Topic: finding someone
beachdog50's photo
Tue 02/25/14 09:12 AM
Driverbob42! It looks to me you have a lot to be happy for. I really don't think this rant of yours are gonna get you any dates on here. Remember what they say about first impressions..Hi red_lace!It's been a long time how ya been?

Annie's photo
Tue 02/25/14 04:53 PM
:smile:
If a Woman and man cannot
understand the beauty
of life, it is probably
because life never
understood the beauty
in him or her.

Judgement prevent us from seeing the
good that lies beyond appearances, sometimes, we provoke them, and i dont believe, that nobody knows how to judge other's in accordance with the appearance, only that, you judge to let that person grow up and mold itself to a
better one's ,second thing is, judge that person to despise.

True love is eternal even if a
relationship grows apart. When
you surrender judgment, you will
see the divine in everyone,
including you.
This is love.


driverbob42's photo
Wed 02/26/14 02:18 AM
You read my mind very well put and very true also I like the philisophical approach to it thank you for weighing in on it sometimes you have to go against the grain and stand up for what you believe in even if it isn't popular with the crowd I have the heart of a warrior and a warrior must fight for what they feel is right no matter the cost or sacrafice

driverbob42's photo
Wed 02/26/14 02:21 AM
Thank you too many people look for love with their eyes when they need to be looking with their hearts they don't realize their eyes will decieve them their heart won't

no photo
Wed 02/26/14 06:36 AM

Hi red_lace!It's been a long time how ya been?


Beachdog! :)

I'm good. Finally got hitched. Hahahaha.

And how are you? Still think your dogs' pictures are beautiful.


clintb74's photo
Wed 02/26/14 06:43 AM

Thank you too many people look for love with their eyes when they need to be looking with their hearts they don't realize their eyes will decieve them their heart won't


Amen!!!

Online dating sites can blind a person.

allie0408's photo
Wed 02/26/14 06:44 AM
Edited by allie0408 on Wed 02/26/14 06:45 AM


I am starting to think that maybe why no response is because there are very few real people here like yahoo chat was


You are being judgmental. Want real people not on a computer, go to a gym.


You are letting your pain and frustration talk. The fact that a few people look at your profile and decide not to contact you may not be because of your looks but because of what you wrote and the message it comes across. If you are putting yourself down and expecting for people to appreciate you and value you then you're waisting your time. You need to love yourself and feel worth it and nobody has to bear your needs to make you feel handsome or attractive enough. When we change our point of view about ourselves and begin to feel not only good enough but great and worth it then you have something different to offer and people begin to notice you. Good luck working on yourself and learning how to love yourself.

driverbob42's photo
Wed 02/26/14 08:43 AM
I don't paint unrealistic pictures of things its not about not loving myself its about being real even with myself and accepting reality for what it is I am fine with who I am in order to find the solution you have to go the distance I am not tryin to win a popularity contest but as I maintain if others can say what ever they want so can I I won't allow someone to tell me what to do that doesn't know the situation or the context of why something is being said

Shy_Emo_chick's photo
Wed 02/26/14 08:51 AM
I read the profile of every guy that sends me an e-mail. Yet, those profiles that hardly said anything about them, I thought "What's the point?". They had no pic, either. If their profile isn't telling me much about what kind of person he is, then I lose interest.

clintb74's photo
Wed 02/26/14 09:08 AM



I am starting to think that maybe why no response is because there are very few real people here like yahoo chat was


You are being judgmental. Want real people not on a computer, go to a gym.


You are letting your pain and frustration talk. The fact that a few people look at your profile and decide not to contact you may not be because of your looks but because of what you wrote and the message it comes across. If you are putting yourself down and expecting for people to appreciate you and value you then you're waisting your time. You need to love yourself and feel worth it and nobody has to bear your needs to make you feel handsome or attractive enough. When we change our point of view about ourselves and begin to feel not only good enough but great and worth it then you have something different to offer and people begin to notice you. Good luck working on yourself and learning how to love yourself.


Some profiles are tongue-in-cheek and set up to see what responses they get out of curiosity. I have read some profiles that are genius in its sarcasm. You may want to keep that in mind.

Some things are not what they seem.

vanaheim's photo
Wed 02/26/14 09:15 AM

I read the profile of every guy that sends me an e-mail. Yet, those profiles that hardly said anything about them, I thought "What's the point?". They had no pic, either. If their profile isn't telling me much about what kind of person he is, then I lose interest.


darn my fudgy fingers hit "report post" before "quote", I navigated back a page straight away so I don't think the "report post" mistake registered, but my apolegies if it did.

