If you were in my shoes - turning 22 this year - what is the oldest person you'd consider dating?

My youngest daughters mother is 10 years younger than I am. Age normally ain't an issue, unless it's a ridiculous amount of years, 10 - 15 years to me is ok.

Women after they turn 30 become more amazing. They then know themselves better, know what they want and stop playing little girl games.


So my answer is, any lady under 30

I think when you start putting an age limit on things then you can miss out on some good relationships...but thats just my opinion. I don't go by age, I go by maturity.
Good luck on your search

EXCELLENT ANSWER UNSURE!!!

I'm 35 and have dated men as young as 22...

Thank you Dayv

Dude at 22 I dated a 55 yr old once hahaha! JUst go with the flow man! If it is there it is if it aint it aint LOL! Age is just a number!

if they are my dads age or older then they are too old for me.. the guy i'm with is 36 and i'm almost 25 .. so about 11 years age difference and we are great together.. but its not for everyone . so i guess i can only say follow ur heart .. and do what you think is good for you and date someone for who they are and the way they make you feel not for how old they are

it is not age, the great conviction in a persons life is the fact that they are loved ,loved for themselves or rather in spite of theselves

AGe is just a number a number is just a idea

I'm 28...my oldest guy was 48...which was a mistake...lol...he thought he was my daddy or something..lol

i agree with Iron, ladies after 30 are way more interesting

YOU ALL ARE SO RIGHT. SOME PEOPLE ALLOW SOCIETY TO DICTATE TO THEM WHAT IS RIGHT OR WRONG FOR THEM, AND MANY TIME THEY MISS OUT ON ALOT. WHEN I WAS 41, I DATED A GUY WHO WAS 27. WE STAYED TOGETHER FOR 4 YEARS. HE STILL CALLS ME. I SAY, GO WITH YOUR HEART AT WHATEVER THE NUMBER MAY BE. AND THOSE WHO DO NOT LIKE IT, F......THEM

I tried to make a post, but my idiot internet crashed right as I hit enter, so I'm going to try to say it again:

The main problem I have with society is how it warps our minds. It would be okay for me to date someone 26/27, but completely immoral for me to date someone 16/17. I know a 16 year old girl that is just...awesome. Beautiful, intelligent, mature, virtuous, into the same things as me, but...it'd never work. People would make sure of that.

My main problem with older women is that, it seems the older they get, the more likely they are to have a kid, or multiple kids. I want to have kids of my own. I'd like to have four of my own flesh and blood. That's going to be hard enough to find someone willing to have that many as it is. Let alone, someone that already has kids. Not to mention, at this point in my life, I think I would just add an extra burden to someone with children instead of being helpful.

In summary:

Do I think that I, myself, am mature? Yes, I would like to think so. Do I love and want kids? Yes, I sure do. Do I think I'm ready to be with someone that HAS kids? No, I'm not so sure about that. I have a lot of things I still need to do in my life. I don't mean party, etc. I don't do that stuff. I mean education, career, and other aspects of my future.

I think that age is just a number. Its just dating, your not going to marry that person and if you do then it works for you. We all are at an age whether younger or older. Life is too short. Enjoy your life no matter what age.

im 29 n i would consider a 30 32 year old, but that dont mean they will consider dating me.



my mom was 10 years older then my dad so i dont think mush of age gaps diference w/e you may call it

I aplaud you on the maturity to know that you are not ready for children. This is not something to be ashamed of, and women yuo ned to watch this guy as he definitely sounds like a keeper! You know what your limitations are at thi point and you are not trying to convince yourself or other differently. Great job.

As for the issue of a 16 y/o. You say she is gret, mature and allt hat right? The wait two more years until she is eighteen and it is legal. Wether you agree with the law or not, it is still the law. Also keep in mind that a 16 year olds personality and mannerisms change drastically over the course of a year or two. And I promise you that she WILL change as she finishes growing up. So just wait that extra year or two and then take it slowly.

Wow I must say that you sound very mature to know exactly what you want!! If you don't want to date someone with children then make sure you are up-front with that person...there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. If you are not ready for an already made family atleast you know that..I do think thats great that you know it!!
As far as dating the 16 year old...my son went through that. It is the law and I do feel for you BUT trust me....in the end you won't be sorry that you stayed completely away from her until she turns 18.

It's the law to not have a sexual relationship. However, I never said I would have a sexual relationship with her. Honestly, I wanted to wait until marriage, but I also wanted my fiance I had at the time to be happy, so I gave in on her birthday. I think I could handle two years abstinence for someone I loved.

As I said, though, I'm not even going to attempt a relationship with her. Way too many problems would be involved, and you're right, a lot about her could change in that time frame.

Mishaellyn - You said: "Its just dating, your not going to marry that person and if you do then it works for you."

That's the thing. That's what I'm here for. Not to date around, to find that one person I could marry. I AM ready to settle down and start my life with someone. Hell, I had already planned on being married this month, but...that rather got ruined.

However, that's a different subject. Point being, the reason I asked about the age thing is because of all of the conflicts of interest. I want someone ready to settle...which seems hard to find at this age, but it's also hard to find someone older interested in someone younger that doesn't have kids.

AND it also seems that a lot of older women smoke. That's something I could never tolerate. Not only do I want to live without adding more chances to get cancer and other problems, but I'm allergic to the smoke from it. It makes me sick just riding in a car with someone that smokes.

All in all, I don't think there's an easy solution to this conundrum. I've just got to go with the flow and hope the right woman comes to me. It appears that, when someone is searching, is when they find no one.