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Topic: what is it with no answer to messages
madhatterlizzy Joined Mon 06/06/11 Posts: 70	Tue 01/06/15 08:24 AM
Why is it you send messages out to guys and they simply don't answer - come on guys if your not interest then say so, if you are then do something about it, a smile would help, life is short enough, but lets enjoy it while were here. I'm only looking for one guy, not much to ask for, there is hundreds of you out there, lets chat and get to know each other :

dcastelmissy Joined Thu 08/01/13 Posts: 39633	Fri 01/09/15 12:18 PM
In all fairness, women do the same to men here! Unfortunately almost everyone here will tell you that if you get no response from the men you message, then they have already given you an answer that they in particular are not interested. Happens to almost everyone so don't let that hinder you. Just keep going and best wishes that you find the right one for you!

soufiehere Joined Sat 10/24/09 Posts: 45325	Fri 01/09/15 01:17 PM
In all fairness, women do the same to men here! Unfortunately almost everyone here will tell you that if you get no response from the men you message, then they have already given you an answer that they in particular are not interested. Happens to almost everyone so don't let that hinder you. Just keep going and best wishes that you find the right one for you! That's the whole story :-)

MatureLesbian Joined Mon 01/05/15 Posts: 20	Mon 01/12/15 07:28 AM
Yes, women do the same thing unfortunately. I reply to all, even if it's just to 'politely' let them know I'm not interested. It seems rude not to respond. I usually say, "Thank you for your note. I hope you find the right person. Best wishes." If someone doesn't respond, it means they don't have the kindness or manners that you are looking for.

thegray Joined Thu 01/01/15 Posts: 5	Tue 01/13/15 06:30 AM
why we get no answer is that some dont check their mail everyday and some arent on here for a month or more, if your not serious about a relationship why bother being here and some just dont like our faces, even at my age, people still judge a book by its cover

navygirl Joined Sat 06/02/07 Posts: 8118	Wed 01/14/15 12:06 AM
why we get no answer is that some dont check their mail everyday and some arent on here for a month or more, if your not serious about a relationship why bother being here and some just dont like our faces, even at my age, people still judge a book by its cover Well, I like your face and I think you are cute. I am thinking the other ladies just need glasses.

charlief1 Joined Tue 01/06/15 Posts: 23	Thu 01/15/15 07:39 PM
The biggest issue I've found so far is the ladies and 1 guy just didn't read my profile, or just look at my age and decide that it's not worth it. Hell, when I was 18 I was dating a girl that was 28, and we had a heck of a time. For some reason the 1 guy was a year older and just wouldn't take no for an answer. I finally told him thanks, but he had the wrong type of plumbing, so he couldn't have a child with me. That got rid of him. The other thing is, as you get older, age really is in the mind more than the number.

Spike1964 Joined Thu 04/17/14 Posts: 565	Sun 04/12/15 06:32 AM Edited by Spike1964 on Sun 04/12/15 06:32 AM
I don't answer to messages from women because 99% of them are scammers.

pauls1961 Joined Sat 04/04/15 Posts: 4	Sun 04/19/15 11:53 PM
The only messages that I have received have been from young ladies way under my age and outside of the UK my profile clearly states replies from uk ladies only regards Paul

SassyEuro Joined Wed 03/11/15 Posts: 1000	Mon 04/20/15 12:25 AM
A sad reality No response is there response Dating is shopping - Men looking for women... some act like they are placing an order ,or they are looking for the best deal .(usually a new & improved model). My biggest gripe is, if they don't respond,' then stop viewing me' .. & don't message me, WEEKS later..... since your not getting anywhere with placing an order or your new & improved models aren't responding to you.... because you are old or won't give them money. I set a time limit.. if I don't get a positive respond or a civil one... I dump you. And I move on to the next also. I'm not anyone's second choice or last call.

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 04/20/15 12:47 AM
Yes, women do the same thing unfortunately. I reply to all, even if it's just to 'politely' let them know I'm not interested. It seems rude not to respond. I usually say, "Thank you for your note. I hope you find the right person. Best wishes." If someone doesn't respond, it means they don't have the kindness or manners that you are looking for. Seconded

mikey5360 Joined Wed 04/23/14 Posts: 26096	Mon 04/20/15 01:00 AM
Yes, women do the same thing unfortunately. I reply to all, even if it's just to 'politely' let them know I'm not interested. It seems rude not to respond. I usually say, "Thank you for your note. I hope you find the right person. Best wishes." If someone doesn't respond, it means they don't have the kindness or manners that you are looking for. Maybe its unfortunate and maybe its rude....but I have known some women here to get over 100 messages in a day....so really....who has time to politely respond to all that...

