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.. I have a friend..
 .lol .. who is seeing someone online. my friend.. .. shares a lot of pictures and videos . with his new online pen pal !!shall we say.. pictures of their everyday lifes. . ... but my friend does not receive a lot of pictures back.... .. that is, his pen pal sends.. scenic pictures... that are really quite beautiful.. but he's only seen one picture, of his new friend and what she looks like.... and no not naughty pictures....lol.... so when I Was... talking to my friend.. .. I said well!! then how do you know.. . that this person is really who they say they are...... he says she says. she is shy...... she often says how beautiful she is..... and he believes her. ... but in the back of his mind.. . he is worried because he has not really seen a picture of her.... except for one...... .. so my question is this.. . how long do you keep sharing with someone.... and they are not sharing back... how long do you keep sharing... before you stop... .. is this a question of him being scammed.?.. .. or do some people really. have a hard time sharing photos of them self.s.... I can understand this, I do not like the way I look in pictures myself... .. but is asking for one selfie too much to ask...... just to establish trust I suppose..... proof of life I guess.. and I'm not talking about myself here are anyone I know... . .: |
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Well, I wouldn't rush to judgment.
For a long time, I simply had no camera. Now, I was not worried, I knew what I looked like. But others had to guess, until I finally got a camera and took a blurry selfie. I liked the blurry, seemed more..private. Some just hate having to put out pics, to be judged. On the other hand, the lack of pics may lead to speculation. I don't know, sometimes it just seems to me, you get lucky, or you get unlucky, not sure pics have much to do with that. |
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No Picture of his interest??? That would be a red alert for me.
And if she tells him that she is beautiful and she knows this why??? Maybe she needs to take a crappy selfie at least one so he can be the judge of her beauty for himself. I personally wouldn't do this for long if I was interested in said person romantically. IF I wasn't it wouldn't matter to me. But if I am crushing on someone I would want to see what I am crushing on. I absolutely hate having my picture taken.. I avoid it at all costs always have.. But I have sent private pictures to my guy that aren't on here. |
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I have to wax my legs.
 I will be back later. |
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I have to wax my legs. I will be back later. Ohhh. I am certain you are quite beautiful.. picture or no picture.. 
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I laughed the whole time I was reading this post... Only because something similar happened to a guy friend of mine.
He met a girl online and they hit it off. The girl was really good looking but even more importantly they had a lot in common. My friend got emotionally involved in that virtual relationship and decided to meet the woman at a park. Who wouldn't want to meet a woman you have a lot in common with who just happened to be beautiful. When they met at the park, the woman was not AT all the person on her online photo. My friend said she was (not just overweight) obese annd not at all good looking, according to him. I think his first clue should have been that she only had ONE photo and wouldn't share others. I'm not saying your friend situation is the same, but he should know that there is at least a slight possibility that she might not be who she says she is... At least physically. I guess if he really likes the girl, her physical attractiveness won't really matter, but what might matter might be the deception. Good luck to him. |
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Well, I wouldn't rush to judgment. For a long time, I simply had no camera. Now, I was not worried, I knew what I looked like. But others had to guess, until I finally got a camera and took a blurry selfie. I liked the blurry, seemed more..private. Some just hate having to put out pics, to be judged. On the other hand, the lack of pics may lead to speculation. I don't know, sometimes it just seems to me, you get lucky, or you get unlucky, not sure pics have much to do with that. |
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Well, I wouldn't rush to judgment. For a long time, I simply had no camera. Now, I was not worried, I knew what I looked like. But others had to guess, until I finally got a camera and took a blurry selfie. I liked the blurry, seemed more..private. Some just hate having to put out pics, to be judged. On the other hand, the lack of pics may lead to speculation. I don't know, sometimes it just seems to me, you get lucky, or you get unlucky, not sure pics have much to do with that. You silly dawg 
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Generally speaking, it may be dependent on the other party's readiness to open up to certain people.
If your friend shared his pictures just because he wanted to and not because she demanded or asked for them, i dont see why she should be pressured to show hers, but otherwise, it ought to work both ways, i think, regardless of gender. I do think that someone constantly regaling their comeliness to the other person, but at the same time, "shy" about it, is highly contradictory, and as such, a red flag. Now if someone is asking for something from the other person, then yes, the person has a right to have such a "proof of life" |
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Yes (ilove)... that is a good point..
