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Besides shoes, women want ...
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Besides shoes, women want ... I like mayonnaise.. Let's see.....my list is short... Sweet little texty's. Attention... And puppies... |
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what women want...by phD..no1..
. honesty. ... they want company. they want somebody to understand.them . they want to know you are really listening. when they are talking. not that you're just hearing them. but you are comprehending what they're saying.. they want you to reach out and hold their hand.. . they want you to put your arm around them when its cold out. .. they want you to be that warm fire. on that cold autumns day... . they want you to keep the draft from coming in through the windows and doors... they want you to keep the cold out... they want you to keep them warm.. figuratively. spiritually. literally . . |
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Besides shoes, women want ... I like mayonnaise.. You already confessed to being crazy. |
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Edited by
LUNG1954
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Wed 08/20/14 11:04 PM
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Being in love doesn't exclude lust. In fact, lust can lead to love. However, real love, not based on idealization or projection, requires time to get to know each other. One of the signs of lust; you're totally focused on a person's looks and body. And a sign of love; you want to honestly listen to each other's feelings, make each other happy. Thumb up! I agree that we are usually "attracted" to someone, but I personally wouldn't call it "lust", but some people would. At any rate, that attraction could develop into a lasting loving relationship. It would depend on the inner character of the person as to whether he/she could see beyond the physical and focus on the inner qualities of the other person. COULD develop, yes, but not if there is and never was any intention to look for more than just pure chemistry. The problem is that you can't tell if people honestly look for a relationship till you give them a chance. So far I had no luck, but that can change and I might find someone who is not there just to "get some" from time to time. I still didn't give up, but if they keep coming just for one reason, I can settle with a friend, or just an activity partner with similar life style. In that case that partner wouldn't have to be a man at all. I agree with both of you. But I think you don't love and appreciate someone because they're perfect, you love and appreciate them in spite of the fact that they are not. Truthfully, the less you expect from someone you care about, the happier your relationship with them will be. No one in your life will act exactly as you hope or expect them to, ever. They are not YOU, they will not love, give, understand or respond like you do. So in my mind as soon as the relationship is in place, both parties must do their part to nurture it. When they fail to do so, solidarity is gradually replaced with suffering. Now my story; I personally was attracted by a lady expecting this attraction could develop into a lasting loving relationship. From my side I'm sure I could make her happy. I think our inner characters are very identical. We had electronically communication I asked her to give me a chance to meet her but she didn't reply. Could you guess what this woman wants? I don't know about other sites...but I have had my fair share of scammers and it makes us wary!! And if you move too fast too soon, it doesn't seem realistic. Just let it develop further......hope you get to meet her in the end and see how it goes from there. You are right there are scammers everywhere but mature old people could discover them soon. I think the relationship have to develop faster between old parties because of age and maturity. Always there are difficulties you have to face up and help each other to overcome. My friend was very mature and kind but as you say she need months to develop the relationship the second difficulty is distance between us plus the difficulty of visa. I'm tolerant enough to wait but I think I'll lose the time of happiness. |
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Not all of us like to shop
and some of us like to do the same things you do such as fishing and camping and staring at stars and howling at the moon. |
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Actually...women just want to be the boss....
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Actually...women just want to be the boss.... I don't think she just want to be the boss. But I as a real friend told her the truth that my aim is to marry her because I care about her. This truth may hurt her because she felt our relationship needs more time and communications. Anyway I respect her and your opinion. |
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Not all 'mature' people are experienced....I try to take precautions and do some research, but it could still slip thru' and you won't know until the truth is out about the scam! Then, it may be too late. For now, friendship will suffice. Goodluck with your lady friend!