SassyEuro Joined Wed 03/11/15 Posts: 1000	Mon 04/20/15 01:10 AM
Yes, women do the same thing unfortunately. I reply to all, even if it's just to 'politely' let them know I'm not interested. It seems rude not to respond. I usually say, "Thank you for your note. I hope you find the right person. Best wishes." If someone doesn't respond, it means they don't have the kindness or manners that you are looking for. Maybe its unfortunate and maybe its rude....but I have known some women here to get over 100 messages in a day....so really....who has time to politely respond to all that... That is a good point.. If a message just says " Hi" or the dreaded " H R U?".. then NO effort was put forth. And if there are no interests listed or the dreaded " Ask me for a pic" & " I will tell you later'..is listed. Or it's obvious they did NOT read your profile. .OR they want you to do ALL the conversational work... There is no point in responding.

uche9aa Joined Mon 08/15/11 Posts: 1986	Mon 04/20/15 01:16 AM
Yes, women do the same thing unfortunately. I reply to all, even if it's just to 'politely' let them know I'm not interested. It seems rude not to respond. I usually say, "Thank you for your note. I hope you find the right person. Best wishes." If someone doesn't respond, it means they don't have the kindness or manners that you are looking for. Maybe its unfortunate and maybe its rude....but I have known some women here to get over 100 messages in a day....so really....who has time to politely respond to all that... That is a good point.. If a message just says " Hi" or the dreaded " H R U?".. then NO effort was put forth. And if there are no interests listed or the dreaded " Ask me for a pic" & " I will tell you later'..is listed. Or it's obvious they did NOT read your profile. .OR they want you to do ALL the conversational work... There is no point in responding. "No nonsense"

Conrad_73 Joined Sat 09/29/07 Posts: 22488	Mon 04/20/15 01:38 AM
seems lately Messages are not arriving! Notification does,but no Message!

SassyEuro Joined Wed 03/11/15 Posts: 1000	Mon 04/20/15 01:53 AM
seems lately Messages are not arriving! Notification does,but no Message! Yes, 3-4 days last week, I had that problem. It would read there were 1 or 2 messages, but there weren't any.

TMommy Joined Fri 05/10/13 Posts: 9850	Mon 04/27/15 05:52 AM
seems lately Messages are not arriving! Notification does,but no Message! Yes, 3-4 days last week, I had that problem. It would read there were 1 or 2 messages, but there weren't any. see now this happens quite a bit says I have mail but when I look there are only messages I have already clicked on or read

2OLD2MESSAROUND Joined Mon 04/13/15 Posts: 1661	Mon 04/27/15 07:57 AM
Conrad_73 stated >>> seems lately Messages are not arriving! Notification does,but no Message! SassyEuro stated >>> Yes, 3-4 days last week, I had that problem. It would read there were 1 or 2 messages, but there weren't any. TMommy stated >>> see now this happens quite a bit says I have mail but when I look there are only messages I have already clicked on or read Ok - Ok...at least I'm not going crazy! There's a computer problem/internet gremlin somewhere! WHEW --- thought I had to scape up some $$$ to pay for my messages!

believernot Joined Tue 05/05/15 Posts: 4	Tue 05/05/15 10:01 AM
THANK YOU!! Been wondering if anyone would ever remember manners and politeness.

SitkaRains Joined Thu 10/09/08 Posts: 17228	Tue 05/05/15 07:28 PM
Yes, women do the same thing unfortunately. I reply to all, even if it's just to 'politely' let them know I'm not interested. It seems rude not to respond. I usually say, "Thank you for your note. I hope you find the right person. Best wishes." If someone doesn't respond, it means they don't have the kindness or manners that you are looking for. Maybe its unfortunate and maybe its rude....but I have known some women here to get over 100 messages in a day....so really....who has time to politely respond to all that... slowly raises hand and I do answer all my emails.. Even if it is only a Hi. They get hi back.. I spend a lot of time answering emails. Usually I get a very nice email back saying thank you and sorry to bother you....