Topic: Rate my profile + advise me
Harmonyplus's photo
Fri 02/13/15 12:35 AM
what is wrong with my profile that much younger men respond to me or scammers? help me to attract the attention of a man of my equal/match who responds to me / writes.flowerforyou

And - why many men are after Asian women - many Asian women find it offensive, because it is known that these men want a maid, nurse, mother, whom they THINK is obedient, frugal, and runs their life with peanuts - none being true, they say. Or is it something else? smooched

mikey5360's photo
Fri 02/13/15 12:44 AM
Nothing wrong with your profile, its just standard practice around here and other dating sites.....
you will find the nice guys in amongst the rabble.....

Only some guys go after Asian women for those reasons.....
some of us just fell in love...

Harmonyplus's photo
Fri 02/13/15 03:55 AM
Sure Mikey and thank you - of course I respect love as the most beautiful thing in life. Don't get me wrong, I am from the continent of Asia. flowerforyou

Dodo_David's photo
Fri 02/13/15 07:18 PM

And - why many men are after Asian women - many Asian women find it offensive, because it is known that these men want a maid, nurse, mother, whom they THINK is obedient, frugal, and runs their life with peanuts - none being true, they say. Or is it something else? smooched


It could easily be something else, such as the way that Asian women look.

no photo
Fri 02/13/15 07:33 PM

Nothing wrong with your profile, its just standard practice around here and other dating sites.....
you will find the nice guys in amongst the rabble.....

Only some guys go after Asian women for those reasons.....
some of us just fell in love...



what he said be patient the right one will trip over you

Harmonyplus's photo
Sat 02/14/15 12:48 AM
Yes Do-do, and I don't want to be judged by my look, as an Asian - I want to be wanted who I am, my mind and thoughts and feelings and my skills, my accomplishments, my passion and caring for the world - and and...
What I want to know is that really ALL men go after "looks"? I purposely posted a "not nice picture" - May be I am idealist, but is it really that bad?

no photo
Sat 02/14/15 11:50 AM
Your not the only magnet for the scammers, fakes and deviants. Join the club. I've been blocking and deleting for the entire four days I've been here. Your right the men go after looks first. But admit it so do most women. I've learned if he looks to good to be true you'll find out he is in the first few notes to each other. I'm sure there are just as much fake women on here and other sights and the real men go through the same thing. You have to decide if love is worth the effort of going through the briars to get the berries.

Just remember your not alone.

Harmonyplus's photo
Mon 02/16/15 02:54 PM
Thank you WVperal,
Good news!!! I haven't had a single email from scammers, at least, since I added ONE sentence at the beginning of my profile (please check it out), it could help you and others too.
Yes, there are such opportunists in both genders and every where, but my QUESTION was why not a single man ( potential match ) has emailed me, is it something wrong with my profile? Because I am not good at what works and what doesn't on these sites. blushing
Cheers, Harmony

MadDog1974's photo
Mon 02/16/15 03:00 PM
If you don't like guys who are attracted to Asian women, stop being an Asian woman!
rofl rofl rofl rofl

soufiehere's photo
Mon 02/16/15 03:28 PM
When something is free, the weirdos will find it.
It is the real price of being on the internet.

Learn to ignore, block, report.
Life goes on.

Usually (and not always) scammers will avoid the
chitchat in the forums.

So, tis a nice playground for socializing :-)

Profile looks good, love the water view.

Harmonyplus's photo
Wed 02/18/15 09:37 PM
Maddog, I don't have any objection - I am trying to learn men better,
2- find out what is wrong with my profile that does NOT attract the type of man I am looking for? And attracts ALL kinds of wrong ones?

Harmonyplus's photo
Wed 02/18/15 09:40 PM
Dear Sufiehere, I am trying to learn what kind of changes I shall make to my profile to make it attractive to the type of man I am looking for, and not sooooo many younger men, and all kinds of wrong ones!? flowerforyou :heart:

no photo
Fri 02/20/15 02:46 AM
I would say you are setting your sights high when you are looking for a man with all these qualities (." I am looking for a meaningful relationship with an educated well-mannered one-woman-man based on love, trust, and respect. A man of quality, integrity, and passionate about life, me, his profession & family. A man who is comfortable with himself, has healed his wounds, and is honestly ready/available to start a new loving, caring, exiting.... relationship. ) Men dont come under these brackets very often and I am sure there are one or two out there but you will be hard pushed to find them. I admire the fact that you are in no position to compromise spiritually or physically or mentally but man in General still has to grow to these great heights in order to become the perfect opposite of the female such as you are. We live in an age where all these attributes are almost gone. Bring the bar down a bit maybe and let the man with half these attributes get a chance to be educated in love and spiritualism. In order to bring these gifts back to where they belong in the male psyche you have to reteach him. :) :)

MadDog1974's photo
Fri 02/20/15 07:38 AM
A sense of humor would help you tremendously. There is nothing wrong with being a serious person, but when you respond to what was clearly a joke in such a serious way, my reaction is, "NEXT!" Lighten up a bit.

Harmonyplus's photo
Fri 02/27/15 12:37 AM
Gordy2209, thank you for your comment - I have a question for you - would you consider to "reteach qualities" that you are looking for to any woman you meet? At our age, we have learned that people / specially men don't like to be changed by their life-partner. I know of many men whose complain is that their wived don't let them be who they are, and want to change them.
The first thing you hear when you go to counselling is: "you can't change other people, the only person you can change is you"flowerforyou

The problem is, you can't go back and be less grown/matured mentally, psychologically, spiritually, emotionally, and physically.
And obviously you don't have much on common with a person who's level of growth/ maturity in the above areas is lower than you - especially a man, by nature wants to be superior - how can he if he is not more or equal? :smile

Cheers

Harmonyplus's photo
Fri 02/27/15 12:40 AM
Mad dog, thank you for your comment - yes, absolutely. flowers drinks

Cheers

jazzinc's photo
Tue 03/03/15 01:03 PM
I read a little bit about your concerns;just a little bit. Your profile is too long and too intelectual. You start with a warning to others. No good for love,affection and friendship searching.

Try to edit that.All the rest, you look an interesting lady.

Post more recent and clear photos.

HAND !:wink: