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Edited by
2Fly4Wings38
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Once again ya' man bringing the hot tea this time this question for anybody , not just you ladies but fellas you too I want to hear from all. Okay, my new topic is more of a question, you out on a date or just hanging out with your love interest, a attractive person ( girl or Guy) walks by and you look, maybe a little too hard, or you do what we perceive as harmless flirting to get a meal paid or get out of a parking ticket or even just being friendly. Some say "that's disrespectful while others say its nothing I love you".I even dealt with women that say " yes that still cheating". I'm not adding myself in this but I am curious on how the opposite sex look at this, so shot me out with your comments!
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Humm it is natural to look from time to time it is part of nature. But.......when you almost break your neck looking then it is going a bit too far....
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Edited by
DavidCommaGeek
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Mon 02/09/15 03:34 PM
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I don't think looking should count as "cheating" - it's really hard not to look around, y'know, since humans have eyes and all. It would be a greater imposition to ask your significant other to go around covering their eyes so they won't be tempted by any other human being. That doesn't really count as loyalty in my book - truer loyalty would be seeing someone you find physically attractive, but still choosing to be with the person you love (and hopefully find just as physically attractive). It's a lot like going into a candy store and NOT buying all the kinds of candy. It's hard, but you can do it!
Actual action has to be taken, with the intent to consummate that action, before it counts as cheating. If your significant other is approached by someone else, that's not cheating - that's normal human interaction (though if you're standing right there, and it's obvious you're together, then feel free to think the approacher is stupid and/or desperate). If your significant other approaches somebody else, with the intent to flirt or otherwise consummate... yeah, that's cheating. Especially if you're right there. In that case, feel free to think your significant other is stupid and/or desperate. Then drop 'em. |
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I think its disrespectful to my girl if i flirt...ive never done that while i'm in a relationship & i dont believe in such crap if i'm involved.
i did get slapped once by my ex for staring at a chick too long though, but not flirting etc |
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Once again ya' man bringing the hot tea this time this question for anybody , not just you ladies but fellas you too I want to hear from all. Okay, my new topic is more of a question, you out on a date or just hanging out with your love interest, a attractive person ( girl or Guy) walks by and you look, maybe a little too hard, or you do what we perceive as harmless flirting to get a meal paid or get out of a parking ticket or even just being friendly. Some say "that's disrespectful while others say its nothing I love you".I even dealt with women that say " yes that still cheating". I'm not adding myself in this but I am curious on how the opposite sex look at this, so shot me out with your comments! Looking and flirting in the presence of your guy or gal is not cheating, it's disrespectful...Looking when you are not with your partner is not cheating...Flirting behind your partners back is cheating... |
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It's OK to look at the menu as long as you eat at home, is how I see it. However, discretion is the watch word, and I would not really want my partner to see my admiring glances at another woman. I really used to enjoy watching the 'Miss World Contest' on TV, pity they stopped it.
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Looking.....everybody looks.....ogling....no way..
 Flirting...that stopped....full stop, when I fell for her....<<<<<< How disrespectful.... |
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Humm it is natural to look from time to time it is part of nature. But.......when you almost break your neck looking then it is going a bit too far....  Really enjoy that!
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I'd rather have a partner who understands then a partner who gets jealous at everything I look at.
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Once again ya' man bringing the hot tea this time this question for anybody , not just you ladies but fellas you too I want to hear from all. Okay, my new topic is more of a question, you out on a date or just hanging out with your love interest, a attractive person ( girl or Guy) walks by and you look, maybe a little too hard, or you do what we perceive as harmless flirting to get a meal paid or get out of a parking ticket or even just being friendly. Some say "that's disrespectful while others say its nothing I love you".I even dealt with women that say " yes that still cheating". I'm not adding myself in this but I am curious on how the opposite sex look at this, so shot me out with your comments! Looking and flirting in the presence of your guy or gal is not cheating, it's disrespectful...Looking when you are not with your partner is not cheating...Flirting behind your partners back is cheating... It couldn't be put in better words. You nailed it Leigh...... 
