Topic: the number one reason people get dumped
0ldhag's photo
Mon 07/14/14 03:27 AM
Edited by 0ldhag on Mon 07/14/14 03:27 AM

Ill say that a number one reason people get dumped is because (IMO) of self loathing. .

BUT, how can you honestly feel comfortable watching a movie starring Jessica alba, only to go home and have the man you're sharing yourself with more than likely fantasize about her?


Fantasizing over someone in a movie is one thing ( i'd probably have fantasized over the lead actor too) but for me it's when you walk past a pretty girl... because that girl is more 'real' then the ones in the movie, she/those are the ones that concern me regarding his fantasizing...I truly believe in the end, men aren't satisfied with what they have ..but of course, it goes both ways as well I guess..

seethestar's photo
Mon 07/14/14 03:42 AM


Ill say that a number one reason people get dumped is because (IMO) of self loathing. .

BUT, how can you honestly feel comfortable watching a movie starring Jessica alba, only to go home and have the man you're sharing yourself with more than likely fantasize about her?


Fantasizing over someone in a movie is one thing ( i'd probably have fantasized over the lead actor too) but for me it's when you walk past a pretty girl... because that girl is more 'real' then the ones in the movie, she/those are the ones that concern me regarding his fantasizing...I truly believe in the end, men aren't satisfied with what they have ..but of course, it goes both ways as well I guess..


It's unacceptable in both situations. I've dumped plenty of guys over it.

graywolf55's photo
Mon 07/14/14 05:43 AM
Fantasies are exactly that (unreal)! There are a lot of beautiful Women here on mingle and in all countries around the world!! But how good are they where it counts(on the inside) that's all that matters to me!! Age plays tricks on a person as they grow OLDER, some hold their looks well but the body has a different outlook on your physical capability on or in a relationship! Then there's the mentality on why you want a relationship in the first place, love,money companionship, whatever your material needs are even raising children ! This nowadays goes for both Men and Women! Of course Vanity rules every time( i'm too good) for him or her? Good question here is, How the Hell Will You ever Know if You Don't Try?

seethestar's photo
Mon 07/14/14 06:06 AM

Fantasies are exactly that (unreal)! There are a lot of beautiful Women here on mingle and in all countries around the world!! But how good are they where it counts(on the inside) that's all that matters to me!! Age plays tricks on a person as they grow OLDER, some hold their looks well but the body has a different outlook on your physical capability on or in a relationship! Then there's the mentality on why you want a relationship in the first place, love,money companionship, whatever your material needs are even raising children ! This nowadays goes for both Men and Women! Of course Vanity rules every time( i'm too good) for him or her? Good question here is, How the Hell Will You ever Know if You Don't Try?


You don't try.. the minute I sense a guy is looking elsewhere he can stay away from me.. which is why in order to not get dumped.. I'm going to invest in plastic surgery.. (since vanity rules)

seethestar's photo
Mon 07/14/14 06:28 AM
Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 06:28 AM

fantasy is not infidelity. On the other hand if you think he has to fantasize about another woman to enjoy sex with you, thats different. That would be more like not a match than the infidelity being the problem.

would it be wrong if he fantasized about being in the tropics while having sex with you in his bedroom? its just imagination. As long as he knows he's with you why worry about the things that pass through his mind. At least hes thinking about something instead of a bump on a log.

At the same time, if he is chronically checking out other women while dining with you or something similar, thats disrespectful. Its also a sign that he is not fully IN the relationship with you.


It's NOT ok EVER.. I think true equal love is reserved for the extremely beautiful.

seethestar's photo
Mon 07/14/14 06:43 AM
Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 06:46 AM
Well.. all in all you really still have to be beautiful to land 'em.. and when they get tired of ya, or you so much as sense their eyes wandering (looking at other women, porn hanging with single friends) you CUT 'EM LOOSE NOT JUST give 'em enough rope to hang themselves. .

...I remember some loser wanted to take me to a flippin' Beyonce concert.. I told him to never call me again. I think he wanted to be with me that night while fantasizing about her..

no photo
Mon 07/14/14 07:01 AM

Often I think people just start taking each other for granted and forget to try anymore, eventually leading to one of the couple finding someone new or becoming tired of the relationship.


