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Topic: To respond or not to respond?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/17/12 10:50 AM
I tend to respond to those who email me, even if I'm not interested. If I find something interesting about them, but am not into dating them, I'll try to chat a bit. If I just don't think we're a match at all, I'll politely say that and wish them luck in their search. No matter what, though, someone always complains. We hear a lot in the forums people complaining because of no response. I also receive complaints because I did respond, yet am not interested in dating. What do you do? Do you respond only to those you want to date? What about those who you think you can be friends with? And those you're not a match at all with?

FearandLoathing Joined Fri 12/28/07 Posts: 30121	Mon 09/17/12 10:54 AM
Hah...No surprise I don't have this problem. I mainly mail back and forth with close friends, I did receive one from a guy that called me babe not too long ago...I simply responded that I wasn't a babe, and he caught onto me being a guy. Not so quick, some of these people...It would seem.

Ruth34611 Joined Sat 08/02/08 Posts: 32402	Mon 09/17/12 11:00 AM
I don't get that many emails and the ones I do are from people who have obviously not read the one line I have on my profile. I worked very hard to create a warm and welcoming profile.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Mon 09/17/12 11:05 AM
hah. Apparently some like my profile, or so they say. I ask them what they like and they're unable to tell me. Others email me to tell me my profile is too long and there's nothing to talk about if they read it.

Movie07 Joined Wed 03/18/09 Posts: 710	Mon 09/17/12 11:36 AM
Just say thanks,but no thanks

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Mon 09/17/12 11:40 AM
me get emails?haha....yeah right

pennyg281 Joined Thu 11/08/07 Posts: 4348	Mon 09/17/12 11:53 AM
I will respond if the person sounds genuine or Intetesting. But if the ask for my Yahoo or Facebook or if they seem fake I don't respond.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4728	Mon 09/17/12 12:28 PM
I reply if I am interested in learning more about the sender, otherwise I do not respond because it is just a waste of my time and theirs. This is the way most people treat my emails, they only reply if interested in knowing more about me, seems to be the way it works.

Sneaksintoyourheart Joined Fri 10/16/09 Posts: 19261	Mon 09/17/12 12:37 PM
me get emails?haha....yeah right ya we know ur just here for the boobs lol

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Mon 09/17/12 01:51 PM
me get emails?haha....yeah right ya we know ur just here for the boobs lol and i've yet to see any

Totage Joined Sat 10/13/07 Posts: 24210	Mon 09/17/12 03:00 PM
I tend to respond to those who email me, even if I'm not interested. If I find something interesting about them, but am not into dating them, I'll try to chat a bit. If I just don't think we're a match at all, I'll politely say that and wish them luck in their search. No matter what, though, someone always complains. We hear a lot in the forums people complaining because of no response. I also receive complaints because I did respond, yet am not interested in dating. What do you do? Do you respond only to those you want to date? What about those who you think you can be friends with? And those you're not a match at all with? I respond to those who contact me, even if it is just to say it's not going to happen.

beauty314 Joined Sat 04/19/08 Posts: 1709	Mon 09/17/12 03:02 PM
I usually don't respond when: I can't pronounce your first name I have no idea where the heck you live Your message contains less than three words Your username promises something disgusting And if I do respond and dude wants to go to Yahoo right away, I quit responding because I know that going to Yahoo = an unwelcome and alarming penis pic

Goofball73 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 33913	Mon 09/17/12 08:09 PM
I will respond to most emails. But if I get the "I wanna put hot chocolate on you, lick it off, and then punch you in the face while you call me Susan" emails? Well....I block those chicks.

ShugahBee Joined Mon 07/23/12 Posts: 241	Mon 09/17/12 11:47 PM
I think its polite to reply as wouldnt walk off being rude if someone said hello at the store shrugs

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 09/18/12 05:59 AM
I reply if I am interested in learning more about the sender, otherwise I do not respond because it is just a waste of my time and theirs. This is the way most people treat my emails, they only reply if interested in knowing more about me, seems to be the way it works. So, you assume that if you get a response, they're interested in you?

Jtevans Joined Fri 08/10/07 Posts: 30654	Tue 09/18/12 06:44 AM
I usually don't respond when: I can't pronounce your first name I have no idea where the heck you live Your message contains less than three words Your username promises something disgusting And if I do respond and dude wants to go to Yahoo right away, I quit responding because I know that going to Yahoo = an unwelcome and alarming penis pic i thought any woman that responds to my messages wants to 1) either send me boob pics 2) see my wiener

Torgo70 Joined Fri 06/27/08 Posts: 27387	Tue 09/18/12 07:37 AM
I respond to the few I do get.

Duttoneer Joined Sun 07/01/12 Posts: 4728	Tue 09/18/12 10:15 AM
I reply if I am interested in learning more about the sender, otherwise I do not respond because it is just a waste of my time and theirs. This is the way most people treat my emails, they only reply if interested in knowing more about me, seems to be the way it works. So, you assume that if you get a response, they're interested in you? If someone takes the time to send me a reply to my email to them, I think it reasonable to assume they have an interest in learning more about me, unless of course they say otherwise. I have no wish to be ignorant, but I only reply to initial emails if I am interested in learning more about them as well, it just seems the best way. I believe most people do the same and do not take offence. I certainly take no offence when I fail to receive a reply to an initial email I have sent, which is more often than not.

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Tue 09/18/12 10:20 AM
Mostly I don't respond because it's usually obvious that they didn't read a thing on my profile.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 09/18/12 10:22 AM
I reply if I am interested in learning more about the sender, otherwise I do not respond because it is just a waste of my time and theirs. This is the way most people treat my emails, they only reply if interested in knowing more about me, seems to be the way it works. So, you assume that if you get a response, they're interested in you? If someone takes the time to send me a reply to my email to them, I think it reasonable to assume they have an interest in learning more about me, unless of course they say otherwise. I have no wish to be ignorant, but I only reply to initial emails if I am interested in learning more about them as well, it just seems the best way. I believe most people do the same and do not take offence. I certainly take no offence when I fail to receive a reply to an initial email I have sent, which is more often than not. I asked because some seem to assume that a response equals interest in dating. That's not always the case. Though, most people do take offense at not receiving a response from what I've seen.