I guess I am surprised at some of the stuff on here. I am 51. When I meet a guy at my age I expect a stomach bulge, a bad back, bad knees, high blood pressure, whatever. Is someone really saying on here, regardless of genetics and how you "look" they expect less? And do any of you males think a 20 year old female is into bad backs, bad knees and all of that? There are 20 year old males out there, who incidentally are in the prime of their life. And is a relationship how you look? You do have to wake up in the morning and deal with whats next to you. LOL.

Real love is hard to find, at any age. Dating is just dating and most Older women can date if they choose too. Love is much different than just dating.

Yep; you are definitely a sailor with the last line you wrote. It certainly put a smile on my face.

classic !! I loved your opinion , I am 56 and wow inundated !! , now what I haven't told you is that these guys are thousands of miles away , or look under aged ! but still , at 56 I am still getting messages so there is hope yet , for me anyway x

Why is it hard for Older Men to find Love with a young woman?

He still thinks he doesn't have to pay for it.

It is just as hard for men as it is for a lady, especially if he is not well off financially.

I'm turning 54 in January. I refuse to roll over and die, I still have many good years left for fun and happiness. I wish all you old fogies over 50 would stop being so negative and stop letting a number and old baggage get in the way.

Life IS what you make it, so yes..stop and smell the roses

Good for you, but no one is telling anyone they have to roll over and die.

I didn't say anyone was telling us too. I was commenting and saying how I feel

I know that it is more difficult for mature ladies dating. Our society rewards youth and the hot item of the instant. Today everything is a flash in the pan then on to the next thing "trending". I am rather old school and appreciate a lady that is mature. I believe that a woman flowers after 45 to 50 years old and gets better every year thereafter. Society unfortunately does not share my vision.

Unfortunately; you are the exception and not the norm. You are right that Society in general does not share your vision.

I can relate to that. I get messages from much younger guys and guys that are overseas and I'm not interested in guys overseas. I'm not about to board a flight to go to another country to meet someone.

Actually had a younger guy who wanted to relocate to be near me - hadn't met him or anything. He was very evasive in answering questions etc, had a temper by the way he wrote to me. I don't want to be around someone like that - all the "red flags"were coming up for me, so I said goodbye and blocked him. I don't need control freaks, thanks.

I don't want to be a mother or grandmother figure either, I just want to be spoken to and treated with respect and I don't think thats too much to ask.

Have a great day.

Well I'm 65 and don't consider myself an old fogey, thank you very much. My late mum used to say, you are only as old as you feel and I'm still very young at heart thanks and enjoy life.

My past experiences/relationships/marriage is in the past and I've made the choice to forgive those who have hurt me.

I continue to get messages and views - mainly from younger men, some of them young enough to be my sons and grandsons. I don't wish to be a mother or grandmother to any of them, thanks.

I've had to block guys who are disrespectful etc cause I'm not tolerating that. etc etc.

So don't judge people older than you, each of us still have feelings. Try some sensitivity.

Tammy,you trully understand the normal male,and I can see you apealling to men because of that.but you should also mention the big scare off women put out there is "looking for mr.right..or soulmate
and mr.perfect" talk about added presure for a gent to live up to..most men know they are none of the above even though they are good men..

If everyone were honest, men AND women would like a no strings come round, i need some action relationship ( nice sex/affection). Why are ppl so coy..?? You never used to be, so, GO FOR IT WOMEN and MEN..! Any ladies need a HUG msg me..!!

Older women should be honest if they would like a no strings sex when I call you relationship. lots of Women are just as horny as men, they just wont admit it..!! If any are near Bristol uk. Im me, we'll have fun.!

the older a woman gets the man-ash she gets and the same for men as they get older their voices get higher like a woman's. a woman is a beautiful gift to a man but it sure does help with the right gift rap even a nice pair of flats will do wonders for a woman but when it comes to man bashing I have been hit so hard in my heart it's hard to trust women at all.