No, I'm not talking about ropes, whips, chains and floggers ... sorry!

What I am talking about, is a type of man. A strong, empowered man who knows what he wants and wouldn't be deterred by a strong empowered, but sassy, bratty woman. The kind of guy that could easily handle and deal with such a woman. And that's basically the Dom kind of guy.
So someone who'd like and appreciate that kind of woman, so he wouldn't tire of her being that way. He'd enjoy it. Would simply chuckle and let her stew in it for a while or if it starts to bother him, give her a good erm... well, you know. Spanking and a bit more

May all sound a bit weird to some ... but I'm so independent and strong that I am beginning to wonder that maybe I'm just never going to find the man for me. So far never met a man that can handle me. And no, I'm not an awfully difficult person, just that I'm strong and independent. Yet I crave to find a man that can handle me.
I'd need someone that entices me, captivates me, so much so that I would want to make time for him. And a 'normal' average man doesn't do that for me. Would basically require a man who's stronger than me. (GOD that would irritate the chit out of me, lol, but it is what I need)

I'm beginning to think I'm doomed.

Wondering how many other women are 'struggling' with the same thing?

I feel your pain about finding a REAL man. I don't think I'm difficult at all but my brilliance and intelligence usually scares them away. I have powers of observation. I can see right through them. They can never fool me. And I let them know that! I speak my mind. That bothers them, too. I always try to work on myself to be a better person. I expect my man to be the same way and to appreciate my constructive criticisms instead of misinterpreting them to be an attack. I don't want a dominant male but I would like a confident one. Someone who is not easily intimidated and understands my strength and toughness and who will reap the rewards by enjoying my tenderness and sweetness.

if you say it will not happen
it wont

<shrug>
i am about there myself

keep your head up
it could happen the next corner you come around

Not sure if I would have used word DOM but yes someone can stand toe to toe with me and look me in eye
understand I have low tolerance for BS and that I am strong because I have had to be to make it this far. not interested in a doormat. looking for my equal

Yes exactly. And what both you and I describe, is what I loosely call the "Dom type". That's not a man who takes joy in breaking a woman, nor a man who needs to boss a woman around in order to feel strong himself. That's basically an insecure man, not an empowered one. And that's not what I want or need either.
Needle in the haystack thing ...

What about a real woman? If you looking for a real man there better be enough real women to go around

Yes, indeed. And that sounds so easy and logical ... so why the heck is it so difficult to find such men?
Almost every single girlfriend I have has exactly this same problem with finding a suitable partner.
Almost as if in our age range this is just almost impossible to find ...
I think easier among the younger the generations.

Well Crystal, I've told you before that I had an ex that was a bit like you, or the way that you're describing yourself here.

I also have a dominant personality, whatever else you may think about me and there was constant drama and arguments and now she's with a guy that is a wimp compared to me that she says will run around after her like a blue arsed fly and they seem to be happy.

I'm not going to offer you any advice because I know you wouldn't apreciate it from me anyway and frankly, I don't think that there's a man alive that would make you happy and the theme that runs through all of your threads is that you really don't care for men very much at all and apparently just come on here to slag them off.

What's the old joke? Women with push up bras, botox, hair dye, implants, tattooed eyebrows, and facelifts are the ones who complain there are no 'real' men left!(lol)

For men it's a fine line between being 'dominant' and overbearing/smothering/possessive/jealous. Women say they want a masculine rugged guy, and when presented with one don't like it. I'm not stud muffin material, but I bike 6-7 miles a day, lift a little weight, drive a little fast, like my music, a good scotch or Japanese beer, am sufficiently well read, play a couple instruments, am belted in martial arts, and I shoot expert.

I went through this 'what do women want?' thing in the 80's when women allegedly wanted men who were 'sensitive' and who were 'in touch with their feelings'. Once men adjusted and tried to be that, they were now 'gay' or 'momma's boys'.

Here's the deal. I don't try to 'be' what people 'want'. You can want me for who and what I am. Don't like it? Sucks to be you then, cause quite frankly I think I'm worth the price of admission.

After being on the site for a while now I don't think 'Mrs Right' is in the inventory here. Ms Right Now is even in short supply. Ms. Lithium? Yeah, already met a couple of those here, so I lock up the knives and guns when I have someone over now.

After my last relationship crashed and burned, I've shelved the idea of romance for the foreseeable future. We can play slap and tickle, but I'm not up for meeting your family/kids/pet goldfish.

Haha. I thought you mean bdsm dominate. That reminds me, I had talked to a woman on here for a couple of weeks, she lives really close. I liked her, then like 2 weeks in she popped the news on me that she's into bdsm, I have to dominate her, and punish her when she breaks the rules. She's a cool chick, but I just don't crave control like that.

She's says it's not an act, it's a lifestyle. I would have to set rules and keep track of all the times she broke them. And then invent new ways to humiliate her in bed.

Sounded interesting but not for me

^ I had a similar proposition from a man. He is sweet, complimentary, worships me, intelligent, affluent. So what's wrong this time? He wants me to dominate him, cuckold him, as he termed it, with other men, and here's where it gets really depressing. He is interested in tasting my golden showers. Should I still give him a chance or is he too far off the deep end?

pulls his stuffed teddy bear close into himself..... squeezes teddy bear tightly.. and whispers into its ear..
..... Mr boo bear... the women on here scare me..... ...

That one is easily answered: do you want a man that wants you to walk all over him?
I can do that, and the guy who wants that better brace himself, cos I'd be the mother of all biotches if I put on those shoes!
And that's because it does nothing for me. I can do it, but that doesn't mean it fulfills me. Meaning I'm not really truly that kind of woman.
I need a man I can look up to, not one that I can walk all over. And I will if a guy ain't strong.

Haha. At least this girl didn't want to peed on. And she did say that in public she doesn't bow down. We remain friends though at least

Bad bad N01 for interrupting when women speak!! Go stand in your corner now! You will sort this out later.
*grins and gets flogger out of the cupboard*

I never said 'real man', I was talking about a specific kind of man.
The man that doesn't need tit for tat ...
Sorry if the subject hit a nerve

Thank you :D
I will remain positive, just that sometimes ...