I am moving on but it isn't easy. I noticed that I tend to find excuses for rejecting men who are interested in me. The man I love there is no way for us to make it. In what ways did it help you guys to get over your ex?

It takes time but you just have to learn to face the facts.

It's done. Move on.

Nothing or no one is going to heal you but yourself.

I tried to keep busy, to distract myself from thinking about her as much as possible. It didn't always work but at least I wasn't focusing on her every second.

After awhile, when I had achieved some "distance," I found myself thinking more and more about how bad all of my relationships have turned out to be. And there was a point when I realized that I'm probably better off by myself. It took a long time, but I eventually figured it out.

well I was married for so long that it was prety much over bye the time we split up anyway

but there have been a couple of boyfriends where things ended rather abruptly and I have been on both sides of that...if u are finding "excuses" to reject men you either are not ready to move on yet

or you just really are not attracted to those particualr guys...it's not "excuses" if u really just are not interested

I say - gimme someone who is soooo awesome I won't even want to be thinking about the one before!!!!!

think of the bad bad things he has done to you, nd you wil be glad you are leaving.

lots of meaningless sex....

My advice.

"The man I love there is no way for us to make it."


You need to remember that at all times.

Hell, I wish I was 16 again...ain't gonna happen. The only one who can make you happy right now is you. The hard part is gonna be clearing away your ideals for a man and start anew. If you can make it past "I want this" or "I want that"...see what the world has to offer and you will be stunned at how many options you have Baby.

It ain't easy and the hardest part is going to be, just allowing yourselfe to fall in love again. But, I swear...it is soooooo worth it when you just let go of the past and take the chance with someone who is willing to take the chance with you.

Thanks so much everyone for such feedback. It has help in more ways than you'll know.

a roadtrip visionquest if you can. it helps you see the human struggle from a distance, and you can come to your own conclusion about how much it really doesn't matter in the grand sceme of things, and what matters is only what you make matter. there's 300,000,000 people here, on this rather smaller patch of land. there is certainly someone who can mesh with you more, so ask the universe to send you someone......sometimes it actually works, lol. enjoy

Krupa's got an excellent idea if you are to persue this further. i couldn't have said it better....nice.

Mmm... that's a heavy burden.
Sorry for you in this...

But, "get over"...? That's a myth. (imho)
We live, we learn amd experience... it all adds up to "us".
Pain and good times...
Incorporate him into your life... and the losing him too.

That loss and the scars it left... will make you so much
a richer treasure for next fella'.

(I mean, I wouldn't want some baggageless individual to accompany me on my next holiday... so bring all your chit with ya...)

But don't grow old being unhappy over it... please don't do that.

It was hard. I still remembered when she was my friend. Or at least I thought she was my friend at one time. I think that was the answer. It was like why am I trying to be friendly to this person who isn't friendly to me. It must be that I had imagined her to be the woman of my dreams. But I found that she wasn't the woman of my dreams. It was then that I understand that I would rather be with my friends then to be with this complete stranger.

Hello, Stranger

I didn't know how to love you.
My heart was just too cold.
I didn't know how to touch you.
My fingers were too bold.
I couldn't even see you.
My eyes were opened wide.
I couldn't ever reach you.
My world was guarded inside.
I didn't get to know you.
My life was about me.
I didn't get to hear you.
My thoughts were busy.
I couldn't be your friend.
My world was more than you.
I couldn't let it all end.
My world is always in danger.
I didn't know how to tell you.
My world is, "Hello, Stranger."

Hard lesson...
Applies to every avenue of life.

Band-aides eventually peel off. You will bite yourself in the behind forever without real healing.

It took me a lot of time and patience and went through many different books to read which helped escape the pain. And i just kept myself busy as a bee.

GOD is helping me thru. I pray incessantly at times and beg him to carry my heartache, to carry my burden, to free me from this desire, this want, this need i have to be with someone who does not love me. Its been a year and a few mths, but i still have my hard days. And when all else fails, and this is only as a last resort, i pop a diazepam and move on with my day.

When the realization of something like this in life happens I try to wrap it up in a memorable package (respecting it for what it was) and leave it on a shelf in my life's closet and shut the door. It's a part of you, but it's not you.

Something else will come along and it will be better if you let it be. But the let it be part is up to you, and how much you want to love yourself.

music please (this is for you)

I just stopped in to say goodbye I'm leaving
finally seen the writing on the wall
hope it's not too late
but I couldn't hesitate
and didn't feel it right to only call

I can't say that I never really loved you
for saying that would surly be a lie
I know you'll be upset
but I leave with no regret
it's best to leave this lifetime here to die

cause I

found a new love
someone sent from above
that started a new fire
changed all my desires
and captured my heart
now I never will part
so goodbye old life
I'm leavin you behind


what started out so good was an illusion
you made it look so nice and oh so new
but what I didn't know
was killing me so slow
and now I've got to live for what is true

well that's the way I feel I won't deceive you
so don't go hoping someday I'll return
it only caused me sorry
but by this time tomorrow
I'll be on the path to living and to learn

and I

found a new love
someone sent from above
that started a new fire
changed all my desires
and captured my heart
now I never will part
so goodbye old life
I'm leavin you behind


oh how you got to know
that my heart was breaking all the time
but still and I hope you will
realize I've got to get you off my mind

Oh no no no

I

found a new love
someone sent from above
that started a new fire
changed all my desires
and captured my heart
now I never will part
so goodbye old life
I'm leavin you behind

goodbye old life
I'm leaving you behind

goodbye old love
I'm leaving you

peace and love
michael

I didn't date for 12 years after my ex left me. Now i'm currently wondering why I started again....

SERIOUSLY???!!

I posted him on cheaters website...I want revenge!!!