As it relates to online dating I believe there are three goals that people strive for, and I have listed them in order of popularity.

1) Physical attractions / sexual interaction
2) Online communication
3) Actual dating experiences
4) True love & marriage

Why is it that most people are just looking for something to pass the time, but when someone is open and honest about they that are chastised for that fact.

I personally think being online for me gives me less expectations because I find most people are very far away which pulls away from the hopes of actually dating and true love and marriage. Therefore it feels better to pass the time then to have realistic expectations of finding my true love here.

very true @ simonedemidova because same happens to me. mingle give me a very nice hearted girl but she is far away from me, we both have good convo on mails as well as on video chat, she want to date with me in real but can not possible because of long distance :( anyways we are still happy at least we can talk with each other who knows some day we will meet, and we know it will happen.

I think girls are the most people passing time on here. They actually don't know what they want (complicated). When a guy is honest, and eager to make a move, they snub or deactivate their account.

I think men and woman are confused about dating online. We never know if the person is telling the truth. Btw men that are in there late 40's need to stop chasing young woman. And the young guys need to stop trying to date older woman. This dating online really sucks

I agree, when you sit behind a computer screen...you can be whatever you want to be. It is hard to trust people on-line because you don't know if they are trying to scam you or if they are telling you the truth.
I am honestly looking for my best friend that I can not live without. They do not have to be perfect but be perfect for me. Usually when I think OH WOW, NOW HE IS SWEET, he lives a million miles away from me. This is one of the down falls to on-line dating or even friendships.

Way behind someone's screen,you dont really know who or what they,some girls here are fraud,you never get to get the truth out of them,in some cases others are even guys posing are girls,when chatting with them,along the line they disappear,i dont know the reason for them,same applies to the guys

Depends what dating site you're on.
And don't forget there's a great many ppl on this site who never ever post on the forum-board. Basically it's a small group of ppl who do and when you read lengthy threads and the postings, some 50% or more is BS and/or goofing around, not serious replies.
Maybe people intend on a serious encounter aren't to be found on this board?

But is it actually any different from ppl you meet in real life? Let's say you went to a pub, maybe even a single's pub. How many in that pub would be looking for
1) Physical attractions / sexual interaction
2) communication
3) Actual dating experiences
4) True love & marriage

I don't think there's much of a difference. Just like many Mingle members never post here, many ppl in RL might never go to that pub.
Personally I think you should've added a nr 5: passing time / nothing else to do. Hence the goofing around, chastising of others etc.
Which would go for the pub as well, as there's always the ones that think they're funny.

Difference is in a pub you wouldn't hang out with those ppl if you didn't like them, you'd choose your own group to mingle with. Here you post something and the entire "pub" replies.

Forums are for chatting and local people are for dating. Sure, I come on here to pass the time and for a form of social interaction but I might be doing it while I'm waiting for replies from someone. I came on here to meet women and have done but there's no way of getting away from the fact that Mingle is quite poor as a dating site for meeting people that live in your local area. I don't even believe that half of the profiles are real people.

It is hard to tell if someone that you are messaging is for real and on this forum some people like to present themselves in a particular way because they actually care what people on the internet think about them. Others aren't so concerned about that and might goof around but many a true word is said in jest. It's the ones that seem to take themselves too seriously that I'm suspicious of.

Just someone who values being committed to a serious relationship really. Good sex, lots of romantic stuff etc. is fun, but it`s only a bonus in life.

So a relationship without good sex, romantic stuff etc. would also be okay for you, as long as it is a serious relationship?
To my mind this could also be a friendship. The desire to have sex (don't mean lust here), intimacy, romantic stuff is what defines a 'regular' relationship or friendship from a partner relationship.

Ppl so easily say sex isn't important, but if you take that out of the equation, you end up with a very different type of relationship. It's not just not having sex (anymore), but a big change in interaction and vibe between two ppl if you remove the sex and intimacy bit.

Anyway, I digress ... there's two questions: the on in the header and this one
Why is it that most people are just looking for something to pass the time, but when someone is open and honest about they that are chastised for that fact.

You`re just being ignorant, people are different. Yet, you keep on applying the same rules for everyone. Some people can actually feel love for others, it`s not about comfort, sex etc. for everyone.

2,3 and 4 here.

I agree...its just easier to pass time here. I have met some wonderful ppl here, its really too bad that so many are so far away. I dont have plans to move.

Because most woman are insecure, it`s not your fault. The same reason so many men are turning gay as well, because they can`t find a woman who are confident in themselves - basically a stupid woman syndrome, I mean, since most smart woman are confident. And the stupid, insecure woman keeps on spreading their nonsense about sex being all that important etc. beause they just can`t get their head around stuff.

Well I don't want to brag or anything, but in a few years I will move to Brazil, or Greece, or some nice tropic destination. And therefore if I meet some nice lady here, she is gonna have to go with me. I know...I am so heartless and selfish. How dare I make a woman move with me to a tropical paradise.

Excellent; I share the sentiment, but have shed all expectations of a positive nature...

We pass moe time here than men because we're not answering booty calls

I was looking for a cup of ice water. Did I have these other choices too?

You are so heartless, goof.