Do U think confessions make a relationship stronger??? Should U really ever confess to cheating???

no i think you should leave the relationship if you want to cheat

Confession makes relationship stronger If you won't go back to that act again.. And moreover, that's not applicable to everyone. Some the relationship will end immediately u confess and some will continue..

The late George Burns wrote in his biography, that he
strayed just once, late night at the office, co-worker.

He immediately hated himself for it and vowed to make
up for it, the rest of his life..and he did.

Trying to make amends, without saying anything, he went
and bought Gracie a huge chandelier she had been wanting,
she adored it, never suspected a thing and it went in
their dining room.

Many years later, he came home early one day and overheard
Gracie talking to someone in the dining room.

She said, "Isn't that the most beautiful chandelier you have
ever seen? George gave it to me when he had an affair..
I wish he would have another one so I could get the matching
one for it."

~~
Wise woman, occurs to me.
Wise man also occurs to me.
Happy couple.

loose lips, sink ships..

As the saying goes s*** happens..
If it happens once.. well if Jennifer Anderson wanted to sleep with me I don't think a woman could blame me..
But then my woman would be allowed to sleep with a George Clooney let's say..lol..And no I would not want to hear about it

Depends on the person they're confessing to.
People see confessions differently.


You mean in general?

Like you call your mom up and say "mom, I've been cheating, I just had to confess and get that off my chest."
Or you confess to the person sitting next to you on the bus?

Or are you asking if you should really ever confess to cheating to the person you're in a relationship with? Whether or not the cheating has stopped or is a past occurrence.

Or are you asking if you should really ever confess to cheating to all your partners like a 12 step program where you call all your past ex's and confess you cheated on them?


Other than that, I don't think anyone should "confess" anything without putting some thought into it.
I think people should avoid just ejaculating a confession to try and make themselves feel better for having to keep something in.

No I think a cheater should have to live with the secret and suffer every time they think of it every day of their life.

Confession is yet another selfish act that only serves the person that cheated not the person cheated on.

I just wish I could get my ex to tell me the truth. I found 255 phone calls and over 10,000 texts between her and a guy (a friend she said), that I didn't know. This was over a 4 month period, then she moves out, find out she moved into his house, 3 months later we divorce, then 2 months after the divorce her and the guy buy a house, then 4 months after that they are married. Seriously, just friends, how stupid do I look?

If you are truly unhappy then you either need to repair what makes you unhappy in the relationship. If that is not possible then it is probably time to move on.

As for the cheating guideline #10 says the best way to keep a secret is to keep it to yourself...there is no second best way.



If you think someone is trying to play you...they probably are!

As guideline #4 Says trust your hunches...they are based on facts filed away in your subconscious.

Guideline #14 says don't believe what you are told...find out for yourself and double check.

Wow that's pretty bad. Sorry you hade to experience that.
I agree with you tell the truth.
What happen to honesty in a relationship?
I would rather know so I can cut my losses and move on of cause after making him suffer

Don't cheat.
Problem solved.

Honestly, people have a "holier than thou" attitude when it comes to cheating. For instance, my ex-wife swore to me should would never stray, never would do something as hurtful as that. That was on the day we were married. So, seven years later, she did the very thing she swore she would never do. Did I hate her? No. Did I lose trust in her? Actually I didn't, simply because I wanted to understand what motivated her to do it. I actually tried to save the marriage, but she simply didn't want to. It was then that I understood that she didn't feel the same about me as she had on the day we were married, and her leaving meant she would have to be "honorable" and say she wanted to end it. And that was too much for her.

Now....what good would it do if I acted holier than thou with her? She knows she did the wrong thing....she has to deal with that. It isn't up to me to judge her for something like that. I wasn't happy with her....mainly because she refused to admit it. She just couldn't bring herself to do so. I didn't need a confession....I just wanted her and I to work through it. In the end, it didn't happen....and it actually turned out to be the best thing for me and her.

and i'm on the support crew for that mission.


on topic confession serves you

The answer to any question in the general format of "Is [blank] good for a relationship?" is the same:

It depends on HOW you do it, and WHY you do it.

There's nothing in existence that can't be done wrong, or misused and abused.


It's probably true most of the time, that when someone feels very bad about something they did, that confessing it to SOMEONE makes them feel better. That's part of why some religions like the Catholics have Confession as a central rite.

Worst mistake I see people make: thinking that confession is like money, and that by giving it to the person they wronged, the person is REQUIRED to forgive them and let them carry on as before.

....but...but....honey I told ya the truth...where ya going???