Guys just try to be honest and say the truth so the question here is how will you feel when someone you love with your holl heart is the one that make,s you cry all the time, so tell me how will you feel.

I think that I would feel upset if I was doing that.

I think that I would probably feel that it wasn't worth it and I don't know if I would feel that the problems could be sorted out but I would at least try.

Comming on a dating site to rehatch old memories & talk
about our feelings is not my speciality

ask me about how to avoid this or how to get away
from this.
I guess I would feel like 10 pounds of sh★t in a
5 pound bag. Change

If someone made me cry all the time, I can't imagine they are treating me well enough to give them my whole heart. I don't make people cry, and deserve the same respect and care from others...ESPECIALLY the one I'll be giving my heart to.

Should I be happy? Unless it's tears of happiness..but if it's the other way around then why waste my precious time in a stupid person who doesn't know my worth at all. That's already an emotional abuse if he always make me cry..

Reading this made me sad, it took me back to a time when I suffered through a similar situation...I stayed too long because I didn't know how to let go...The emotional cost was staggering....Find a way to walk away...

This is real interesting !!!! and realy backs up my argument about woman often have surface love
and men go deep.
If a woman is making a man cry I guarantee his love is deep and has no more of
His heart to give.

Intresting,

We are not talking about the same thing here, unless you're saying that a woman is shallow if she doesn't put up with abusive behavior.

Being familiar with your posting, I doubt that's what you mean, so have to assume that we took the OP to mean different things altogether.

To clarify my previous post, I am suggesting that the man is being treated poorly and should take his heart back before she destroys it cometely. He deserves better.

To clarify my previous post, I am suggesting that the man is being treated poorly and should take his heart back before she destroys it cometely. He deserves better.

Last chick that made me cry had me tied up, gagged and....... Oops. Wrong thread. My bad.

Iv been in that kind of rel when my bf made me cry all the time and my friends wud ask me y do i cling to him when all he do is made me cry. My answer was i love him and the single joy he gave me was enough to erase all the tears/hurt he caused me.

But eventually i grew tired, i have nothing left to give him, and realized that i dont deserve such treatment.

In a rel, both should row the boat so u cud reach the shore, in our case i got tired of rowing the boat alone. :)

you are right dear i like your comment, you know when you loved someone is always had for you to leave that person no matter what he/she did to you just because of the love you have for him/her

I'll

your first quote is you speaking in the first party in a hypothetically situation
Its only the one you love that can make you cry, for a straight man to cry he will have
Not one bit of his heart held back at this point, he's all in, jumped in whith both feet, all the eggs are in
one basket.
Now you said you couldn't imagine giving more of your heart to somebody thats
making you cry all the time.

So in your first & third guote you made reference both time's to holding
Back or not giving anymore of your heart, and I'm pointing out that
from a straight mans point of view and i'll go out on a limb and take
the privilege and speak on behave of 99.864 of all straight men
& say this again, that no ST. Man is going to cry on a frequent
basis or probably not at all unless he's 100% "committed" to a
"Love union"

So there's a difference to how we love, only a woman could say it
the way you say said it!!!
I understand that a woman may be more sensitive at first but
Its usually because she's falling fast in love but its been my
experience that they cry a lot & say their stupid in love but
the process seems to revert sometime in three month's.
Its strange a woman can just say things like I'm going to
Pull back some of my heart or pull back my heart & do it as she says it
Why am I supprised,with this comming from a creature that
Can bleed for a week with out dying and buries a bone quicker
than any dog.
We just fisicaly cant understand each other we tic of a compley different chemical.

I geuss it just comes down to me knowing so much,but not knowing anything
It feels like something i cant master, like an incomplete.

Its not that you said it it how you said it, and thats the female way
which is a different way but all a different love.

I suppose this just hit a nerve and exposed things I literally closed the book on 10
year's ago & swept under the rug abandoning the will to care.
Its really all rhetorical. ..just had to say what I started.
I see its not just a "bad thread for me"
Thanx ...

If a man already had my heart and later in the relationship started making me cry, then I would feel the same way. It would be hard for me to just back out, having experienced the man he used to be...the one I gave my heart to.

I based my answer on the assumption that this is what the relationship has always been...in which case, I could not give my heart to someone cruel.

I don't know what your experiences have been, but if it's your belief that most women can't love as wholeheartedly as men, then I might suggest you are simply dating emotionally unavailable women, because that's simply not true. Maybe hockey is not the great girlfriend qualifier you have so adamantly professed?

I might also suggest that jumping in with both feet before learning a person's true nature may not be the best comparison with which to gauge a woman's capacity for love.

It's not been my own experience that men hand their hearts over fully any more quickly than most women. So, I would not easily understand your viewpoint, having never "jumped". Not everyone moves at the same pace, so we will have different experiences....and apparently, different attitudes.

I think I'll stick to my slower pace though, because I have friends who leap quickly and often and cry way too much for my taste. Where, I, taking my time knowing a man's nature first, have had fewer relationships which lasted longer and resulted in fewer tears ...if any. Each of which I committed my heart to completely.

If we still don't see eye to eye, then no sweat, Pony. I just thought you might want to try to understand ONE woman's perspective. Or maybe you'd prefer to continue believing women are all just shallow lovers. Not my business...just trying to be friendly.

That's easy. I stay out of the kitchen while she is chopping onions.

that i m not important to him.. even though it will be difficult it is better to part our ways

I have been in your shoes and recently.. The situation lasted a long time, much longer than it should have.

Despite what friends, and family tried to tell me I continually gave myself reasons to keep trying.

* The other person is damaged and just needs more love
* They werent always like this and can change
* Love means never giving up or letting go
* It would be too hard to start over
* People go through rough times, its normal

I have no way of knowing the reasons that your giving yourself to stay in this situation, and I wont try to tell you what is right or wrong, or what you should or shouldn't do.

All I can tell you is the choice I made for myself, which was to give up what I thought I could have, and what I thought I felt. For a day to day life where strangely, no one repetitively hurts me.

I'm no longer putting my time and energy into a something where I always feel like I failed somehow. My quality of work has improved, my health has improved, and I feel like I've regained a huge part of myself as an individual that I had forgotten about.

SO to answer your question directly, loving someone who hurt me constantly was something that made me feel very depressed, caused me to question myself as a person, and basically, I was miserable.

I don't know the details of your situation, but if your feeling that way I can only hope that you come up with some plan to either correct the situation, or exit it. And if you ran into the issue I did, 6 years of trying to fix the situation only served to prolong my torment.

Ultimately, you should take some time to yourself without anyone elses input, and ask yourself what you really want from your life.

Then, decide on a course of action to achieve it.

Growing up to be the woman that I am now, came up with lots of experiences & lessons to take with as moving forth in life. I now know my worth better than I did before. My being is my personal space. I believe that I have control & influence of things or even people I let into my personal space.

I would never waste time with someone abusive, I'd walk away cause I surely deserve better than tears, fore behind those tears that i'll wipe away, there are emational scares that I won't be able to wipe away like I did with the visible tears.

I love my self enough to be alone than having a partner that will make me cry.