Topic: how to keep a relationship ... wel you need to be in one fir
irishkiki's photo
Mon 09/06/10 07:08 AM
isnt it always the way , when your single you want a boyfriend/girlfriend and when your ina relationship you want to be single !


what do you prefer , being single or being ina relationship!

RainbowTrout's photo
Mon 09/06/10 07:19 AM
Being single. Many women told me that the best way to get into a relationship was to be a friend. It works. I have been a friend. But what I am dealing with now is how to stop the manipulation. I thought the friendship was supposed to work both ways. And then she through the tantrum. I wasn't ready for that. I mean she is much older than me. But then since I work at a nursing home I should have seen it coming. Oh, well, live and learn. If I keep putting every cent I can muster my man cave or doghouse should be built soon. I am building me the most beautiful prison. I am even getting a friend to help me build it since he is a better carpenter than me.

RainbowTrout's photo
Mon 09/06/10 07:25 AM
I think one thing one needs for a relationship to be successful is for the other party to be able to see your point of view because your point of view is important, too.:smile:

Riding_Dubz's photo
Mon 09/06/10 07:29 AM
i prefer being single do what i want when i want with whoever i want flowerforyou

but having someone to cuddle with is always nice to flowerforyou

your damned if ya do and your damned if ya don't laugh

no photo
Mon 09/06/10 07:31 AM
Relationship is preferable, but I'm not willing to 'settle' just to say I'm in a 'relationship' ... if that's the choice, I'll stay single 'cuz I think I'm a pretty cool person ...

shoesmonkey's photo
Mon 09/06/10 07:35 AM
If I could find someone I get along with. That would help. And yeah, a real attraction goes a long way too.

ADiamond's photo
Mon 09/06/10 08:33 AM

If I could find someone I get along with. That would help. And yeah, a real attraction goes a long way too.


Could not have said it better myself....

EquusDancer's photo
Mon 09/06/10 08:34 AM
Someone to be with and cuddle with would be fun, but more and more, I'm turned off by the couples who snipe at each other, as well as the disgusting habits that no one seems to care about when around others, burping, farting, etc.

JamieRawxx's photo
Mon 09/06/10 09:06 AM
If you want to be single while you are in a relationship that just means the person you are with really isn't the one you should be with. So you should become single again and try to find the one who makes you happy and who you won't feel the need to find someone else with.

RainbowTrout's photo
Mon 09/06/10 09:10 AM
I have been told that is communication is important. The hard part is not to run at the first show of emotions and feelings because I took survival training. It is difficult enough to try to deal with my own emotions and feelings. And to even complicate it even more I have been told that honesty is important. Then there is this thing called intimacy. It is enough to give a person a migraine. And I am supposed to be able to control all this and not become unglued. Does not compute. System overload. Danger Will Robertson. Intruder alert. Man your battle stations. The only thing you have to fear is fear itself. Oh OK. I call fear woman.laugh

no photo
Mon 09/06/10 09:11 AM
...relationships are nice...

...autonomy is nice.....

...stuck between a rock and a hard place...

ohwell

GreenEyes48's photo
Mon 09/06/10 02:39 PM
I was married to my husband for 24 years and we were best friends for 28 years before he passed away...

I don't like being "suddenly single" at this stage in my life...I miss being married to my husband. We had a great life together...

But...I don't want to rush into another relationship just to have someone by my side. I haven't even gone on any dates yet...


no photo
Mon 09/06/10 03:10 PM

isnt it always the way , when your single you want a boyfriend/girlfriend and when your ina relationship you want to be single !


what do you prefer , being single or being ina relationship!


Only time I'd rather be single (when in a relationship) is when it's time to runnnnnnnnnnnn!!!

Otherwise, I'd take a healthy relationship any day. Until then happily single!bigsmile

iRon's photo
Mon 09/06/10 03:12 PM
The best is when she knows when to go home and more importantly knows when to show up and when to leave again....

Goofball73's photo
Mon 09/06/10 06:30 PM

isnt it always the way , when your single you want a boyfriend/girlfriend and when your ina relationship you want to be single !


what do you prefer , being single or being ina relationship!


Your first statement is full of s*it! Why the hell get involved with someone if (going by your statement) you are gonna want out sometime down the road? That makes no sense. Plus, when you are single, you don't "always" want a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you happen to meet someone, then great. But most people don't want to always be with someone. Going by this statement, it gives the impression that people are always wanting to be with someone, and that isn't true. I don't want to be in a relationship...just for the sake of being in one. I want a relationship with someone I want to be with. Plain and simple. Word!

no photo
Mon 09/06/10 08:16 PM

isnt it always the way , when your single you want a boyfriend/girlfriend and when your ina relationship you want to be single !


That's been my experience 99% of the time.


what do you prefer , being single or being ina relationship!


Well, as much as I'd love to be in a relationship IF I could find someone who was worth it, I don't think that's ever going to happen. And I'd much rather be alone than be with yet another wrong person.


irishkiki's photo
Wed 09/08/10 12:52 PM



Your first statement is full of s*it! Why the hell get involved with someone if (going by your statement) you are gonna want out sometime down the road? That makes no sense. Plus, when you are single, you don't "always" want a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you happen to meet someone, then great. But most people don't want to always be with someone. Going by this statement, it gives the impression that people are always wanting to be with someone, and that isn't true. I don't want to be in a relationship...just for the sake of being in one. I want a relationship with someone I want to be with. Plain and simple. Word!


actually , im not going by myself , get your facts right

Goofball73's photo
Wed 09/08/10 01:37 PM
I never said you were going by yourself. I use "you" in a more generalized way. Perhaps I should have used "people" or some other term. I was also only giving my opinion about your opinion. My post is about the way I see it. No disrespect....just my point of view.

JUST_IN_TIME_80's photo
Wed 09/08/10 05:57 PM

Being single. Many women told me that the best way to get into a relationship was to be a friend. It works. I have been a friend. But what I am dealing with now is how to stop the manipulation. I thought the friendship was supposed to work both ways. And then she through the tantrum. I wasn't ready for that. I mean she is much older than me. But then since I work at a nursing home I should have seen it coming. Oh, well, live and learn. If I keep putting every cent I can muster my man cave or doghouse should be built soon. I am building me the most beautiful prison. I am even getting a friend to help me build it since he is a better carpenter than me.
damnit dude you are a ****in creep!
i bet you are manipulating a 80yr old lady in that nursing home
and stealing there money to build you so called man cave prison
so you and your butt buddy carpenter friend can jam dildos in eachothers ***. Freak!