Topic: When a Guy Says
MariahsFantasy's photo
Wed 02/29/12 04:18 PM
Ahh, the circle is complete again.

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Wed 02/29/12 04:53 PM
Now let's fulfill the hitchhiking cheerleader fantasy.

MariahsFantasy's photo
Wed 02/29/12 05:03 PM
Know of any willing cheerleaders?

Oh chit...nevermind

MariahsFantasy's photo
Wed 02/29/12 06:06 PM



It means he doesnt care about you, but he's interested in using you, generally speaking. Hopefully he was kidding?


Possibly...its easy to think that based on what I know. Hmm I don't feel he was kidding.


Then I would put him in the ejector seat and drive really fast. He'll just track mud all over your clean grandness.


:laughing: I'm sure he doesn't deserve that torture. Blue balls would be more ideal.

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Wed 02/29/12 06:10 PM




It means he doesnt care about you, but he's interested in using you, generally speaking. Hopefully he was kidding?


Possibly...its easy to think that based on what I know. Hmm I don't feel he was kidding.


Then I would put him in the ejector seat and drive really fast. He'll just track mud all over your clean grandness.


:laughing: I'm sure he doesn't deserve that torture. Blue balls would be more ideal.


Cruel cruel cruel.

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Wed 02/29/12 06:11 PM







"We are not going to do things on your terms"

...wtf does that mean?



It means he thinks he is in charge and calls the shots.


I like you bigsmile


Why, cause I tell it how it is and I dont sugar coat it? bigsmile


You tell the truth. That's what I respect.


Honesty is the best policy! (Except when a girl asks you if she looks fat, the of course you always lie!)



I look at it as motivation to lose the lbs.


Yep, me ex-boyfriend told me I was fat too and I lost the weight. :thumbsup:

navygirl's photo
Wed 02/29/12 06:11 PM







"We are not going to do things on your terms"

...wtf does that mean?



It means he thinks he is in charge and calls the shots.


I like you bigsmile


Why, cause I tell it how it is and I dont sugar coat it? bigsmile


You tell the truth. That's what I respect.


Honesty is the best policy! (Except when a girl asks you if she looks fat, the of course you always lie!)



I look at it as motivation to lose the lbs.


Yep, me ex-boyfriend told me I was fat too and I lost the weight. :thumbsup:

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Wed 02/29/12 06:13 PM





It means he doesnt care about you, but he's interested in using you, generally speaking. Hopefully he was kidding?


Possibly...its easy to think that based on what I know. Hmm I don't feel he was kidding.


Then I would put him in the ejector seat and drive really fast. He'll just track mud all over your clean grandness.


:laughing: I'm sure he doesn't deserve that torture. Blue balls would be more ideal.


Cruel cruel cruel.


Life is cruel, I never play by the rules. There's a stench of ego one should avoid.

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Wed 02/29/12 06:49 PM
you might want to check to see whose terms "we" are doing things on? Does it mean that he wants more compromise from you, or that he wants to be totally in charge?

The former is reasonable, the latter is ridiculous

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Wed 02/29/12 07:04 PM

you might want to check to see whose terms "we" are doing things on? Does it mean that he wants more compromise from you, or that he wants to be totally in charge?

The former is reasonable, the latter is ridiculous


Far as I know, men will always be confusing to me.

I don't think he wants anything from me.

Going back to man code...he doesn't know what he wants=he doesn't want you.

Its that clear sometimes, though people refuse to say this because they are afraid of hurting someone's feelings. Rejection is not the worst thing in life. Lies, secrecy, physically hurting someone; those are tough ones.

Thinking about it now, I believe he is seeing someone. But I don't know this for sure. Unless he actually grows a pair, calls and tells me otherwise. I won't know what the hell is going on.

And I'm not worried. bigsmile

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Wed 02/29/12 07:26 PM
Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Wed 02/29/12 07:28 PM


you might want to check to see whose terms "we" are doing things on? Does it mean that he wants more compromise from you, or that he wants to be totally in charge?

The former is reasonable, the latter is ridiculous


Far as I know, men will always be confusing to me.

I don't think he wants anything from me.

Going back to man code...he doesn't know what he wants=he doesn't want you.

Its that clear sometimes, though people refuse to say this because they are afraid of hurting someone's feelings. Rejection is not the worst thing in life. Lies, secrecy, physically hurting someone; those are tough ones.

Thinking about it now, I believe he is seeing someone. But I don't know this for sure. Unless he actually grows a pair, calls and tells me otherwise. I won't know what the hell is going on.

