Would you date an Ex? Do you believe they are an ex for a reason and you should move on because it didn't work the first time or (after an appropriate amount of time) give it another shot?

Here's my situation. We dated while we were in highschool. I was a senior she was a sophomore and we were together until her first summer out of school. With all the transitioning things were tough and we finally called it quits when she decided to go to a different college 2hrs away from mine.

With her it was like love at first site. I've never felt that way about another person. My feelings for her have never changed. I haven't even been in a commited relationship since we stopped dating about 3 years ago. To me it felt pointless to be with someone else when I really wasn't over her.

We kept in touch. We would talk every now and then over the years, occationally I would see her. She always wished me happy birthday. When I found out she was engaged I decided it was time I stopped talking to her because I wanted her to be happy but didn't want to see her married and the conflict would not have made things easy on either of us.

Out of nowhere she txts me a few weeks ago and we have been talking everyday since. Things obviously didn't work out with her fiance and she moved back about 6 months ago. She said she kept staring at a drawing I did for her and couldn't help but txt me even though I had told her not to.

I'd love to just start over and move on but there are a lot of things that will need to be addressed from our time together before.

My heart says go for it, never stopped loving her. My brain says to be very careful, cuz she will likely end up breaking it.

I don't know if I'm being rational about anything or if I'm just scared because of my feelings for her.

Usually in these cases (and I’m talking from experience here), you already know what you want to do you’re just looking for validation.

One of my friend’s has a saying for occasions like this and it goes ‘dogs should never revisit its sick’. In my case, I never asked him who is the dog and who’s the sick..I kinda worked that one out for myself when it ended.

Good luck though.

I can't say I would since I've been through a case with mine recently. I admire those that can. Be aware of the elephant in the room always.

Nope; I would never date an ex. Once its over; its over for good.

Hummm did it once wanted to find out if there was anything still there. Seems it was not we had a good weekend and let it be at that......

Doubt I would do it again for normally when it has gotten to that point I'm pretty set in my way.....

That one time it was due to he called it off and not me... Went back after he begged me to found out my feelings had totally changed....it was all good tied up loose ends in the process and had several questions answered as well...

There's a variety of reasons people are ex.
As a general rule - multiple dating of an ex - nope.
But there can be certain situations, time, distance, factors that just didn't make it 'right' then.
Maybe it is now - who knows - you won't know unless you try - at least enter into it with your eyes wide open and some open communication. Otherwise you may always wonder...and not be able to move on.
Good luck to you

Dating an ex is not usually a good idea. But, it looks like you're just looking to justify what you've already decided to do. Either way, good luck.

No.

We stopped dating for a reason. Why would we go back to it?

Remain friends yes, but dating, no.

Noooooooooooooooooooo.
No.
Uh.
NO!

It would depend which ex. Just because i chose to forgive em, it doesn't mean they have a passage of rights to just suddenly communicate with me again. I can forgive from a distance. It depends how they treat me during our time together. That's what i'd base my decision on. Sometimes i feel they'll never grow up, as taking advantage seems hard for them to give up, which in turn only makes me give up on him. So that's a lose-lose situation. Not trying to diss, but a certain one, seems to be given all the wrong advice. Which makes me wonder if the people he goes to for that advice, are really just setting him up for more rejection. Funny how he still hasn't really won me over. Not. xD

I think you should go for it and here is why:

If you don't you will always wonder.

Do I think it will work? Probably not.

But you do need closure. But do be careful with your heart. Don't give it to her. Just have some fun times and wait for the other shoe to drop.

It will drop.

Then you will know its not to be, and you won't have to wonder.

That's been my personal experience.

Ex's are Ex's FOR A REASON!!!!!!!!

Thats all I got!!!!!

No I haven't made up my mind.

What I want really doesn't matter to me. I want a lot of things that aren't going to happen or wouldn't be good for me. That's not how I make decisions.

Some of ya'll sound so jaded it's hard to accept what you have to say.

Lets look at it from a logical point of view. If your ex was the right person in the first place, the relationship would never have ended. Seems to me if they cared enough about the relationship; they would have worked through it with you. If a person walks away; then I figure it wasn't meant to me. Its not being jaded; its being logical. Incidentially; I am friends with my ex boyfriends so if I was jaded; why would I even give them the time of day?

And again being slapped in the face wasn't enough.

In this situation, what you what is what matters. It doesn't matter what the rest of us think. But remember, you did ask what people thought and you should expect to get opinions that you don't agree with. If you don't want to hear them, don't ask.

When it's over ... Is it really over? , Just singing along Sugar Ray

Nah! Once an ex ... Next! :)

I have even remarried an ex. We found new things to argue about since we both had changed. Come to find out that all that we really had in common was lust. It was a case of the sex was good but the relationship really sucked. Lets see. Compatibility, sex and both to scared to see anybody else was all we really had going for us. Then we both had moved on. After I married for the third time to someone completely new even my ex mother-in-law said that the new wife and me made a cute couple. Another thing about the third wife was that I didn't get the question of is that your sister. Also it wasn't one of these hot and cold relationships because we were actually friends who could talk to each other. I think that had to do with I didn't have a communication issue like with the other woman. We had actually spent enough time getting to find out who the other person was. Man we were so close.

Sometimes it takes .......several....
To get my.....
Attention!!!!!

You just like being slapped