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N2000 Joined Sat 07/27/13 Posts: 103	Wed 08/27/14 05:35 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you

willing2 Joined Sun 06/08/08 Posts: 20221	Wed 08/27/14 05:46 PM
Give him all the space and time he wants. Don't call him. Wait till he wants to speak to you. If you see him out with another woman, walk away. Don't bring it up. He's fragile right now and doesn't need to be harped on about seeing other women. Poor guy. Had two women. Lost one and now he has to process his loss.

aloneintheworld Joined Thu 12/30/10 Posts: 3	Wed 08/27/14 05:49 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you THAT WOULD SEEM TO BE THE OBVIOUS THING TO DO SINCE ITS NOT YOUR DECISION TO MAKE--ITS HIS--GET REAL AND GROW UP

Rock Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 21251	Wed 08/27/14 06:10 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else.

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45342	Wed 08/27/14 06:32 PM
If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else. Tis the way it works.

lilbug Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 14791	Wed 08/27/14 08:58 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you Consider it a lesson learned and move on.

dreamerana Joined Sat 09/21/13 Posts: 21544	Wed 08/27/14 09:35 PM
there is nothing you can do. we can't control what others do and why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you in their life?

ridewytepony Joined Sun 04/14/13 Posts: 3697	Thu 08/28/14 05:24 AM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else. Absolutely, And noboby said it better than the late great Ann Landers. " IF you marry a man that cheats on his wife you will be married to a man that cheats on his wife But if it was a bad marrage...and people are cohabitiding for convenience then that's different.

Rizajune Joined Thu 08/22/13 Posts: 309	Thu 08/28/14 06:49 AM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else. Absolutely, And noboby said it better than the late great Ann Landers. " IF you marry a man that cheats on his wife you will be married to a man that cheats on his wife But if it was a bad marrage...and people are cohabitiding for convenience then that's different.

N2000 Joined Sat 07/27/13 Posts: 103	Sat 08/30/14 11:51 AM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else. No, he is not a cheating type one. He ha to do this with me, because his wife is not cooperating with him. We separated few times. He went to family therapists and wife doesn't want to go. Before he moved out he tried again talked with her go to the doctor or therapist, her reply was don't trouble me, if your troubling asking what you want leave the home. That't why he left his wife,He didn't left her for me. She is giving her time fostering dogs and volunteering.We made a mistake and tried correct it. didn't work.

fleta_n_mach Joined Tue 06/24/14 Posts: 3510	Sat 08/30/14 12:03 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else. No, he is not a cheating type one. He ha to do this with me, because his wife is not cooperating with him. We separated few times. He went to family therapists and wife doesn't want to go. Before he moved out he tried again talked with her go to the doctor or therapist, her reply was don't trouble me, if your troubling asking what you want leave the home. That't why he left his wife,He didn't left her for me. She is giving her time fostering dogs and volunteering.We made a mistake and tried correct it. didn't work. So he had an open marriage, that his wife didn't want? You are the part the wife didn't want. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You can not control anyone but yourself. He is trying to clear his mind of both of you.

SparklingCrystal 💖💎 Joined Mon 05/20/13 Posts: 33263	Sat 08/30/14 05:15 PM
He probably needs time and space to find his feet again and to find order in all this chaos. Chances are very high you were just someone to lean on while (and because) he was in a bad marriage. Prepare for the worst. I doubt he'll come back to you, he'll find himself a new partner and start afresh. And that's good for you, like what was said: you cannot trust a cheater. Not what you'd hoped to hear, I feel for you, but time heals all wounds. At some point you'll find someone who's worthy of you.

motowndowntown Joined Wed 11/19/08 Posts: 21439	Sat 08/30/14 06:19 PM
As good ole dear Abby would say, "wake up and smell the coffee", he dumped his wife for you, now he's dumping you for someone else. Don't be an idiot, run don't walk away from this loser.

N2000 Joined Sat 07/27/13 Posts: 103	Sat 08/30/14 06:45 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else. No, he is not a cheating type one. He ha to do this with me, because his wife is not cooperating with him. We separated few times. He went to family therapists and wife doesn't want to go. Before he moved out he tried again talked with her go to the doctor or therapist, her reply was don't trouble me, if your troubling asking what you want leave the home. That't why he left his wife,He didn't left her for me. She is giving her time fostering dogs and volunteering.We made a mistake and tried correct it. didn't work. So he had an open marriage, that his wife didn't want? You are the part the wife didn't want. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You can not control anyone but yourself. He is trying to clear his mind of both of you.

N2000 Joined Sat 07/27/13 Posts: 103	Sat 08/30/14 06:49 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you If he cheated on his wife with you, odds are, he'll cheat on you with someone else. No, he is not a cheating type one. He ha to do this with me, because his wife is not cooperating with him. We separated few times. He went to family therapists and wife doesn't want to go. Before he moved out he tried again talked with her go to the doctor or therapist, her reply was don't trouble me, if your troubling asking what you want leave the home. That't why he left his wife,He didn't left her for me. She is giving her time fostering dogs and volunteering.We made a mistake and tried correct it. didn't work. So he had an open marriage, that his wife didn't want? You are the part the wife didn't want. Once a cheater, always a cheater. You can not control anyone but yourself. He is trying to clear his mind of both of you. Probably, Thats what he want, clear his mind. I am not chasing him.

N2000 Joined Sat 07/27/13 Posts: 103	Sat 08/30/14 06:54 PM
He probably needs time and space to find his feet again and to find order in all this chaos. Chances are very high you were just someone to lean on while (and because) he was in a bad marriage. Prepare for the worst. I doubt he'll come back to you, he'll find himself a new partner and start afresh. And that's good for you, like what was said: you cannot trust a cheater. Not what you'd hoped to hear, I feel for you, but time heals all wounds. At some point you'll find someone who's worthy of you. We Brock up four times. He came back to me all the time saying that he can't forget me. My heart melted for him, because he is a such a nice person never hurt me even with a word past two and half years. May be your right. Thank you

N2000 Joined Sat 07/27/13 Posts: 103	Sat 08/30/14 06:57 PM
As good ole dear Abby would say, "wake up and smell the coffee", he dumped his wife for you, now he's dumping you for someone else. Don't be an idiot, run don't walk away from this loser. No He didn't dumped his wife. When he try things work out (therapist ect) She asked him to move out.

N2000 Joined Sat 07/27/13 Posts: 103	Sat 08/30/14 07:03 PM
there is nothing you can do. we can't control what others do and why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want you in their life? You are right, Thank you

NoMindGamesPlease Joined Fri 07/25/14 Posts: 461	Sun 08/31/14 02:08 AM Edited by NoMindGamesPlease on Sun 08/31/14 02:08 AM
Sounds like he has made it clear .. He doesn't want to be in a relationship ... Wish him well and find someone who does :-) Exactly!

mysticalview21 Joined Sat 06/28/14 Posts: 5462	Wed 09/03/14 02:23 PM
My boyfriend was in a bad marriage and we had a wonderful relationship over two years. Month and half ago he left his wife lives in an apartment. Now he want to live alone to figure out what he want and doesn't want to be in a relationship He saying he doesn't want to go back.What should i do? Give him space or what? Please don't criticize. Thank you Give him all the space he needs and I might ask... it is ok for u to move on also being sarcastic ... or does he want u to just sit around and wait ... very hard I am sure you still love him but better to know now then later...