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Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
LowRange Joined Sat 12/28/13 Posts: 665	Mon 07/14/14 10:02 AM
Or was it the other way around yehr. Jekyl was the well respected doc. gotta hide from hyde. I figured I had that backwards ...thanks

graywolf55 Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1259	Mon 07/14/14 10:55 AM
Because we all like hyde but nobody likes jeckle Most women want the bad boy, Mr. Hyde. That is, until they catch him. Then, they wind up spending their elderly years no-lifing on dating sites. It doesn't have to be that way! some good Men are here(raising hand) quit supporting those "BAD BOYS" and give a MAN a chance??

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Mon 07/14/14 11:06 AM
Because we all like hyde but nobody likes jeckle Most women want the bad boy, Mr. Hyde. That is, until they catch him. Then, they wind up spending their elderly years no-lifing on dating sites. so are you saying most women want bad boys till they marry them, then promptly divorce them? No.

456tessa Joined Wed 07/11/12 Posts: 179	Mon 07/14/14 11:09 AM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them)

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Mon 07/14/14 11:19 AM
When its books are what you're there about, but looks are what you care about; its time you learn the Facts of Life....

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Mon 07/14/14 11:24 AM
Perhaps blaming something out of one's control, permits one to avoid those things that are in one's control but are hard to admit to or deal with.

yunatorres0706 Joined Mon 07/14/14 Posts: 1	Mon 07/14/14 11:43 AM
true...(:

seethestar Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 92	Mon 07/14/14 02:48 PM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them) Those are facets resulting from a lack there of that is... the physical unattractiveness they tip toed around in the first place.. Come on, did you really think that showing him "the real you" would result in him not contiuing to compare you to other women?

seethestar Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 92	Mon 07/14/14 02:51 PM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them) Those are facets resulting from a lack there of that is... the physical unattractiveness they tip toed around in the first place.. Come on, did you really think that showing him "the real you" would result in him not contiuing to compare you to other women?

seethestar Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 92	Mon 07/14/14 03:44 PM Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 03:45 PM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them) Those are facets resulting from a lack there of that is... the physical unattractiveness they tip toed around in the first place.. Come on, did you really think that showing him "the real you" would result in him not contiuing to compare you to other women? the op was 'why people get dumped' not look at other women. Well. What I mean is the undermined attitude people have towards physical attraction is usually their blind spot when confronted with rejection.

graywolf55 Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1259	Mon 07/14/14 04:04 PM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them) I won't lie about anything here or to anyone, but firstoff are you wanting a MAN or a remote control robot, television? Most of my friends on here (Ladies) know or have kept up with me in the forums see me at least for who i am and not what they want me to be. Everyone has their preferences on (who they want to date) but for Changing that person th what you want? Yes in a relationship both should be true and content with each other but most Marriages are going to be Divorces from the Words (I DO) if a person is changing for you or that's expected! Find the person you want to be with before this happens, there at least ONE! Don't put your expectations on the other(you both loose) and if Children are involved from this coupling (they are the worst losers of all)! Think!!

graywolf55 Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1259	Mon 07/14/14 04:23 PM
One more thing was mentioned was( cosmetic surgery) this may change your outer beauty but the inner demon will still be there!! Inner beauty is the best so is (Growing the Hell Up!!) Can't change that!!

bakedbeens Joined Sun 07/06/14 Posts: 79	Mon 07/14/14 04:28 PM
It's relative

seethestar Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 92	Mon 07/14/14 04:47 PM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them) I won't lie about anything here or to anyone, but firstoff are you wanting a MAN or a remote control robot, television? Most of my friends on here (Ladies) know or have kept up with me in the forums see me at least for who i am and not what they want me to be. Everyone has their preferences on (who they want to date) but for Changing that person th what you want? Yes in a relationship both should be true and content with each other but most Marriages are going to be Divorces from the Words (I DO) if a person is changing for you or that's expected! Find the person you want to be with before this happens, there at least ONE! Don't put your expectations on the other(you both loose) and if Children are involved from this coupling (they are the worst losers of all)! Think!! If "being who he is" means allowing him to wish I was beyonce they he step off and step out.. ....no way around it

