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For the most part I am. I have a very full and happy life, so I don't waste a whole lot of time wondering why I'm alone. He's out there somewhere, I'm sure. I'm okay hanging out by myself till he's done doing whatever he's doing and is ready for me. But I will say, there are times I get a little sad that I don't have someone to cuddle on the couch and watch a movie with.
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I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone. I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games... However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me! Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here. Hey I think you are cute!  Ah Oldhippie; I wish there were more guys like you. You are a sweetie. 
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I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone. I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games... However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me! Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here. Would a 38 year old do it for ya?  I don't know Goof. Could you keep up to me?  Well I do love a good challenge.  Aww Goof; you make an old gal feel appreciated. Thanks. Where shall we start? How about a nice 5:00 am workout; then a nice 26 mile bike ride, and 10 mile hike? That would be a good way to warm up, eh?
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I hate being alone but it's worse that my ex works where I work and the guys she cheated on me with work there too.And she just flirts with them right in front of me,just depressing our son not even 2 yr old.And I doubt if i'll date for a long time but 43 yrs old and alone scares me can't change jobs good money there don't go to bars or anything of that nature,so not sure what to do like you. Goodness; that is awful. I think this is why people get into the wrong relationships though because they are afraid to be alone. I think one should feel comfortable being alone before looking for another partner. Also, there are plenty of things to do outside the bar. I am involvoed in a variety of clubs and tonight going to our local science centre with the Astronomy club to take in show and use some telescopes to check out the moon, as well as Jupiter. I don't ever feel alone as I have lots of friends and family as well as outside intersts to keep my occupied. |
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Edited by
nelomelo
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Thu 02/02/12 01:55 PM
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hell i used to love Astronomy as a kid thanks for the idea
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hell i used to love Astronomy as a kid thanks for the idea Me too. Hey, I looked at your profile. I see you like playing guitar. You should see if there are guitar groups you can jam with. Me, I play with a couple bands, sang in a choir or two, and did some jam sessions with my guitars. Not sure if you are into athletics but I know we have some great hiking and cycling clubs here as well. Also, you could volunteer yourself as its a great way to meet new people. Whatever you decide; I wish you good luck. 
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used to jam but my older son has basically left me in the dust he's a music major at west liberty so i kinda do this playing guitar stuff by myself got the puter as a drum machine and mixer and recorder and basically waiting for my 18 month old son to want to learn too,just too embarresed to play in front of people
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but hey i went off track there but again thanks for the ideas,really kinda of shy to introduce myself to people,here online i can but in person kind of start to scramble words and stuff end up looking like an ***.But again thanks for the ideas,going to see if i can find a pic with my son at 16 moths trying to play guitar will at least a smile to my face and others.
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but hey i went off track there but again thanks for the ideas,really kinda of shy to introduce myself to people,here online i can but in person kind of start to scramble words and stuff end up looking like an ***.But again thanks for the ideas,going to see if i can find a pic with my son at 16 moths trying to play guitar will at least a smile to my face and others.  |
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I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone. I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games... However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me! Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here. Would a 38 year old do it for ya? I don't know Goof. Could you keep up to me? Well I do love a good challenge. Aww Goof; you make an old gal feel appreciated. Thanks. Where shall we start? How about a nice 5:00 am workout; then a nice 26 mile bike ride, and 10 mile hike? That would be a good way to warm up, eh? And afterwards, a quiet game of pin the tail on the donkey.
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I am not happy with my life and I am trying to change things. However, it has nothing to do with having someone in my life. Yes, I have given up on being with someone. Men aren't attracted to me and really a relationship just drains me. I don't have time or the energy for the silly mind games men play in relationships. I realize I am better off alone. I am with you on not having the time or energy for the silly games... However, your statement "Men aren't attracted to me" is shocking....you look FABULOUS! I wish I looked that good, and you have a decade on me! Well, thanks for the kind words. Its just guys my age like women in their 20s and 30s, so they wouldn't be attracted to me. Just the way it is here. Would a 38 year old do it for ya? I don't know Goof. Could you keep up to me? Well I do love a good challenge. Aww Goof; you make an old gal feel appreciated. Thanks. Where shall we start? How about a nice 5:00 am workout; then a nice 26 mile bike ride, and 10 mile hike? That would be a good way to warm up, eh? And afterwards, a quiet game of pin the tail on the donkey. Oh, you are such a romantic.