And I'm not worried. bigsmile



no you don't seem worried. Did I give the impression I thought so?

It sounds to me like he does know what he wants and that is not to do things on your terms any more - what that means is the question (in my view) tho u might already know what that means...

to me that seems he is discussing the two of you - not someone else he "might" be seeing-

as you described that much seems clear - I think if he had someone else it would not matter to him whose terms you did things on

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Wed 02/29/12 08:03 PM



you might want to check to see whose terms "we" are doing things on? Does it mean that he wants more compromise from you, or that he wants to be totally in charge?

The former is reasonable, the latter is ridiculous


Far as I know, men will always be confusing to me.

I don't think he wants anything from me.

Going back to man code...he doesn't know what he wants=he doesn't want you.

Its that clear sometimes, though people refuse to say this because they are afraid of hurting someone's feelings. Rejection is not the worst thing in life. Lies, secrecy, physically hurting someone; those are tough ones.

Thinking about it now, I believe he is seeing someone. But I don't know this for sure. Unless he actually grows a pair, calls and tells me otherwise. I won't know what the hell is going on.

And I'm not worried. bigsmile



no you don't seem worried. Did I give the impression I thought so?

It sounds to me like he does know what he wants and that is not to do things on your terms any more - what that means is the question (in my view) tho u might already know what that means...

to me that seems he is discussing the two of you - not someone else he "might" be seeing-

as you described that much seems clear - I think if he had someone else it would not matter to him whose terms you did things on


I say that because I did all I could. Some men just can't pull the trigger.

Like I said, he does know what he wants and its clearly not me or else it wouldn't be this hard to talk to him. Whatever his reasons might be, maybe something bad happened, I don't know. Like I said, I just don't know a thing.

Discussing the "two" of you? Sorry I'm not understanding what that means.

I think so too. All I wanted for some clarity. I am not demanding it at all. Maybe that's what he thinks. Just I feel like its fair since he was the one who brought up the "I'll call yous" about 3 times. I'm tired of this. I guess this is how the male brain operates. Maybe if we were real friends it wouldn't be so hard for him to actually do what he says.

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Wed 02/29/12 08:06 PM




you might want to check to see whose terms "we" are doing things on? Does it mean that he wants more compromise from you, or that he wants to be totally in charge?

The former is reasonable, the latter is ridiculous


Far as I know, men will always be confusing to me.

I don't think he wants anything from me.

Going back to man code...he doesn't know what he wants=he doesn't want you.

Its that clear sometimes, though people refuse to say this because they are afraid of hurting someone's feelings. Rejection is not the worst thing in life. Lies, secrecy, physically hurting someone; those are tough ones.

Thinking about it now, I believe he is seeing someone. But I don't know this for sure. Unless he actually grows a pair, calls and tells me otherwise. I won't know what the hell is going on.

And I'm not worried. bigsmile



no you don't seem worried. Did I give the impression I thought so?

It sounds to me like he does know what he wants and that is not to do things on your terms any more - what that means is the question (in my view) tho u might already know what that means...

to me that seems he is discussing the two of you - not someone else he "might" be seeing-

as you described that much seems clear - I think if he had someone else it would not matter to him whose terms you did things on


I say that because I did all I could. Some men just can't pull the trigger.

Like I said, he does know what he wants and its clearly not me or else it wouldn't be this hard to talk to him. Whatever his reasons might be, maybe something bad happened, I don't know. Like I said, I just don't know a thing.

Discussing the "two" of you? Sorry I'm not understanding what that means.

I think so too. All I wanted for some clarity. I am not demanding it at all. Maybe that's what he thinks. Just I feel like its fair since he was the one who brought up the "I'll call yous" about 3 times. I'm tired of this. I guess this is how the male brain operates. Maybe if we were real friends it wouldn't be so hard for him to actually do what he says.



He sounds like a moron.

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Wed 02/29/12 08:37 PM




you might want to check to see whose terms "we" are doing things on? Does it mean that he wants more compromise from you, or that he wants to be totally in charge?

The former is reasonable, the latter is ridiculous


Far as I know, men will always be confusing to me.

I don't think he wants anything from me.

Going back to man code...he doesn't know what he wants=he doesn't want you.

Its that clear sometimes, though people refuse to say this because they are afraid of hurting someone's feelings. Rejection is not the worst thing in life. Lies, secrecy, physically hurting someone; those are tough ones.

Thinking about it now, I believe he is seeing someone. But I don't know this for sure. Unless he actually grows a pair, calls and tells me otherwise. I won't know what the hell is going on.

