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Topic: If a woman really cares for you...
AGoodGuy1026's photo
Mon 12/14/09 08:36 AM
Can you just "be friends" with them? Or is it best to just go away?? Even after you have talked about remaining friends...???

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Mon 12/14/09 08:39 AM

Can you just "be friends" with them? Or is it best to just go away?? Even after you have talked about remaining friends...???

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It's a really good question, and I wish I had a really good answer.

Unfortunately, anyone who ever claimed to care for me was simply using me for whatever I could do for them.


PATSFAN's photo
Mon 12/14/09 08:40 AM
Would this be after a relationship?

ledi180's photo
Mon 12/14/09 08:44 AM
I'm in that situation now. Was with him for 2 years, we ended it cause we ultimately want different things. We still care alot about the other and want to be in each others lives. It's super hard for me though, to move backwards and just be 'friends'. The jury is still out on this one for me, but I'm leaning towards it's better to just walk away. brokenheart

TxsSun's photo
Mon 12/14/09 08:47 AM


I dated a man over the summer that I really cared a lot for.
He didn't feel the same.
I wanted us to remain friends and thought I could do it. It really sucked.
He finally just went away, which was the best thing for me.

AGoodGuy1026's photo
Mon 12/14/09 09:08 AM

Would this be after a relationship?


no...

XenomorphEyez's photo
Mon 12/14/09 09:19 AM
Too much information is being left out to answer. Can you give us a little background on the situation.

AGoodGuy1026's photo
Mon 12/14/09 09:28 AM

Too much information is being left out to answer. Can you give us a little background on the situation.


Sure :)... I have a few female friends, we are just friends - hang out, talk, go on "friend dates" (meaning we both dicussed that we are just friends so the "date" was company and friendly)... I recently found someone that I am really into... when I told all of my friends (guys and girls) - most of them were happy for me and told me how wonderful it was that I am connecting with someone..., but one is upset - and we are no longer talking... although I realize that I am not responsible for her feelings or her happiness, I am dissapointed, she is a nice and caring quality person...

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Mon 12/14/09 10:01 AM
Edited by LewisW123 on Mon 12/14/09 10:03 AM


Too much information is being left out to answer. Can you give us a little background on the situation.


Sure :)... I have a few female friends, we are just friends - hang out, talk, go on "friend dates" (meaning we both dicussed that we are just friends so the "date" was company and friendly)... I recently found someone that I am really into... when I told all of my friends (guys and girls) - most of them were happy for me and told me how wonderful it was that I am connecting with someone..., but one is upset - and we are no longer talking... although I realize that I am not responsible for her feelings or her happiness, I am dissapointed, she is a nice and caring quality person...

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Depends. If you had sex, than no, you can't just go back to being friends. But even if you didn't, doesn't sound like she was interested in "just being friends." She probably wanted more. Which means, your friendship is probably over.

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Mon 12/14/09 11:12 AM
If she's mature enough, she'll accept that she can't have you intimately and be happy that she has you in her life. Any adult knows that maybe what they want isn't best for them, and if a person doesn't want you back, they're not for you...no reason why you can't be friends if you get along.

msharmony's photo
Mon 12/14/09 11:16 AM
Someone that truly cares for you will

1. be honest with you
2. want you to be happy

If they TRULY care for you,, than its great to remain friends. Seems this person may have been dishonest with you and herself about what she really wanted.

LashV1200's photo
Mon 12/14/09 11:40 AM

Can you just "be friends" with them? Even after you have talked about remaining friends...???

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NO.

oldsage's photo
Mon 12/14/09 11:58 AM
Intention = Results.

If you can control yourself & keep the friendship upfront, why can't it work? Friends disagree at times, so what else is new?

misstina2's photo
Mon 12/14/09 12:11 PM
flowerforyou maybe in time she will accept that you are just friendsflowerforyou

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Mon 12/14/09 03:21 PM
If I end it with a guy and he can't accept it and instead goes on a whining spree about how he was rejected, um yeah, we can't be friends. But if he accepts it like a grown man, and realizes it's the best thing for both of us, sure we can be friendly, why not? If it was reversed, I'm sure the other person would expect maturity from you, as well. I usually have no interest in being friends with ex's, but under certain circumstances, I know it's doable.flowerforyou

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Mon 12/14/09 03:22 PM

Someone that truly cares for you will

1. be honest with you
2. want you to be happy

If they TRULY care for you,, than its great to remain friends. Seems this person may have been dishonest with you and herself about what she really wanted.


I agree, she must have wanted more the entire time if she's reacting like this.

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Mon 12/14/09 03:24 PM



Sure :)... I have a few female friends, we are just friends - hang out, talk, go on "friend dates" (meaning we both dicussed that we are just friends so the "date" was company and friendly)... I recently found someone that I am really into... when I told all of my friends (guys and girls) - most of them were happy for me and told me how wonderful it was that I am connecting with someone..., but one is upset - and we are no longer talking... although I realize that I am not responsible for her feelings or her happiness, I am dissapointed, she is a nice and caring quality person...

$.02 drinker

So you hang out with some females in a platonic sense?, and now you like girl A but a different one, girl B of your platonic friends, is upset because of it?

OR you now want to be friends with someone(girl B) you did have sex with but she is getting all possessive because you are starting to really like girl A of the other platonic friends?

If it is the first, well then it's not your problem and it's none of girl Bs business.

IF it is scenario 2, then obviously girl B is not ready to be friends.

Now I have a headache. scared


Atlantis75's photo
Mon 12/14/09 03:32 PM

Can you just "be friends" with them? Or is it best to just go away?? Even after you have talked about remaining friends...???

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It really depends on what you wanna do and what you are looking for.

dumkam's photo
Mon 12/14/09 07:42 PM
if she left me and she did and the way i still love her ill be her friend till i find out she,s dating someone that will crush,kill,depress me so hell no i dont wanna be her friend im going threw this now..she say she love me with all her heart but cant be with me cuz she want to run around

Updawg's photo
Mon 12/14/09 07:44 PM
if its over its over, no friendship. we ended for a reason.

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