sex can't replace love and trust. She needs wise up, kick his butt to the curb and move on!


Funny you should ask that, because he is one of the most insecure guys I have ever met. At first, he didn't want to put a "title" on their relationship. Ok. So she actually saw an ex boyfriend of hers one night, talked to him to catch up, had a few drinks with him, and then nothing happened (this is what I am told now). So, he gets mad at her for that, and then decides he wants to make them exclusive. laugh laugh

Seriously. I have never seen a messed up relationship like this one. Oh, and according to her, he is very possessive (Duh! Ya think?). He doesn't like another man looking at her, but he can flirt with any chick he wants....and bang them too.laugh


Yikes ~ sounds like a SEA of red flags! I'll bet he even tells her, "We have a future, baby...but it's IN the future!" spock

At least they're unleashing their dysfunction on each other and not the rest of us!! Don't get sucked in, Goofball!