And I'm not worried. bigsmile



no you don't seem worried. Did I give the impression I thought so?

It sounds to me like he does know what he wants and that is not to do things on your terms any more - what that means is the question (in my view) tho u might already know what that means...

to me that seems he is discussing the two of you - not someone else he "might" be seeing-

as you described that much seems clear - I think if he had someone else it would not matter to him whose terms you did things on


I say that because I did all I could. Some men just can't pull the trigger.

Like I said, he does know what he wants and its clearly not me or else it wouldn't be this hard to talk to him. Whatever his reasons might be, maybe something bad happened, I don't know. Like I said, I just don't know a thing.

Discussing the "two" of you? Sorry I'm not understanding what that means.

I think so too. All I wanted for some clarity. I am not demanding it at all. Maybe that's what he thinks. Just I feel like its fair since he was the one who brought up the "I'll call yous" about 3 times. I'm tired of this. I guess this is how the male brain operates. Maybe if we were real friends it wouldn't be so hard for him to actually do what he says.



right

a real friend would not put you through this, be this difficult to communicate with, nor be this cryptic

What I meant by the two of you - is that if he was talking about you and him when made his statement - that leaves the impression that he is talking about a relationship with you where he wants the terms to change (not yours any more) - that would indicate to me that he sees you in his life as he was discussing this with you

but if it is really not a discussion but rather his making a tyrannical comment and disappearing - that's different - that would indicated that he is not interested in anything further, I agree

any way you slice it he sounds "communication challenged"laugh

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Wed 02/29/12 08:38 PM





you might want to check to see whose terms "we" are doing things on? Does it mean that he wants more compromise from you, or that he wants to be totally in charge?

The former is reasonable, the latter is ridiculous


Far as I know, men will always be confusing to me.

I don't think he wants anything from me.

Going back to man code...he doesn't know what he wants=he doesn't want you.

Its that clear sometimes, though people refuse to say this because they are afraid of hurting someone's feelings. Rejection is not the worst thing in life. Lies, secrecy, physically hurting someone; those are tough ones.

Thinking about it now, I believe he is seeing someone. But I don't know this for sure. Unless he actually grows a pair, calls and tells me otherwise. I won't know what the hell is going on.

And I'm not worried. bigsmile



no you don't seem worried. Did I give the impression I thought so?

It sounds to me like he does know what he wants and that is not to do things on your terms any more - what that means is the question (in my view) tho u might already know what that means...

to me that seems he is discussing the two of you - not someone else he "might" be seeing-

as you described that much seems clear - I think if he had someone else it would not matter to him whose terms you did things on


I say that because I did all I could. Some men just can't pull the trigger.

Like I said, he does know what he wants and its clearly not me or else it wouldn't be this hard to talk to him. Whatever his reasons might be, maybe something bad happened, I don't know. Like I said, I just don't know a thing.

Discussing the "two" of you? Sorry I'm not understanding what that means.

I think so too. All I wanted for some clarity. I am not demanding it at all. Maybe that's what he thinks. Just I feel like its fair since he was the one who brought up the "I'll call yous" about 3 times. I'm tired of this. I guess this is how the male brain operates. Maybe if we were real friends it wouldn't be so hard for him to actually do what he says.



He sounds like a moron.
laugh

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Wed 02/29/12 09:54 PM
Edited by MariahsFantasy on Wed 02/29/12 09:56 PM
Anything more than friends....yeah it's not going to happen but its ok. :tongue:

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Wed 02/29/12 10:01 PM

He sounds like a moron.


laugh Nah he just isn't into me that way.

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Thu 03/01/12 06:41 AM

Anything more than friends....yeah it's not going to happen but its ok. :tongue:


well he doesn't sound like much of a friend

methinks you're charitable

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Thu 03/01/12 07:16 AM



Honesty is the best policy! (Except when a girl asks you if she looks fat, the of course you always lie!)



I look at it as motivation to lose the lbs.


Yep, me ex-boyfriend told me I was fat too and I lost the weight. :thumbsup:


Sounds like you lost more than the weight...I'm betting you lost the boyfriend, too! "You're right, I could lose some weight...starting with your 220 lbs!"

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Thu 03/01/12 10:22 AM


Anything more than friends....yeah it's not going to happen but its ok. :tongue:


well he doesn't sound like much of a friend

methinks you're charitable


*shrugs* I don't think its a charity case. There's been a lot of misunderstanding going on. Its a bit touchy right now. laugh