.. it is a problem in today's online dating world... people misrepresented themselves... . out there for a few cheap thrills.. .... I am new to most of this. online stuff.. .. but I'm becoming a fast learner.. .. .. .. 1.. when meeting someone online.. .. talking on... whatsapp..klk.. and all the other..... social media apps.. . first message I send.. is always accompanied.... with a head shot of myself...ok... my face..lol..omg..lol ... 2 thing is... I follow this up with.. myself outside somewhere.... myself walking Milo perhaps.... ... this helps to gain their trust.. let them know I am real.. .3.. for my own protection.. I never send naughty pics... with my face showing.... that is if I ever sent naughty pictures... ...... the reason being.. you never know what this person may do with such pictures....ok.. outside of the intended purpose that is... ... but yes I have.. engaged with some people online.. who have totally misrepresented .. themself.. .. it's disappointing.. you invest time and energy getting to know them.. .. just to find out they are not who they said they were...... on one hand. it makes you angry.... but on the other hand it makes you think am i truly that shallow... ..yes..yes.. I am... I want someone who is attractive to me..... that's not wrong is it..? . . . |
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And here you said.... you weren't talking about yourself...?
 sounds like a case of... Misrepresentation...lol
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well I'm allowed to express my opinion.. in the topic I start...lol..
... and I'm running around your house naked right now..lol... good thing you can't see me right..lmao |
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You are correct ...........and onions make me cry...so...you are correct again...
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Edited by
WonderWoman48
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Fri 04/10/15 10:36 AM
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I hate taking pictures of myself.
Personally I would rather skyping than sending pictures. I'm NOT into Web Cam Sex. So he has to control his penis. There is noting on my profile that screams I'm a sexual person who just want sexual encounter. I'm seriously looking for someone to share my life with. I have nothing to hide. Take me as I am or watch me as I walk away! |
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Ok..^^.. I have never Skyped anyone.
. to my understanding.. the person on the other end sees a live video feed of you correct...?. . and if so....ohhh..hmmm.. I would have to do my hair and makeup every time I talk to someone on skype.. . wait I mean I would have to take off my hair and makeup...lol...jk... .. I don't know that would just weird me out.... I would always have to make sure I look my best.... .ok.. Who am I kidding I always look my best.... 
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I hate taking pictures of myself. Personally I would rather skyping than sending pictures. I'm NOT into Web Cam Sex. So he has to control his penis. There is noting on my profile that screams I'm a sexual person who just want sexual encounter. I'm seriously looking for someone to share my life with. I have nothing to hide. Take me as I am or watch me as I walk away! Awesome, physical attraction is on a small part of any relationship. I must say at the beginning its 80/20 and to my astonishment the longer the relationship those number's begin to reverse one begins to care about what is on the inside than what they see on the outside |
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I almost forgot to say something else.
I do not believe in pictures. I do believe in cam chat. Many people are posting fake pictures on their profiles. There are plenty of catfish on all dating sites.  |
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Edited by
TMommy
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Fri 04/10/15 06:42 PM
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see now skype can be a wonderful thing
if you are separated due to jobs such as military or your niece is in California at college and you want to say hi if you are in a loving and established relationship where there is trust then turn that on darling and let it roll its a good way to see each other when you cant see each other but if it's with someone online that you have never met who says " come on baby where is your sense of adventure" uhhhhhmmm...no I mean how do you know if he isn't recording it on other end and has a whole stash somewhere of amateur vids of all the women he is contact with? |
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 scary!! But it happens
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Edited by
tealbreeze
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Fri 04/10/15 08:08 PM
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Generally speaking, it may be dependent on the other party's readiness to open up to certain people. If your friend shared his pictures just because he wanted to and not because she demanded or asked for them, i dont see why she should be pressured to show hers, but otherwise, it ought to work both ways, i think, regardless of gender. I do think that someone constantly regaling their comeliness to the other person, but at the same time, "shy" about it, is highly contradictory, and as such, a red flag. Now if someone is asking for something from the other person, then yes, the person has a right to have such a "proof of life" This. I give them 2 weeks tops. lol |
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