"It's harder to be with a GOOD woman after she's been with a BAD man."

This got me thinking that it's pretty hard to be a man. Since Adam, they've always had to pay for someone else's mistakes.

"It's unfair being a man. When my wife is pregnant, everybody rubs her tummy and says 'Congratulations' but nobody rubs my balls and says, 'Good job'." .... Lol.

If you're a guy and have loved a woman who has been hurt before and stuck by her, good on you!!! People just don't appreciate good men these days.

i made it out to "cash" your check is in the mail

I KNOW! I always end up rubbing my own balls to make them feel better.

I have recieved the "You're too good for me" from a girlfriend before she dumped me.
She wound up getting back with her older boyfriend.

(It should be noted that he and his father were into organized crime.)

I'll be waiting patiently by the postbox.

sounds like they made her an offer she couldn't refuse

Aaaaw, you poor baby! Lol.

She obviously felt that she didn't deserve better... It's no mark on you.

Yeah, it took me about a decade to realize that.

I have received that before. The way I look at it, you have to go with what you want, and if being unhappy is the way to go for you, so be it.

You have waaaaaaay underestimated this issue. You know what most women say to me? You look just like my first love/ex-husband/father. Well I am none of these people, so either convince yourself that I am behaving like them or actually get to know me

Been there, done that. The problem is, once they've discerned that you're really devoted to them, they figure it's OK to treat you the way the last guy treated them; i.e., very very badly. And this is not conducive to a good, long-term scenario.

I think that a lot of women don't really know what thay want. They say they want a good guy, but don't know what to do with him when he arrives.

This is exactly the reason why I don't date. Until I'm sure of what I want, I don't want to waste anybody's time.

P.S No guy is too good for me. That would be implying that I'm not good enough for someone. My mama taught me better than that.

The only good men I know personally are married. Hmm, I just found it hard to even find a good man. For the record; when I was dating; I knew exactly what I wanted and what I didn't want was an abuser. Seems these days; thats all we have where I live.

I'm a dude, and I disagree that guys have it tough. I say this simply because men can do the exact same thing to women. But let's not go into the woman side of this. Let's look at this theory you have. Be warned.....Goof is about to rant.

Nothing wrong with being nice. Nothing wrong with treating women with respect, dignity, and with care. However, what is wrong is when a dude doesn't have a backbone. I'm not talking like he is part of the "smack-a-ho" tribe. I'm talking about when a dude doesn't "man up". Fact is, women want men to be....well....phucking men. Not saying they want us guys to be macho all the time. Not saying dudes have to protect their lady, try to fix them, and all that other crap. I'm talking about women want a man to be confident. If he is a geek, then be the most freaking confident geek alive. Know who you are, and you'd be amazed at the panties that fall before you. Don't go around with this, "Ohhhhhh.....gee wilikers.....will she get mad that I spent money on this clasiic Tonka toy without consulting her"? Dude....nut up. You want it, tell her so. Break it down and have her respect you.

Look, guys are their own worst enemy. We over think crap all the time. We worry when we are trying to get the girl cause we don't want her with another. We worry when we have her and we don't want another dude to come around and steal her. Hey fellas. Guess what? You show your woman love, respect, confidence, communication...etc....and your chick ain't gonna look to another man. Why? Cause she knows she has a great guy. When you doubt things, trust me...chicks pick up on it.

I have been guilty of doing this in the past, so I know what I am talking about. When you like a woman...and I mean really, really like her...then you need to show it. You need to let her know that she is the only girl. Cause if she knows that, then you don't have to worry about silly games. Goof out. And be kind and rewind.

I think there are a lot of big generalizations on here (and from a few who I would not expect that from)

woman who have been treated badly before can be afraid of that again - so it can be harder to earn their trust

but they also tend (in my observation) to be very grateful and appreciative in the long term of better treatment. They will, however, be very savvy if you are trying to get away with something less than honorable.

I am sure that there are some who want to make every man pay for what happened to them, but I doubt it's the majority but rather the exception.

And there are women who are just as saintly to take on men who are damaged goods from previous relationships. Do you know how often we hear negative comments made about women just because some guy had a bad experience. All women are not alike - we are not your "ex" just like you are not ours

no one wants to be compared to a past partner whether it's good (the widower where NO ONE will ever be as good as the sainted deceased) or bad (the woman who drank the savings account and wrecked his truck...)

I think the challenge moving into new relationships is to resist the temptation to compare, and to have the courage to refuse to allow a potential mate compare you - leaving them if you must

Once again goofball, you have written a great post with lots of wisdom.

Don't ya wanna date me now?

Nope, I am not dateable.