Topic: What should i do?
Desi18's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:14 PM
Hey guys, so I've been texting this guy lately and everything was alright, until he went all creeper on me. During one of our conversations, he mentions that I get online a lot, which is true but we never talk on mingle anymore, so I asked him how he knew that and he says admits that he looks at the pictures on my profile daily.
To be completely honest, I'm really creeped out. Sometimes I wonder why only creeps talk to me online, all I want is a good relationship, something that lasts and this always happens. It seems like I'm not having much luck on mingle, maybe I should stick to talking to guys that go to my school or something.
What do you guys think I should do? Because I'm fed up with creepers.

motowndowntown's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:16 PM
So the guy looks at your pictures and that makes him a "creeper"?

Derekkye's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:17 PM

i re-click photos of good-looking women on dating sites all the time - that shouldn't creep you out...what he does in front of your pic is another story! laugh

Totage's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:19 PM

Hey guys, so I've been texting this guy lately and everything was alright, until he went all creeper on me. During one of our conversations, he mentions that I get online a lot, which is true but we never talk on mingle anymore, so I asked him how he knew that and he says admits that he looks at the pictures on my profile daily.
To be completely honest, I'm really creeped out. Sometimes I wonder why only creeps talk to me online, all I want is a good relationship, something that lasts and this always happens. It seems like I'm not having much luck on mingle, maybe I should stick to talking to guys that go to my school or something.
What do you guys think I should do? Because I'm fed up with creepers.


I think there's creepier things that can be done, but if it's something that made you feel uncomfortable, I would say trust your gut. You know the situation and context better than us. Whenever our gut is telling us something is not right, it usually means something isn't quite right.

Desi18's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:22 PM


i re-click photos of good-looking women on dating sites all the time - that shouldn't creep you out...what he does in front of your pic is another story! laugh

Exactly, he confuessed to that too...daily. That's what I was implying

Desi18's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:22 PM


i re-click photos of good-looking women on dating sites all the time - that shouldn't creep you out...what he does in front of your pic is another story! laugh

Exactly, he confuessed to that too...daily. That's what I was implying

Dodo_David's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:23 PM

Hey guys, so I've been texting this guy lately and everything was alright, until he went all creeper on me. During one of our conversations, he mentions that I get online a lot, which is true but we never talk on mingle anymore, so I asked him how he knew that and he says admits that he looks at the pictures on my profile daily.
To be completely honest, I'm really creeped out. Sometimes I wonder why only creeps talk to me online, all I want is a good relationship, something that lasts and this always happens. It seems like I'm not having much luck on mingle, maybe I should stick to talking to guys that go to my school or something.
What do you guys think I should do? Because I'm fed up with creepers.


Are you unable to find friends where you are without the aid of a website?

Derekkye's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:25 PM



i re-click photos of good-looking women on dating sites all the time - that shouldn't creep you out...what he does in front of your pic is another story! laugh

Exactly, he confuessed to that too...daily. That's what I was implying


ohhh...perhaps he thinks that will turn you on....obviously it hasn't...his interest is in sex with you at this point.

Desi18's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:56 PM


Hey guys, so I've been texting this guy lately and everything was alright, until he went all creeper on me. During one of our conversations, he mentions that I get online a lot, which is true but we never talk on mingle anymore, so I asked him how he knew that and he says admits that he looks at the pictures on my profile daily.
To be completely honest, I'm really creeped out. Sometimes I wonder why only creeps talk to me online, all I want is a good relationship, something that lasts and this always happens. It seems like I'm not having much luck on mingle, maybe I should stick to talking to guys that go to my school or something.
What do you guys think I should do? Because I'm fed up with creepers.


Are you unable to find friends where you are without the aid of a website?

yeah, I could

Desi18's photo
Tue 07/03/12 07:59 PM


Hey guys, so I've been texting this guy lately and everything was alright, until he went all creeper on me. During one of our conversations, he mentions that I get online a lot, which is true but we never talk on mingle anymore, so I asked him how he knew that and he says admits that he looks at the pictures on my profile daily.
To be completely honest, I'm really creeped out. Sometimes I wonder why only creeps talk to me online, all I want is a good relationship, something that lasts and this always happens. It seems like I'm not having much luck on mingle, maybe I should stick to talking to guys that go to my school or something.
What do you guys think I should do? Because I'm fed up with creepers.


I think there's creepier things that can be done, but if it's something that made you feel uncomfortable, I would say trust your gut. You know the situation and context better than us. Whenever our gut is telling us something is not right, it usually means something isn't quite right.

You're right thank you bigsmile

Totage's photo
Tue 07/03/12 08:02 PM
The good thing is you found out he wasn't for you before investing too much into the relationship.

no photo
Tue 07/03/12 08:12 PM
Yeah that is pretty creepy and stalker like. I mean he may just really be into you, but constantly checking you out and watching what you are doing is pretty obsessive.

If you are really uncomfortable, you should cut him loose, or at the very least say something to him about it, make him back off for a bit. At the end of the day it comes down to your comfort level and how you feel. No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable doing something you would otherwise enjoy, and if you do not speak out about it, they will just continue to do it. He may not honestly realize what he is doing bother you.

Do you really have such back luck with EVERY guy online? I mean I know there are lot of strange characters, but usually you do find a couple of normal people who just enjoy talking and making friends.

Anyway, I would hate to see you go as I enjoy chatting with you in the music forum and swapping music ideas with you and as such would miss having you here, but you have to take care of you first and do what makes you happy.

Desi18's photo
Tue 07/03/12 08:20 PM

Yeah that is pretty creepy and stalker like. I mean he may just really be into you, but constantly checking you out and watching what you are doing is pretty obsessive.

If you are really uncomfortable, you should cut him loose, or at the very least say something to him about it, make him back off for a bit. At the end of the day it comes down to your comfort level and how you feel. No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable doing something you would otherwise enjoy, and if you do not speak out about it, they will just continue to do it. He may not honestly realize what he is doing bother you.

Do you really have such back luck with EVERY guy online? I mean I know there are lot of strange characters, but usually you do find a couple of normal people who just enjoy talking and making friends.

Anyway, I would hate to see you go as I enjoy chatting with you in the music forum and swapping music ideas with you and as such would miss having you here, but you have to take care of you first and do what makes you happy.

Well, I don't think I'm going to stop using mingle but, I am definitely cutting him lose. I really enjoy talking to you as well, you should message me sometime :smile:

AriesBonnie's photo
Wed 07/04/12 02:53 PM
You are so young to feel that way already. All three of your photos are similar, so why not take down two of them and put up something different - like an activity type photo.

Also I am curious to know how you got that note at the bottom up to tell people the requirements for sending you an email.

When I respond to an email I often go to their page again to refresh before I hit send. Is this person also the same age as you?

Totage's photo
Wed 07/04/12 02:58 PM

You are so young to feel that way already. All three of your photos are similar, so why not take down two of them and put up something different - like an activity type photo.

Also I am curious to know how you got that note at the bottom up to tell people the requirements for sending you an email.

When I respond to an email I often go to their page again to refresh before I hit send. Is this person also the same age as you?


My Account>Settings>Limit Who Can Send You Mail

no photo
Wed 07/04/12 03:08 PM

Well, I don't think I'm going to stop using mingle but, I am definitely cutting him lose. I really enjoy talking to you as well, you should message me sometime :smile:


Well, I am glad to hear that, it is great having you here. I look forward to chatting more with you in the future. flowerforyou

And it is kind of hard to message you due to your settings. laugh