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Topic: When a Guy Says
indianadave4 Joined Wed 02/09/11 Posts: 1308	Thu 03/01/12 04:46 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? Generally, some women brag about being able to control or manipulate men by means of sex, emotion or a combination of both. Some men recognize this and call a halt to any manipulation. Yes, some men are controlling but women know the bedroom can be used as a pressure point and men will react negatively if they perceive it happening. In your case, you'd have to ask him. Not all men are the same.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Thu 03/01/12 05:59 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? Generally, some women brag about being able to control or manipulate men by means of sex, emotion or a combination of both. Some men recognize this and call a halt to any manipulation. Yes, some men are controlling but women know the bedroom can be used as a pressure point and men will react negatively if they perceive it happening. In your case, you'd have to ask him. Not all men are the same. You're right about that. But I don't think anyone was manipulated here. I was shocked that he did call back. I'm always shocked when guys do what they say will. Just boils down to some things lost in translation. shrugs

ricsim78 Joined Fri 08/26/11 Posts: 3	Thu 03/01/12 06:37 PM
It means he feels you want everything your way and none his way. I have actually said that to an ex of mine that literally wanted every single thing her way and that is exactly what I meant by it... "We can compromise, we can allow some things your way, some things my way...but no way is EVERYTHING going to be your way." I think these were around my exact words to her? At least that is the way I meant it.

sheen_sabzaar Joined Mon 02/27/12 Posts: 20	Thu 03/01/12 07:16 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? when a man says this to a woman , it means that the man is wise , exposed , experienced n happy.however , it may mean a possible indication of breakup in his relationship coz women cant tolerate such men.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 03/01/12 07:20 PM
Anything more than friends....yeah it's not going to happen but its ok. well he doesn't sound like much of a friend methinks you're charitable shrugs I don't think its a charity case. There's been a lot of misunderstanding going on. Its a bit touchy right now. I meant charitable in your attitude toward him - he doesn't deverve it- I'd have prolly put him on the off my radar permanently list by now (just based on what's been said here)

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Thu 03/01/12 07:21 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? when a man says this to a woman , it means that the man is wise , exposed , experienced n happy.however , it may mean a possible indication of breakup in his relationship coz women cant tolerate such men. exactly - like he's starting trouble as an excuse to break up.....childish

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Thu 03/01/12 07:29 PM Edited by MariahsFantasy on Thu 03/01/12 07:38 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? when a man says this to a woman , it means that the man is wise , exposed , experienced n happy.however , it may mean a possible indication of breakup in his relationship coz women cant tolerate such men. Yes, I think we all can relate to bad breakups. I don't know all the details nor do I care to know really. What's done is done.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Thu 03/01/12 07:31 PM
Anything more than friends....yeah it's not going to happen but its ok. well he doesn't sound like much of a friend methinks you're charitable shrugs I don't think its a charity case. There's been a lot of misunderstanding going on. Its a bit touchy right now. I meant charitable in your attitude toward him - he doesn't deverve it- I'd have prolly put him on the off my radar permanently list by now (just based on what's been said here) Maybe you're right. I have a feeling maybe, I dunno, usually ignoring a man is the best way to be.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Thu 03/01/12 07:32 PM Edited by MariahsFantasy on Thu 03/01/12 07:36 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? when a man says this to a woman , it means that the man is wise , exposed , experienced n happy.however , it may mean a possible indication of breakup in his relationship coz women cant tolerate such men. exactly - like he's starting trouble as an excuse to break up.....childish Hm, people have some issues I guess. And a lot of it has to do with the ex-gf bishes who made them that way. They hold on to the good image that was painted in a guy's mind. I did take a chance. I don't know if there's much here to repair. I laid my heart out there and it wasn't enough. I don't think a friendship could survive this. Maybe I should let him go.

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Thu 03/01/12 08:42 PM
Honesty is the best policy! (Except when a girl asks you if she looks fat, the of course you always lie!) I look at it as motivation to lose the lbs. Yep, me ex-boyfriend told me I was fat too and I lost the weight. Sounds like you lost more than the weight...I'm betting you lost the boyfriend, too! "You're right, I could lose some weight...starting with your 220 lbs!" I did break up with him but not because of that comment. He was right that I was fat but it was because of my accident and I couldn't walk for 4 years.

funches Joined Sat 12/01/07 Posts: 12948	Fri 03/02/12 06:56 AM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? it means he Tarzan you Jane

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Fri 03/02/12 08:59 AM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? it means he Tarzan you Jane

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Fri 03/02/12 09:31 AM
Honesty is the best policy! (Except when a girl asks you if she looks fat, the of course you always lie!) I look at it as motivation to lose the lbs. Yep, me ex-boyfriend told me I was fat too and I lost the weight. Sounds like you lost more than the weight...I'm betting you lost the boyfriend, too! "You're right, I could lose some weight...starting with your 220 lbs!" I did break up with him but not because of that comment. He was right that I was fat but it was because of my accident and I couldn't walk for 4 years. Well, in those conditions I'd say that's crossing the line a tad because of something you can't help.

irisheyes79 Joined Sat 11/10/07 Posts: 16745	Sat 03/03/12 10:40 AM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? hmmmmmmmmmmmm when i say that it usually means my way or hit the road

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Sat 03/03/12 10:51 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? hmmmmmmmmmmmm when i say that it usually means my way or hit the road But you would never say that to me...would you?

iam4u Joined Fri 10/13/06 Posts: 30096	Sat 03/03/12 11:01 PM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? WELL,,I can tell you THIS much,,, I DON'T like orders nor take them WELL at all,,,so I would say WELL THEN,,,I SEE YOUR be doing THINGS,,w/o ME then, And as he then says,,OH SO,,its your way or the highway? YOU can then say,,NO,,,I NEVER EXPRESSED I HAD A WAY,,THANK YOU! But YOU SURE DO?? Bye now,,,,,

Unknow Joined Thu 04/01/10 Posts: 1482	Mon 03/05/12 09:35 AM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? My immediate thought is self-absorbed control freak. No compromise, no mutuality. His way. End of. exactly...................

Unknow Joined Thu 04/01/10 Posts: 1482	Mon 03/05/12 09:42 AM Edited by Unknow on Mon 03/05/12 09:43 AM
he sounds like a moron. have to agree..........

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Mon 03/05/12 09:49 AM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? It means we're only watching the movies I like.

MariahsFantasy Joined Mon 11/28/11 Posts: 6593	Mon 03/05/12 10:32 AM
"We are not going to do things on your terms" ...wtf does that mean? WELL,,I can tell you THIS much,,, I DON'T like orders nor take them WELL at all,,,so I would say WELL THEN,,,I SEE YOUR be doing THINGS,,w/o ME then, And as he then says,,OH SO,,its your way or the highway? YOU can then say,,NO,,,I NEVER EXPRESSED I HAD A WAY,,THANK YOU! But YOU SURE DO?? Bye now,,,,, Those who know me know I do not tolerate control freaks. Been there, done that.