I agree with Josie but I think taking someone for granted or making them feel like the friendship is not important even for a shorter term relationship as well as a marriage or LTR

I think it's the #1 reason even over cheating because taking someone for granted often lies behind the cheating behavior

seethestar's photo
Mon 07/14/14 07:15 AM


Often I think people just start taking each other for granted and forget to try anymore, eventually leading to one of the couple finding someone new or becoming tired of the relationship.


I agree with Josie but I think taking someone for granted or making them feel like the friendship is not important even for a shorter term relationship as well as a marriage or LTR

I think it's the #1 reason even over cheating because taking someone for granted often lies behind the cheating behavior


It begins and ends with beauty

willing2's photo
Mon 07/14/14 07:40 AM
Edited by willing2 on Mon 07/14/14 07:49 AM
In most cases exterior beauty fades.

And this is what happens when that beautiful woman opens her mouth.



http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NF5XU-k2Vk

Sing along.

Jimmy Soul – If You Wanna Be Happy


If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

A pretty woman makes her husband look small
And very often causes his downfall
As soon as he marries her then she starts
To do the things that will break his heart

But if you make an ugly woman your wife
you'll be happy for the rest of your life
An ugly woman cooks meals on time
And she'll always give you peace of mind

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Sax solo

Don't let your friends say you have no taste
Go ahead and marry anyway
Though her face is ugly, her eyes don't match
Take it from me, she's a better catch

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Spoken:
Say man!
Hey baby!
I saw your wife the other day!
Yeah?
Yeah, an' she's ug-leeee!
Yeah, she's ugly, but she sure can cook, baby!
Yeah, alright!

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
Never make a pretty woman your wife
So from my personal point of view
Get an ugly girl to marry you

Cutiepieforyou's photo
Mon 07/14/14 08:03 AM
I think people are more caught up in looks than getting to know the person.

seethestar's photo
Mon 07/14/14 08:12 AM
Edited by seethestar on Mon 07/14/14 08:13 AM
that's because beauty is the ugly truth of it all.. it really is.. anything else is secondary

graywolf55's photo
Mon 07/14/14 08:32 AM


Fantasies are exactly that (unreal)! There are a lot of beautiful Women here on mingle and in all countries around the world!! But how good are they where it counts(on the inside) that's all that matters to me!! Age plays tricks on a person as they grow OLDER, some hold their looks well but the body has a different outlook on your physical capability on or in a relationship! Then there's the mentality on why you want a relationship in the first place, love,money companionship, whatever your material needs are even raising children ! This nowadays goes for both Men and Women! Of course Vanity rules every time( i'm too good) for him or her? Good question here is, How the Hell Will You ever Know if You Don't Try?


You don't try.. the minute I sense a guy is looking elsewhere he can stay away from me.. which is why in order to not get dumped.. I'm going to invest in plastic surgery.. (since vanity rules)
I agree that you don't try if he or she is a relationship with you looking at others! That is disrespectful of them and they are not committed to you at all!! If it takes more than (looks) and what that person is that's being vain and selfcentered on their part and really not worth the effort for a relationship! But good comeback!! I'm saying at least look at the persons introductions and communicate with each other that's where the (trying) begins? If not suitable to you be polite and move on!

MariahsFantasy's photo
Mon 07/14/14 08:43 AM
The surprised catfish look is all the rage where I come from...I can't wait until mayonaise will replace all the rat semen fillers! Better yet go through all the condiments, more options more results.

carteblanc's photo
Mon 07/14/14 08:45 AM

TBRich's photo
Mon 07/14/14 09:03 AM

... you're just not hot enough. . Speaking about myself here, too


Personally I find this somewhat out of touch with reality. Any PUA will and can demonstrate that looks don't matter

seethestar's photo
Mon 07/14/14 09:32 AM
Looks are ALL that matter

TBRich's photo
Mon 07/14/14 09:34 AM

Looks are ALL that matter


Keep that in mind for when what was once perky sags and flaps in the wind

no photo
Mon 07/14/14 09:36 AM
Because we all like hyde but nobody likes jeckle

no photo
Mon 07/14/14 09:39 AM
Or was it the other way around

willing2's photo
Mon 07/14/14 10:01 AM

Because we all like hyde but nobody likes jeckle

Most women want the bad boy, Mr. Hyde.

That is, until they catch him.

Then, they wind up spending their elderly years no-lifing on dating sites.