I was going to say, whilst you certainly seem to have the right approach the problem could be many have the same attitude towards a romantic spark at first meeting, which is all well and good but it's glamour, illusion and not very sincere unless you give yourselves time to interact for a bit and generate a genuine attraction on other levels, which affect the way a person physically looks to you (visual attraction is an intellectual construct and is continually being reprogrammed through experiences and influences).

Often in date scenarios women tend to be ridiculously impatient and dare I say it, initially contemptuous of their proposed partner. Body language is governed by moods and transient psychology and aren't actually accurate forms of communication, yet that first glance, if you've made her feel feminine and desirable at onset, moods and psychological tactics and nothing whatsoever to do with personalities, yet the primary means to be dismissively or acceptably judged by women on a first date. Your whole personality judged by which chess piece you moved on a board.

Ten minutes into a sit down conversation an endearing look laced with sexualized attraction is going to be genuine and sincere for the first time so far, but women have generally judged and either friendzoned or made baby plans about you long before then.

kelvin180's photo
Wed 02/26/14 01:06 PM
Hi

Dodo_David's photo
Wed 02/26/14 01:58 PM
Edited by Dodo_David on Wed 02/26/14 02:01 PM

I don't paint unrealistic pictures of things its not about not loving myself its about being real even with myself and accepting reality for what it is I am fine with who I am in order to find the solution you have to go the distance I am not tryin to win a popularity contest but as I maintain if others can say what ever they want so can I I won't allow someone to tell me what to do that doesn't know the situation or the context of why something is being said


Dude, in your first posts in this discussion thread, you come across as saying that you are every woman's desire.

You also come across as whining about women not responding to you the way that you want them to.

Let's cut to the chase.

Lots of single women don't want to travel to another state to be with a man.

Lots of single women don't want to sit at home while their men are always away from home on business.

Lots of single women don't want a life in which they are always on the road in a semi.

More important, lots of single women don't want to get involved with a man who is still legally married.

In short, to lots of single women, you aren't as hot as you think you are.

anskay's photo
Wed 02/26/14 02:21 PM
Am in need of true partner no matter D distance.

soufiehere's photo
Wed 02/26/14 02:46 PM
Edited for disparaging remarks about other members.
All opinions are valuable.

soufie
Site Moderator

Dodo_David's photo
Wed 02/26/14 02:56 PM
The quickest way to get others on this website to give you negative feedback is for you to complain about how people don't respond to your existence the way that you want them to.

Such behavior always backfires, as seen in the responses in this particular discussion thread.

no photo
Wed 02/26/14 03:00 PM

The quickest way to get others on this website to give you negative feedback is for you to complain about how people don't respond to your existence the way that you want them to.

Such behavior always backfires, as seen in the responses in this particular discussion thread.

I agree
I would much rather reply to a happy soul like you Dodo.
Hopefully Bob will see it that way and make some new friends and have all his dreams come true.

Dodo_David's photo
Wed 02/26/14 03:06 PM


The quickest way to get others on this website to give you negative feedback is for you to complain about how people don't respond to your existence the way that you want them to.

Such behavior always backfires, as seen in the responses in this particular discussion thread.

I agree
I would much rather reply to a happy soul like you Dodo.
Hopefully Bob will see it that way and make some new friends and have all his dreams come true.


Thank you, franky. A "hug" nudge is headed your way. :smile:

Candiapples's photo
Wed 02/26/14 07:17 PM

I am very serious people say they want various stuff n when someone has what they want they get wrote off as no good with one glance without a word ever being spoken to them

You just cannot change people and it seems to me that alot of people using online dating sites have unrealistic expectations.

Forty year old men with no job and have no pot to piss in wanna be sugar daddys to HOT 20 year olds and honestly believe they will

To be fair..theres alot of older women on this site who I think are just way too fussy and expect a fairytale Prince to come along and sweep them off their feet..sorry but that aint gonna happen

Then theres the young charmers..they think that all of us older women are desperate and grateful for making us feel sexy and desireable and will drop our panties for them in a flash

So many are in LaLa land

That Sir..is what online dating is about these days and why people look at the cover and throw the book away


Dodo_David's photo
Wed 02/26/14 07:27 PM

I am very serious people say they want various stuff n when someone has what they want they get wrote off as no good with one glance without a word ever being spoken to them


I seriously doubt that the single women on this website want to become involved with a man who is still legally married.

I seriously doubt that the single women on this website are looking for a man who is constantly away from home because his job requires it.