Topic: are you comfortable with
Ruth34611's photo
Wed 01/12/11 06:58 PM


Kind of like "use it or lose it".

That, IMO would mostly apply to women.
After mentalpause, they could really care less about any kind of intimacy.


I am sure that is true for some and not true for others.

vivian2981's photo
Wed 01/12/11 06:59 PM






Kind of like "use it or lose it".

That, IMO would mostly apply to women.
After mentalpause, they could really care less about any kind of intimacy.


You've got to be kidding!! That's the craziest thing I've heard in a while!!

You think that's crazy, give me a few minutes and I can come up with some more doozies.:wink: flowerforyou

Dang!!
You are too hot!!!pitchfork drool


thanks, and I'm PAST menopause!laugh laugh

I cheated and checked your fine self out.flowerforyou smokin


that's ok..flowerforyou

catgo65's photo
Wed 01/12/11 07:17 PM
I've been on my own for 1 1/2 years now. For the most part I enjoy the solitude and freedom. I don't do the bar scene anymore, but I do bartend part-time so I get my social activities through work and people I work with. For now it's ok, but eventually a partner would be nice.

vivian2981's photo
Wed 01/12/11 07:37 PM

I've been on my own for 1 1/2 years now. For the most part I enjoy the solitude and freedom. I don't do the bar scene anymore, but I do bartend part-time so I get my social activities through work and people I work with. For now it's ok, but eventually a partner would be nice.


I've been on my own for 5 yrs now..time passes fast. The only thing I hate about growing old alone is when the end comes..I don't want to be alone then.

eileena9's photo
Wed 01/12/11 08:30 PM
For most of the almost sixteen years since I kicked my ex out, I have been living with just my daughters or for the last year and a half, alone. Not including the visits to Jon of courselaugh :wink: , but I have gotten used to being by myself and I have to worry about when I do finally sell my house, will I be able to adjust to living with someone again.what

josie68's photo
Wed 01/12/11 09:51 PM
Nope definately not, I want someone to share everything with. i dont like being alone at night and I dont like not having someone to share everything with, I am definately not suited to being by myself, although I can do it I have absolutely no wish to.
I want to be loved and held until I am really old.

Okami04's photo
Wed 01/12/11 10:30 PM
Not that I mind being alone but it is so much better sharing life with someone and I want someone to share my life with and lifes experiences

bedlum1's photo
Wed 01/12/11 10:44 PM
Honestly...i don't think I would be comfortable...having someone to share your life with (not live your life for) through your end days (that is if you've found the right one) is a very special thing and an experience to make life complete..

Okami04's photo
Wed 01/12/11 10:53 PM
I travel constantly and I love my life but I do wish to have a special one to share my travels with

mscherbear's photo
Wed 01/12/11 11:59 PM
I've been alone for 7 years now and although I'm pretty used to it, I will never give up hope that someday it will change.

Monier's photo
Thu 01/13/11 12:00 AM

the idea of growing old without a significant other with you?


I don't usually think about it, but I'm fine with it either way. I have some really great friends.

Has to be a pretty special to want to grow old with them.

Monier's photo
Thu 01/13/11 12:00 AM

I've been alone for 7 years now and although I'm pretty used to it, I will never give up hope that someday it will change.


I had been for more than 8. I know what you mean.

Okami04's photo
Thu 01/13/11 12:07 AM
Monier CherBear
I hope you two find it I cant imagine 7 or 8 years from now and not having one or at least in that time not have relationships to learn from this makes me realize Love is a life pursuit and many moons can go by and I still not find it and there is peace in knowing that and sadness but I know one day it will come

TxsGal3333's photo
Thu 01/13/11 07:58 AM
I've been single for a long time now. Not something I wanted to happen but seems it has happened that way. And if it is to remain this way then I will deal with it as time goes by..whoa

TxsGal3333's photo
Thu 01/13/11 08:01 AM


Kind of like "use it or lose it".

That, IMO would mostly apply to women.
After mentalpause, they could really care less about any kind of intimacy.


Hummm just goes to show Men really don't have any idea about women at all...been going through it for 10 years now and I assure ya my sex drive has not lacked at all if anything it has increased......slaphead

AGoodGuy1026's photo
Thu 01/13/11 08:07 AM


the idea of growing old without a significant other with you?


Yep.

I'm less comfortable with the idea of growing old.


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silly's photo
Thu 01/13/11 09:14 AM
I just figure that if it happens it happens and if not that's ok too.I have friends that make me happy and my son and grandson

Rhysws's photo
Mon 01/17/11 11:44 AM
Although I am somewhat too young to be answering this question I will give it a go.

I have never seen myself really getting old with anyone. I like to make my own choices and decisions. I suppose I am quite selfish in that sense.

I am pretty sure I will always have my friends. I suppose I was what some may call a "late starter" when it came to finding other people, so my life scenarios have never involved another person.

... or something like that :)

hiddenmeaning's photo
Mon 01/17/11 01:38 PM
i love the idea if growing old with my better half surounded by my kids and little fat grandkids whats not to like about it

RoamingOrator's photo
Mon 01/17/11 01:59 PM

the idea of growing old without a significant other with you?



I don't like the idea of it, but I think I kind of resigned myself to that. Much the same as I came to the realization that I was never having any kids. It kind of sucks, but ces la viv!! (I think that's right, my french is rusty as I don't speak it at all)



I'm fine with growing older. In fact, I enjoy life more now than I ever did in my 20s and 30s. But sometimes I get scared of being alone. Just sometimes. Most of the time I'm good with it.


The "sometimes" is when you find a big hairy spider in the shower isn't it???