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| Topic: Twice Weekly Sex Contract...Would You Sign One? | |
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Married or not, I would have sex with him and ONLY him, as many times as I want, whenever I want. No contract needed. The perk of being young a spry.  Young and spry now...what about in 10 or 20 years time? |
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Getting legally married is a contract.  But we are not talking about getting married.  It is the little things that do it. Exactly. If you care about someone enough to be in a relationship with them, you should (or so I would think) wish to be intimate with them at some point. And to me that intimacy should be natural and mutually beneficial. A contract is more of a "do this now or else" sort of thing to me, and for me personally that is just not something I see as beneficial. If it is so much about the sex that you equate it with buying a house, then to me it sounds more like a chore or burden. What is the point of the relationship in that sort of situation? Just go with one of the numerous alternatives to get your fix if it is so important. As I have stated before, if you are in a truly loving, happy relationship with someone you truly trust and love, the sex should not ever be a problem. |
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Edited by
navygirl
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Fri 01/27/12 02:58 PM
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If the sex is good, it will be happening. If I were married to someone, sex twice a week would not be too much at all to expect. I would think that if I lost interest in having sex with someone I was married to, something would be wrong. That reason needs to be worked on, rather than being forced to have sex because of some silly contract. I agree. ID sign it because, for me, it wouldnt be a 'forced' issue, but just something I would be naturally doing anyway,, A contract would be forcing it, should any problems come up for any reason. Take the guy in the first post.. we don't even know why the women lost interest. Maybe he wasn't that good at what he was doing? Maybe he didn't care about making them happy? Maybe they just got tired of that? Who knows. I would not force myself to have sex with someone who was all about their own needs and not mine as well. That issue would need to be worked on and fixed instead. I will agree with you on that. The problem is guys my age that I dated were just terrible lovers. When I am with a bad lover; it lowers my sex drive. |
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Married or not, I would have sex with him and ONLY him, as many times as I want, whenever I want. No contract needed. The perk of being young a spry. Young and spry now...what about in 10 or 20 years time? Some girl the other day just said in about 10 or 20 years I'm going to look like I'm in my late twenties. I'll take it. Its a curse and a blessing. I do like that I look young. She said I could pass for a 20-year-old, that made my day. |
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I don’t disagree with the majority of comments on here but what I know how I would react if I met someone and he said to me... sex is really important to me and if at any time, you lost interest, I would try and work through those issues with you but if it meant that we no longer had a sex life, then I would end the relationship. I wouldn’t be thanking him for his honesty...
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His marriage and last relationship ended because both women lost interest in sex. He says he wants an undertaking that before he marries any woman, they would have to agree to have sex at least twice a week, unless one of us is ill or away. Would you sign a contract that states you have to have sex/make love to your partner twice a week? I have a dilemma with this because I wouldn't sign a contract like this if it was a condition of him marrying me and in principle, I object to a contract that would effectively take away the spontaneity...I also don’t think sex and how often it occurs can be legislated by a contract....IDK...I kinda disagree but agree in a weird way. If sex is other than spontaneous, it's not sex, it's prostitution or abuse....tell him it is out of the question...AND tell him half the responsibility for good sex, regular sex, falls to him.....
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These threads are depressing me. When did love become so complicated that we need contracts and group discussions on what to do and what not to do? Doesn't anyone just talk to each other anymore? Doesn't anyone express their needs, hopes, dreams, desires with the person they like???
Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. 
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These threads are depressing me. When did love become so complicated that we need contracts and group discussions on what to do and what not to do? Doesn't anyone just talk to each other anymore? Doesn't anyone express their needs, hopes, dreams, desires with the person they like??? Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. I think that communication has always been a problem in relationships. I have that problem with guys for years as they just don't listen to me. The TV comes on and they tune me out. As for the discussions; I think they are interesting personally. As for this character wanting a contract; I suspect there is more to this whole problem than just women losing interest in sex. |
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Edited by
42BlackBBW
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Fri 01/27/12 03:09 PM
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These threads are depressing me. When did love become so complicated that we need contracts and group discussions on what to do and what not to do? Doesn't anyone just talk to each other anymore? Doesn't anyone express their needs, hopes, dreams, desires with the person they like??? Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. I don't think that "love" is complicated..My love for my kids isn't complicated... I think two people in love with each other can sometimes make it more complicated than it needs to be. |
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These threads are depressing me. When did love become so complicated that we need contracts and group discussions on what to do and what not to do? Doesn't anyone just talk to each other anymore? Doesn't anyone express their needs, hopes, dreams, desires with the person they like??? Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. I don't think that "love" is complicated..My love for my kids isn't complicated... I think two people in love with each other can sometimes make it more complicated than it needs to be. You are correct that its people that complicate things. I think this contract for sex is a prime example. 
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These threads are depressing me. When did love become so complicated that we need contracts and group discussions on what to do and what not to do? Doesn't anyone just talk to each other anymore? Doesn't anyone express their needs, hopes, dreams, desires with the person they like??? Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. You're not alone in that. 
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I would sign no contracts. If you can't properly make love without one, maybe you should not be in a relationship. Bingo. |
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These threads are depressing me. When did love become so complicated that we need contracts and group discussions on what to do and what not to do? Doesn't anyone just talk to each other anymore? Doesn't anyone express their needs, hopes, dreams, desires with the person they like??? Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. You're not alone in that.  
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Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. You know Ruth, sometimes I do envy people like you. I don't have a romantic bone in my body. |
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The only one I would be willing to sign,
would be if it said each party had to put out on demand. And if they are willing to do that, I am thinking no contract would ever be required. |
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Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. You know Ruth, sometimes I do envy people like you. I don't have a romantic bone in my body. And I envy you. I really do. I try to not be me, but I always fail. |
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No way. lol. I would never be in a reationship that involved a contract. I find it quite degrading. We're humans with feelings, not toys. I think making love should come naturally. Instead of being forced to feel it. I would think any relationship involving such a contract, isn't real love. Sounds like an excuse to have a sex slave, to me.
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Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. You know Ruth, sometimes I do envy people like you. I don't have a romantic bone in my body. And I envy you. I really do. I try to not be me, but I always fail. I think I'm this way because of the crumbs I dated. Its hard to let anyone in after the crap I have taken. |
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These threads are depressing me. When did love become so complicated that we need contracts and group discussions on what to do and what not to do? Doesn't anyone just talk to each other anymore? Doesn't anyone express their needs, hopes, dreams, desires with the person they like??? Myabe I'm just a hopeless romantic. [/quote Me too. ] Would never sign such a thing. I like romance and feeling special and loved. I think a contract would take away from it. No thanks. |
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As much as i hate to say it, women are always being degraded. Whether it's the media doing that, or the porn industry. I think women have basically had enough of feeling like they have to be a energiser bunny. Nobody ever talks about it. With some men, they're like "Oh, if a woman doesn't sleep with me on the first night meet her, i dump her". I just wish women WOULD talk about it more. Not saying men never feel degraded. Just that it happens with women moreso. Ignore me, i'm just ranting. lol.
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