I have no idea how you can change after marraige, if you are honest before hand how will you be different.
I am always the same, if anything about me changed my family would faint.
I am totally predictable in an unpredictable crazy way..

Although the thing I did find with my ex's is taht they expected me to be different, to grow up , be more responsible, do things how they wanted them done, bt life just isnt like that.
I didnt grow up before I was with them and I sure hadnt planned on it after..

Hmm, well I can say I have certainly changed over the years. Things that weren't that important to me when I was young; now are. My music tastes have changed, I now don't believe in pet ownership, I don't believe in rodeos, I believe couples need their alone time, don't think a man's responsibility to take care of me, I am more into veggies for a diet as compared to a heavy meat diet, I am more conservative with my money, I don't feel the need to be cuddling or touching every moment I am alone with my partner, I don't depend on men to fix my problems or be my knight in shining armour, I believe in prenaups, I don't beleive any relationship is forever. These are but a few things that have changed about me which could affect a relationship; so I can't speak for anyone else but myself. Serving in the military I have seen some awful things that people do to each other and have seen more death than I care for. How can these things not change me as a person?

(on that first post) What is the address of that cave he lives in?

(on another post) If a woman tells me that she can have any man she wants ....
I'll tell her to go get him, and by god leave me the hell alone.

The last time a "girlfriend" said to me, "all you want is sex" ...
she received a rude awakening when I never touched her again.

Having also served in the military, I've seen a lot too... but nothing like the horrors our fathers faced during the second world war. This life is a push button cake walk by comparison.
We change because we learn to adapt. If we don't adapt, we're buried.

Nope I havent changed any of those things, I still want my man to look after me, I still want my night in shining armour, I still believe in forever. No prenups, the last two hubby's took it all anyway.
And I havent seen enough bad to change me, and hopefully can keep my head in the sand long enough to never see it.

I guess I have chosen to stay the same , I dont want to change, my life in uncomplicated, I dont think much out of the box, just do wht I want to do and ignore the rest.

Hmm, push button or not; death doesn't get any easier when you see it first hand. I think in our dad's day they suffered to the point of Post Traumatic Stres; me I just see life from a different perspective. I realize there is no fairytale or happy endings. Reality is harsh and dreams really don't come true. There is no prince charming that will sweep me off my feet or any such thing as a soul mate. I don't look at life with rose coloured glasses; I look at it realistically. This is what the military has taught me.

As if you will ever find that


1. The cooking would be nice, but I would help if I can. If not, ill stick to the BQ. House keeper, both should take part in that.

2. Ill agree with, but blow jobs are optional.

3. Na, just love me...

4. Refer back to 2 and 3

when i find one i will be sure too tell ya how to keep him actually maybe not lol

Get a man and keep him? Hmmmm

Men are easy to find ... they are everywhere ... to keep one requires duct tape

Wait! How much tape?

Depends how much he squirms


Hey there stranger

I am a mix of both your opinions! Some of my tastes have changed and I live healthier now than I use to, but I'll never stop believing that love & happiness are possible. Sure, there are no true fairy tales, but just the love I know from my friends, family, and pets is amazing!!!

Yes couples need alone time! I don't need a man to take care of me, but if you love someone it's only natural to want to spoil them and care for them in some way. Don't need him to fix all my problems, but men want to feel needed as much as we do so I believe that there are some things you should just let him do for you because that little thing makes him feel good. If I am going to keep one around, I'm going to keep him happy!

Prenups just depend on the people involved...who has what to protect and how much they trust one another!

Hm, is this a good thing or bad


Good to see you

Guess that depends on the man

Hey, just say "no" to duct tape! When it comes time to remove it — and, yes, you do need to remove it eventually — you'll rip out hair (if you're lucky) or rip off flesh (if you're unlucky). No! Bad ArtGurl!

This is actually a very good point, Cinderella75. There is an interesting phenomenon, which some people call "sperm competition" — that men are more attentive and, indeed, undergo a physical change when their partner flirts with others and especially when their partner has the _opportunity_ to have sex with another.

I don't recall who did the study, but I remember the heart of it: A men who went without sex for a significant period because their partner was ill did _not_ have a a significantly increased sex drive or increased semen production. The men who were away from their partner for other reasons (e.g., one of them went out of town for a few days for work) did, in fact, have increased sex drive and semen production. There is a correlation between the _potential_ of a man's partner to have sex with another man and his own sexual response. As fücked up as this may seem (though it makes sense from an evolutionary perspective, but I won't get into that now), men are much more likely to be attentive — sexually and otherwise — when they know, even subconsciously, that their partner had the opportunity to cheat on them.

Flirting might easily have a similar effect for many of the same reasons. Even if intellectually a man trusts his wife or girlfriend, there's that "jealous" response over which he has no control. He's more likely to be attentive, partly because he's aware on a conscious level that his partner could have another guy if she so chose, but also because there's that physical response to the subconscious fear that his partner might actually have sex with someone else.

Fascinating stuff.

One time I told my late wife that I wanted her to worship me as a god. Afterwards, when I asked her to serve me dinner, she gave me a burnt offering.

They probably have invented "talking" blow up dolls. However as a woman theirs nothing better than turning myself and my man on with dirty sweet talk in his ear while we're climaxing.

masturbation is nothing like actual sex. the feel isn't even close to the same.

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Honestly, when I love the man I'll do anything thats not harmful to our relationship. Cook, clean, massage, get his beer, wash him in the shower And between his toes, have a nice clean cozy bed with candlelight and me in my nice satin gown or not, not holler, ***** or gripe, understand him no matter what, and always smile and kiss him when he comes home from a hard days work. Have I missed anything?? Oh yeah, Never say no to sex unless im terminally ill or dying. :)

more along the lines of:
1. Be attractive, stay attractive. (if you don't want your man to consider sleeping with someone else, give him something on which to focus his attention.
2. Treat him like he's the second most important person in your life and the most important man in your life. (yourself being number one, but not to the point of being a selfish diva)
3. Put out regularly because you actually enjoy sex and never use sex as a bargaining tool. Sex should never be given as a reward for good behavior or withheld because you didn't get your way.
4. Don't cause your man any grief. The last thing a man wants is to put up with a woman acting like a spoiled child. A man wants to have an upfront and mature relationship. High maintenance women are undesirable.

This is just my personal opinion.
This man doesn't want to be worshiped or fed. As far as the TV goes, we men use it as an escape from reality. Whether it be sports, movies, or video games, it helps us discharge our mental batteries.


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