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Actually...women just want to be the boss.... That explains all of the bossy women. |
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Not all 'mature' people are experienced....I try to take precautions and do some research, but it could still slip thru' and you won't know until the truth is out about the scam! Then, it may be too late. For now, friendship will suffice. Goodluck with your lady friend! But my lady friend is well educated and in her 60+ age and had children. Is this not enough to give her experience?!! |
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Not all 'mature' people are experienced....I try to take precautions and do some research, but it could still slip thru' and you won't know until the truth is out about the scam! Then, it may be too late. For now, friendship will suffice. Goodluck with your lady friend! But my lady friend is well educated and in her 60+ age and had children. Is this not enough to give her experience?!! Age is not the criteria....a 30+ may be more experienced than a 60+! If you are not exposed to that kind of environment and life experiences, you will never understand what hit you! |
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what women want...by phD..no1.. . honesty. ... they want company. they want somebody to understand.them . they want to know you are really listening. when they are talking. not that you're just hearing them. but you are comprehending what they're saying.. they want you to reach out and hold their hand.. . they want you to put your arm around them when its cold out. .. they want you to be that warm fire. on that cold autumns day... . they want you to keep the draft from coming in through the windows and doors... they want you to keep the cold out... they want you to keep them warm.. figuratively. spiritually. literally . . Amen, bro, got it in one (Well...maybe 12 sentences lol) I am pleasantly surprised by this honest, accurate, insightful and considered answer without basting it in your usual razor-sharp humour (No criticism there as your humour rocks) Thanks for showing that side of you...interesting.... |
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Not all 'mature' people are experienced....I try to take precautions and do some research, but it could still slip thru' and you won't know until the truth is out about the scam! Then, it may be too late. For now, friendship will suffice. Goodluck with your lady friend! But my lady friend is well educated and in her 60+ age and had children. Is this not enough to give her experience?!! Age is not the criteria....a 30+ may be more experienced than a 60+! If you are not exposed to that kind of environment and life experiences, you will never understand what hit you! I agree that AGE is not the criteria definitively; however, in all PROBABILITY a 60+ person has experienced much more of life, both good and bad, easy times and hard times and learned how to cope with or handle the problems which come up in everyday life and in relationships, and I believe that is what LUNG was referring to. JMHO |
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No doubt but not everyone is adaptable to changes! Which could be the case with Lung's ladyfriend on the possibility of uprooting from her home (just a guess), I know this from experience!!
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Women want good head.
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you know what else is true... . the way they don't just come out and ask. you to do something.. they hint at it.. like you know. the closet door is making a squeaking noise..ok.. it just started the other day..ok.. do you think there's something wrong with it.. how am I supposed to know.. what am I. a squeaky hinge expert.. no I'm just saying.. its squeaking... well would you like to go out for dinner and discuss it further... or perhaps you would just like me to fix it...lmao they seem to like not having to ask and for someone to just do it (i don't mean it like that). mind reading seems to be a preference, but in real life men aren't that empathetic and we find it challenging. but it is part of the experience of a relationship, the never knowing and guessing is part of the charm of being with someone |
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I will answer this from the experience of a man over 60. I believe that women want someone who will understand them and not try to figure out their problems. I have read somewhere that women want men to listen to them and not try to solve their problems. They want someone to hug them when they are feeling low and to reassure them when they are having a bad day. They want a man who will not make them feel alone when they feel misery. They want respect and not control from a man. We do know that women are from different parts of the world with different cultural and language things going on. The most basic premise is just to show them that you care, answer their questions when they have them, use your knowledge when you can, and put them first in your life. If have a open heart and mind, that is a plus.
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Not all 'mature' people are experienced....I try to take precautions and do some research, but it could still slip thru' and you won't know until the truth is out about the scam! Then, it may be too late. For now, friendship will suffice. Goodluck with your lady friend! But my lady friend is well educated and in her 60+ age and had children. Is this not enough to give her experience?!! Age is not the criteria....a 30+ may be more experienced than a 60+! If you are not exposed to that kind of environment and life experiences, you will never understand what hit you! BUT what woman want? I havent got a clue,,,UGHHH |
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Not all 'mature' people are experienced....I try to take precautions and do some research, but it could still slip thru' and you won't know until the truth is out about the scam! Then, it may be too late. For now, friendship will suffice. Goodluck with your lady friend! But my lady friend is well educated and in her 60+ age and had children. Is this not enough to give her experience?!! Age is not the criteria....a 30+ may be more experienced than a 60+! If you are not exposed to that kind of environment and life experiences, you will never understand what hit you! I agree that AGE is not the criteria definitively; however, in all PROBABILITY a 60+ person has experienced much more of life, both good and bad, easy times and hard times and learned how to cope with or handle the problems which come up in everyday life and in relationships, and I believe that is what LUNG was referring to. JMHO I agree with Missy that is what I was referring to. Anyway I decided to give my lady friend more time because she is a very good person and there are a few real people these days. Waiting for the circumstances may be will change. |
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