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It depends on your views of loyalty... And i think it goes beyond being disrespectful. When I give myself to a man it is completely . I have no interest in checking out other men and i expect the same exclusivity from him. .. Fatal attraction .. Laughing :-) That's exactly how I feel about it. But.. is it doable? I think it's easier for women to be this way, as this dedication is part of the typical feminine, not the masculine. I think that men always keep an eye on their surroundings. Not an excuse for flirting with other women though.. |
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Once again ya' man bringing the hot tea this time this question for anybody , not just you ladies but fellas you too I want to hear from all. Okay, my new topic is more of a question, you out on a date or just hanging out with your love interest, a attractive person ( girl or Guy) walks by and you look, maybe a little too hard, or you do what we perceive as harmless flirting to get a meal paid or get out of a parking ticket or even just being friendly. Some say "that's disrespectful while others say its nothing I love you".I even dealt with women that say " yes that still cheating". I'm not adding myself in this but I am curious on how the opposite sex look at this, so shot me out with your comments! Looking and flirting in the presence of your guy or gal is not cheating, it's disrespectful...Looking when you are not with your partner is not cheating...Flirting behind your partners back is cheating... Totally agrees with you leigh...=) Talk about respect and loyalty.... |
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or you do what we perceive as harmless flirting to get a meal paid or get out of a parking ticket or even just being friendly. Some say "that's disrespectful while others say its nothing I love you".I even dealt with women that say " yes that still cheating". I'm not adding myself in this but I am curious on how the opposite sex look at this, so shot me out with your comments! Wait a minute...I totally overlooked this one !!!  So you'd be cool if a girl told you she just managed to avoid to get a parking ticket. As long as it is smiling & be charming and saying a couple of nice words I'd be cool too...but if you needed to do more than that...it would be too much for me to be acceptable AND I would also consider you less smart !!!
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Ok I'm going to put it to you like this,
This very question is ONE of the many reasons as to why it is SO important to find a sturdy, committed partner. Someone who would never ACTUALLY go through the ACTUAL action of cheating on you (which cheating to me is when you either start to develop another relationship with someone else or have a sexual encounter) And i'm going to tell you why I feel flirting to some degree is cheating and also not (Notice I defined what cheating was already to me) The thing that makes flirting such a pet peeve for people when they are dating is that it reveals to the other partner that their mind is still open to intimately observing other females/males. Even just "staring hard" (which I have been guilty of doing in past relationships lol) is dangerous because where the eyes wonder there the mind goes too. When you talk about relationships usually, you want to think of building something intimate with that ONE person for the rest of your life i.e. untill marriage and so forth. Flirting is not necessarily CHEATING on your gf/bf but it shows how open your mind and heart is to other people when it should be honed on sharpening your current relationship. You should be flirting and staring hard at the one you are with rather than getting preoccupied wherever the wind blows and it is insulting because it shows a weak connection with that person you are suppose to be building a lifelong relationship with (Assuming thats why people date right) Now the real argument though is that its really natural to be nice for some people or observe a really attractive person. I know for me hell If I see a beautiful woman with a very toned or curvy body for example to be honest I may catch myself admiring her because to be honest its a pleasing thing to see someone out of the hundreds of people ou see every day with a nice body /face etc. I don't think its wrong/weird or whatever, even a male can look at a male and admire them and I dont mean that in a homosexual way. I look at bodybuilders like Michael Jai White and think man I' want to look like that and there aint a damn thing wrong with that. I've met women also who by nature were just really nice people and to some forward men may have seemed like they were flirting but they werent. So i personally wouldnt really say flirting to an extent is CHEATING, only when that person begins to develop a relationship in some form or way (i.e. secret texting/calling/sex or meeting up all that) is that CHEATING but fellows and ladies you do have to watch yourself when in a relationship because even though you may be admiring or being really nice, if your partner takes that as flirting in which case it may be it is very disheartning for them and will cause problems. Now there is a case of your partner just flat out flirting or staringhard in front of you and in that case thats just rude and messed up all around and you should probably reconsider your time being with that person because obviously they dont respect you enough they feel like they can just be blatent with it but dont always be quick to assume... Just my two cents if you have the patience to read it all lol |
