We met on another site, lived really close to one another. Talked on the phone for hours then we set up to have a lunch date a couple of days later, we sat there and talked again for hours! We had that chemistry you always hear about but doesn't seem to happen for you!
For months other than a couple of mishaps, my misunderstanding her "don't come over uninvited" rule, well I did that once more and she didn't like that either but we got thru that one too.
The relationship worked good, for her at least, see she has two daughters and if they came up with something to do she would ignore me for them, not that I don't think they, 21 and 18, shouldn't be important, I just would like to have had more time with her. There was a lot of time in the beginning because she was going thru physical therapy because of a car accident and didn't go back to work until the doctor signed off.....
Then she moved and wouldn't accept my help or tell me where she moved to, didn't want me to come over uninvited! Months go by and I still don't know exactly where she lives, she would meet me or come over to my place. We would have nice expensive meals out, and great sex. Then she texted me at 1:20 a.m., woke me up, we talked for a bit and finally went back to sleep around 3, later that morning she wanted to go downtown to have breakfast, she came by without texting to say she was on the way and I just rolled out of bed when she got there, she wouldn't wait 15 minutes for me to get ready and I haven't heard from or seen her since.....what a sap I am!

you are not a sap bro. you opened your heart in a good way and you made some very nice memories. you can't control other people. it's not easy to understand that people don't always play fair, but such is life. enjoy the fond memories, learn from the mistakes and move on to your next adventure. you will eventually be blessed with someone who is like-minded and even the fond memories of this relationship will fade. put on your white cowboy hat and stand proud sir. you done good

You know, when someone moves and won't tell
you where to, that is more than a red flag.
That is an airliner crashing into your nose.
Not very subtle.
Specially when you are sleeping with them.

And what is with you having to call first,
but she can just shoot over?
This is a bus going splat all over you, when
you must do what they say, not what they do.

I am thinking you got off pretty easy, with
good lessons learned.

welcome to the site

I'm sorry you are hurting. It would appear that the "lady" maybe had something else going on.......possibly another man or a live-in or something? Definitely something sketchy there. I would chalk it up to more practice and good sex..lol. Good luck on the next one. Go get 'em tiger!

Hey MAN,,,we're ALL sap's at some point in our lives,,,AND,,,then

WE end up on here,,,,,lol

I have had close to what you wrote,,but mine was her attentions to HER kids,,,were ALWAYS MUCH,MUCH,MORE,,than her attentions to mine or even what I and them had to talk about or do together,,and I split from HER,,,because I knew we could never be an equal in talks
or feelings about our seperate children we each had before ever meeting...and in life's long run,,we would have shorted-out somewhere,,,and look at YOUR situration like THIS,,,
IT WASN'T MEANT TO BE,,,end of stoy,,and MOVE-ON...

Thats just living and exploring who we could be or would be..
And to be REAL,,,,YOUR RED FLAG,,,was her over-looking YOU ,,,EVERY-TIME one of her grown girls was around,,,,she SHOULD HAVE,,made THAT
a WARM situration for all of you,,and made you BOTH PART of that visit from her daughter,,,,I mean,,UNLESS they were in constant personal battles with each other,,
WHICH,,,,would be another story in it self,,,

Welcome here,,and I hope you have some fun and meet MANY to call your friend here..

Kinda sounds like she got back together with an ex and then moved in with the ex when she moved. Was friends with a chik that did stuff like that in my younger bad boy trouble maker, run from the cops all the time college days.

You was used like an old wash rag dude.

If I were you I'd get myself checked out, if you know what I mean.

Honestly the way I take it she was seeing someone else along the same time as you. That would be the only reason if all was going good you were not allowed to just drop by ect but in fact it was okay for her to do it to you. As far as the last day she was just looking for an excuse to end it and not enough balls to be honest with you.

Sorry it happen that way but.......may be for the best sure there was a lot about her you did not even know. For she made sure she hid it well.

Keep your head up and learn from it and move on you will find someone that will see you for the great person you are. Believe me sounds like your better off she is gone don't think what you would have found out about her would have been what you thought it was...

I have read this entire thread so far, and I pretty much agree with everyone.

It sucks that it happened. We all get burned eventually.

Chalk it up to experience. You're a bit wiser now because of lessons learned. Make sure it doesn't happen again.

Take the positives, and run as far from her as you can.

Good luck. The Forums are the place to be if you want the best chance at finding a good relationship. In fact, I seem to have noticed a few new budding relationships on here since the New Year. Hoping they all work out.

I think the first :don;t come over univited" incident should have been a HUGE red flag for you...hopefully next time 'round it will be - if it happens ever again

can;t imagine haveing that rule with my guy - I loved when my boyfriends popped in