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Topic: "It's Complicated"
Rainy5's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:01 PM
what does that mean if a man tells you that about his life/circumstances?

what's complicated? - is that a code I don't know? :-)

isaac_dede's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:03 PM
He's involved with someone...but doesn't want to let you know so he still has a chance....then when you find out that he is involved he will tell you that he doesn't like her/trying to get away/staying together for the kids....

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Fri 01/22/10 07:06 PM

what does that mean if a man tells you that about his life/circumstances?

what's complicated? - is that a code I don't know? :-)


I've actually seen this used as one of the options on a person's relationship status on some dating sites....

I think it means there is something going on that precludes them from going with "single" or "available" or whatever, but is nebulous enough that they might not actually be married. Maybe they're in some sort of communal quasi-religious polygamist cult or something.

Or maybe it's just a terminological defense mechanism that allows them to avoid making any sort of real statement about "where they are" or "what they're looking for." I would probably avoid someone using that description unless I felt like playing detective for awhile.



Lastgoodman100's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:07 PM
stringing you along sweetie ....go out and get you a good one ...like me for instance!

funguymd's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:11 PM
We men are really simple people. If we tell a woman everything about ourselves, then after the 5 minutes are up, there is no more mystery. Women need a man to be mysterious. So, at some point, we have to say that something in our lives is complicated. That way, there is some mystery.

But, it could also mean he is recently divorced, has an ex straight out of fatal attraction, or just doesn't want to say. Men don't have to say everything. Also, women are not always the most honest. :wink: The earth will stand still the day when women are honest and open about things!!laugh

isaac_dede's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:12 PM
Edited by isaac_dede on Fri 01/22/10 07:20 PM

We men are really simple people. If we tell a woman everything about ourselves, then after the 5 minutes are up, there is no more mystery. Women need a man to be mysterious. So, at some point, we have to say that something in our lives is complicated. That way, there is some mystery.

But, it could also mean he is recently divorced, has an ex straight out of fatal attraction, or just doesn't want to say. Men don't have to say everything. Also, women are not always the most honest. :wink: The earth will stand still the day when women are honest and open about things!!laugh

You may be simple,
sorry i am not

janeh's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:13 PM
Edited by janeh on Fri 01/22/10 07:15 PM
It means that he/she is in a relationship and one of them thinks it is something more and the other thinks it is just casual dating. At leat that is what one of my friends explained to me about her fb status

Totage's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:16 PM

what does that mean if a man tells you that about his life/circumstances?

what's complicated? - is that a code I don't know? :-)


It's code for "I'm married" or "I have a gf already, but I would like to get with you too", usually something along those lines.

Goofball73's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:17 PM
Complicated means....."I need a $20,000 loan from you in order to avoid taking a dirt nap":tongue: laugh

IndnPrncs's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:19 PM
I agree with Isaac...


Goof has a good point but I think he's stretching the circumstances a bit... laugh

msharmony's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:19 PM

what does that mean if a man tells you that about his life/circumstances?

what's complicated? - is that a code I don't know? :-)



I think it means it doesnt fall in any one simple category,,their life that is.

My parents were divorced two years before my dad left the house, it was big enough for them to both stay there in different sections, they both paid for it,, and neither of them were rushing to play house with anyone. So although they WERE divorced, they wouldnt have brought anyone back to the home they shared out of respect for each other and that persons comfort,,,,THAT was complicated

In May, I will have seen my husband ONCE(for seven days) in two years. Because we were married in another country the divorce process is complicated so we are legally still married. He lives in the United Kingdom and I live in the United States. I made clear my intention to divorce last summer and there is NO chance we will be together again, but we have not completed any legal process so we cant be called LEGALLY SEPERATED. So I am married on paper but my life is that of a SINGLE MOTHER,,,,,thats complicated.

It could be any number of complex scenarios, including those that just involve someone trying to be sneaky,,,u really have to just go on what you have learned of that persons character and integrity, and on your gut feeling.

yellowrose10's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:22 PM
it could just mean they don't want to talk about it. Maybe they aren't ready to talk about it (whether it's them personally or they aren't ready to open up to someone yet) or they have talked it to death and tired of talking about it for a time.

isaac_dede's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:23 PM
they have tie's with the mafia....if you get involved you are sure to be put at risk. Or wait they are CIA and don't want to tell you...or can't tell you.

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Fri 01/22/10 07:23 PM
It could mean they are seeing someone-not exclusivly, and not quite sure where it might be headed.

Separated for more than a yr-but divorce still not final.......


"On A Break" laugh


I think it mostly means "not sure of whats currently going on".

Gossipmpm's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:25 PM
Married----------------------with children!!!:heart:

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Fri 01/22/10 07:26 PM
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I don't feel like talking about it.

or

I'm complicated, and feel insecure about being that open.

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Fri 01/22/10 07:28 PM

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I don't feel like talking about it.

or

I'm complicated, and feel insecure about being that open.


I agree with this. I'd probably tell someone that if I felt their question was too invasive. It's a polite way of saying it's none of your freaking business.laugh

Ashd2001's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:31 PM


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I don't feel like talking about it.

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I'm complicated, and feel insecure about being that open.


I agree with this. I'd probably tell someone that if I felt their question was too invasive. It's a polite way of saying it's none of your freaking business.laugh


I concur. I've said it in reference to other things like religion or political views. :smile:

Rainy5's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:31 PM
wow! thanks - these are great, and informative! - some are really funny too. put a smile on my face. :-) haha

OkieTech1974's photo
Fri 01/22/10 07:45 PM
...maybe he is talking about is taxesfrustrated

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