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Ok I'm going to put it to you like this, This very question is ONE of the many reasons as to why it is SO important to find a sturdy, committed partner. Someone who would never ACTUALLY go through the ACTUAL action of cheating on you (which cheating to me is when you either start to develop another relationship with someone else or have a sexual encounter) And i'm going to tell you why I feel flirting to some degree is cheating and also not (Notice I defined what cheating was already to me) The thing that makes flirting such a pet peeve for people when they are dating is that it reveals to the other partner that their mind is still open to intimately observing other females/males. Even just "staring hard" (which I have been guilty of doing in past relationships lol) is dangerous because where the eyes wonder there the mind goes too. When you talk about relationships usually, you want to think of building something intimate with that ONE person for the rest of your life i.e. untill marriage and so forth. Flirting is not necessarily CHEATING on your gf/bf but it shows how open your mind and heart is to other people when it should be honed on sharpening your current relationship. You should be flirting and staring hard at the one you are with rather than getting preoccupied wherever the wind blows and it is insulting because it shows a weak connection with that person you are suppose to be building a lifelong relationship with (Assuming thats why people date right) Now the real argument though is that its really natural to be nice for some people or observe a really attractive person. I know for me hell If I see a beautiful woman with a very toned or curvy body for example to be honest I may catch myself admiring her because to be honest its a pleasing thing to see someone out of the hundreds of people ou see every day with a nice body /face etc. I don't think its wrong/weird or whatever, even a male can look at a male and admire them and I dont mean that in a homosexual way. I look at bodybuilders like Michael Jai White and think man I' want to look like that and there aint a damn thing wrong with that. I've met women also who by nature were just really nice people and to some forward men may have seemed like they were flirting but they werent. So i personally wouldnt really say flirting to an extent is CHEATING, only when that person begins to develop a relationship in some form or way (i.e. secret texting/calling/sex or meeting up all that) is that CHEATING but fellows and ladies you do have to watch yourself when in a relationship because even though you may be admiring or being really nice, if your partner takes that as flirting in which case it may be it is very disheartning for them and will cause problems. Now there is a case of your partner just flat out flirting or staringhard in front of you and in that case thats just rude and messed up all around and you should probably reconsider your time being with that person because obviously they dont respect you enough they feel like they can just be blatent with it but dont always be quick to assume... Just my two cents if you have the patience to read it all lol I read it all and I think you got it down very eloquently! 
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I think everyone flirts and looks to a certain extent its a normal human trait but when you are with a lady all focus should be on her, turning your head to check out a good looking woman is so disrespectful,I mean I asked her out to spend time with me not to help me shop for a better model.
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when you are with a lady all focus should be on her, turning your head to check out a good looking woman is so disrespectful (((((Jack)))))...  |
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looking & flirting...are okay, in moderation of course.....but when flesh meets flesh, now you've crossed the line into cheating....
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I think everyone flirts and looks to a certain extent its a normal human trait but when you are with a lady all focus should be on her, turning your head to check out a good looking woman is so disrespectful,I mean I asked her out to spend time with me not to help me shop for a better model. I agree, and you can just imagine some men's reaction if the shoe was on the other foot. |
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I think everyone flirts and looks to a certain extent its a normal human trait but when you are with a lady all focus should be on her, turning your head to check out a good looking woman is so disrespectful,I mean I asked her out to spend time with me not to help me shop for a better model. I agree, and you can just imagine some men's reaction if the shoe was on the other foot. (Jack) (Joe) & (Rex)-> I actually read it all....
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