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I think I have given up & I am not sure how I feel about it. I was married for many years. Divorced, than had a HORRIBLE relationship with a man for 4 years (held on with all my might so afraid to be alone)...then dated one more guy for a few months and it just didn't work out. So now I am on my own....kind of enjoying the peace and quiet. "One less egg to fry" if you know what I mean. No Drama, no wondering, no worries other than my own personal ones. I feel like I have been freed from myself in the sense that I always wanted "the one"...But for now I feel good being alone. I still have the worry about growing old alone, and wonder if this feeling of peace will be broken one day with that lonely pang many of us know all too well. Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone? I am happy. The only thing that sucks is when I want my physical needs met, and I got no man. 
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Im in a relationship where there is like no feeling of love, we hardly ever have sex, when I look at him I dont think to myself that he is handsome and that I want to have sex with him. I have sex with him out of need and thats probably once a month if im lucky. But its just sex. I think all the time about leaving and having my own place but I am so afraid of being by myself, my children r grown and have their own lives. Im not happy in my relationship what do I do. I dont know what to tell you on that one. I mean there is alot more to a relationship than sex. But sex and attraction is something that I have learned that gets ignored and forgotten about...maybe some relationship therapy would help reignite the spark...Men also have physical issues that make it more difficult to engage in sexual activity. In that case we all hope that we have someone by our side who loves us despite our appearance, or even physical abilities... what ever you chose, just take your time and really think it through. THANK U |
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No I am not happy. I have not given up. I like who I am, what I am doing with my life and I can keep busy with myself. So why am I not happy? I come home to an empty house, no one to share my day with. I love to cook but I rarely do, because I get tired of cooking for just me. I despise going to sleep at night, because the bed is always empty. I lothe waking up in the morning, because it is the same ol same ol every day. I say howdy to every one I pass. I engage in conversation with other people around me. I feel that I am out going, not pushy. I am doing all that I can, yet there is nada. Not one, Hey, would you like to join us for canasta on Friday. ( I have not a clue how to play canasta. LOL ) Or we are going here on Saturday, why don't you come along. So ok, I ask them, How about we meet for lunch. You pick the day. I never hear from them. Or, come to a hockey game with me. Or, lets go to a movie. Again Nada. So whats the answer? I do not have a clue. Lonelyness drains the joy out of an ordinary day. try being lonely in ur own house while u r living with someone that u loved but no longer having any connecting feelings for |
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For the most part I am. I have a very full and happy life, so I don't waste a whole lot of time wondering why I'm alone. He's out there somewhere, I'm sure. I'm okay hanging out by myself till he's done doing whatever he's doing and is ready for me. But I will say, there are times I get a little sad that I don't have someone to cuddle on the couch and watch a movie with. for me a big part of it is living in this city - Columbus is a big city - very urban and quite frankly it is SCARY and the people around here are mostly scary - I meet people and think they're nice - then they turn nasty all of a sudden - I think it's just coz I'm in the city limits but no wonder I'm not meeting anyone - it's too scary to talk to anyone here much less date anyone... |
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try being lonely in ur own house while u r living with someone that u loved but no longer having any connecting feelings for
i'm doing it now not married but she is mother of my son,at least i sleep on the bed though
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try being lonely in ur own house while u r living with someone that u loved but no longer having any connecting feelings for i'm doing it now not married but she is mother of my son,at least i sleep on the bed though Yeah, a friend of mine who is married is very lonely. He sleeps on one side of the bed with the cat and she sleeps on the other side of the bed with absolutely no intamcy. He says they are nothing more than room mates and their kids are all grown up so that is no reason to stay together. He stays with her because if he divorced; he would have to sell the house and give her half; so he lives an empty life. He is a very lonely man and says he envies my life. He has told me about married life and personally I am glad I never got married. I guess I haven't realized just how lucky I am. |
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Just looking for some feedback,are you happy being alone? Well, i can walk, talk, laugh, eat, cook, do my own laundry. So i must be doing fine. Yeah. lol |
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I'd rather be alone than in the emotionally abusive marriage I was in.I'm definately walking 10 steps higher and have a better attitude. In younger days it was ALWAYS about having a boyfriend and I had to rearrange my life too much for some of them. Not anymore! Happy to come and go as I please!!!
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communication is key
odds are if one person is miserable in the marriage the other isnt thrilled either,,,,One of them has to be brave enough to bring an honest discussion to the table about how to move forward towards a better life either together or seperately |
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