graywolf55 Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1259	Mon 07/14/14 05:05 PM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them) I won't lie about anything here or to anyone, but firstoff are you wanting a MAN or a remote control robot, television? Most of my friends on here (Ladies) know or have kept up with me in the forums see me at least for who i am and not what they want me to be. Everyone has their preferences on (who they want to date) but for Changing that person th what you want? Yes in a relationship both should be true and content with each other but most Marriages are going to be Divorces from the Words (I DO) if a person is changing for you or that's expected! Find the person you want to be with before this happens, there at least ONE! Don't put your expectations on the other(you both loose) and if Children are involved from this coupling (they are the worst losers of all)! Think!! If "being who he is" means allowing him to wish I was beyonce they he step off and step out.. ....no way around it Agree- So stop picking those type of (losers) to date!! You are the one that chose them! No is in my Vocabulary! Besides you talk of cosmetic surgery (why?) that's not going to change a damn thing but your looks and you are a beautiful young lady to be down on the Men you yourself chose to be with! Cool- Fool the words of today -ahhhhhhhhh to be young and foolish again in my prime. Hell no ,i wouldn't trade my life now to be Young and Stupid again!!

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Mon 07/14/14 05:17 PM
I once stopped up a toilet at a girls house... Or are we talking about a different kind of dump ?? They both smell about the same

graywolf55 Joined Wed 09/19/12 Posts: 1259	Mon 07/14/14 05:22 PM
Adjust- Transcending them? that's not changing? Or they talking of themselves?

seethestar Joined Sun 06/15/14 Posts: 92	Mon 07/14/14 05:30 PM
I cant name just one reson, so i'll name three.. , but they are, in fact, very intertwined: * lying, deceiving,not being able to be what they really are (for various reasons: fear, high demands, underlying agenda etc.) * not communicating properly about positive and negative aspects of the relationship * not being able to deal with the differences (communicating, adjusting, accepting, transcending them) I won't lie about anything here or to anyone, but firstoff are you wanting a MAN or a remote control robot, television? Most of my friends on here (Ladies) know or have kept up with me in the forums see me at least for who i am and not what they want me to be. Everyone has their preferences on (who they want to date) but for Changing that person th what you want? Yes in a relationship both should be true and content with each other but most Marriages are going to be Divorces from the Words (I DO) if a person is changing for you or that's expected! Find the person you want to be with before this happens, there at least ONE! Don't put your expectations on the other(you both loose) and if Children are involved from this coupling (they are the worst losers of all)! Think!! If "being who he is" means allowing him to wish I was beyonce they he step off and step out.. ....no way around it Agree- So stop picking those type of (losers) to date!! You are the one that chose them! No is in my Vocabulary! Besides you talk of cosmetic surgery (why?) that's not going to change a damn thing but your looks and you are a beautiful young lady to be down on the Men you yourself chose to be with! Cool- Fool the words of today -ahhhhhhhhh to be young and foolish again in my prime. Hell no ,i wouldn't trade my life now to be Young and Stupid again!! Thanks that's nice but still.. it's important to be aware of this stuff

TBRich Joined Fri 11/07/08 Posts: 8232	Mon 07/14/14 05:32 PM
I once stopped up a toilet at a girls house... Or are we talking about a different kind of dump ?? They both smell about the same You are filthy! Did I tell you the time I once dumped in some woman's mop bucket? Or the time I dumped in the middle on another's living room! But I am much better now.

Thomas27 Joined Sun 10/21/07 Posts: 4860	Mon 07/14/14 05:36 PM
I once stopped up a toilet at a girls house... Or are we talking about a different kind of dump ?? They both smell about the same You are filthy! Did I tell you the time I once dumped in some woman's mop bucket? Or the time I dumped in the middle on another's living room! But I am much better now. Like in the movie TED!