Pet peeve when cuties like peggy122 live on the other side of the world rather peeved indeed

Ladies and gents ... What are some of the elements in profiles from the photograph to the written content that you consider a complete turn-off or at least a pet peeve?

None, anymore.

Your question implies:
1. I'm turned on when reading profiles, so can be turned off.
Reading profiles is like reading an ikea manual anymore.
It's just information.
Either useful, or not. If not, move on. If so, then for what purpose.

2. I get annoyed reading a profile, as though they are directly interacting with me.
Profiles don't really annoy me anymore.
It takes a few seconds to read, and I'm not really interacting with a person by reading it. So how could it annoy me.

3. There is a "right" way to fill out a profile, and that "right" way is to try and turn me on, or keep me turned on, and not be annoying from my perspective.
A persons profile is about them. Not me. Getting annoyed or turned off makes it seem like I believe their profile exists to satisfy my expectations and make me finding what I want the most important thing.

I figure if I'm having an emotional reaction based on reading a profile then I'm taking things way too seriously or I'm seeing online dating no different than a kid in a candy store, full of objects I am entitled to try and if I don't like the taste then it's their fault, and I'm in a hurry to find the best tasting thing to satiate my appetite and they're wasting my time with the yucky stuff.
I don't want to be that way.

So...I see profiles as pretty meaningless anymore unless they have what I consider relevant information that makes me want to talk to them about something, not forces me to emotionally react.
99.99999999999% don't.
So, either learn to find that .000000001%, or spend a lot of time being frustrated and turned off and emotionally crazy.

Being turned off or pet peeved by profiles seems like smacking myself in the head with a hammer repeatedly in order to knock myself unconscious so I don't feel the pain of being hit in the head with a hammer, anymore.

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Response:

I agree with you that profiles are not the most meaningful things in the world lol. But the same way you gave an intense and detailed response to my unimportant question is the same way some people have strong and detailed responses to peoples unimportant profiles . It would be excessive and lame of us to spend days or weeks griping about chatroom peeves, but it's very human I think to have visceral reactions to stimuli provided by the chatroom world and to life in general. And we just happen to be having ONE light-hearted discussion about the visceral reactions we are experiencing. Just putting all of this in perspective :)

turn offs

no response
ask me later
negative ninnies(profiles that are mostly complaints and turn offs)
pompous prats(profiles are about whats wrong with others)
materialistic(profiles about what they own, what papers or certificates or degrees they have, etc,,,)


and of course

the shirtless picture(unless its appropriate to the surroundings like the beach or a pool)

Pretty young Russian or American girls who like my profile and would like to know me better so maybe we'll get married, when clearly it says I'm only interested in UK based people, so couldn't have read the profile.

PS Tulip: I often click favorite on a profile if I like them but they're offline, I'll try to chat next time I see them on, and then just wait to be blocked or ignored (charming, lol)

but is it necessary for them to select the worst picture of their life as their profile pic?...

i directly block these ones:
no photo
just a face photo, and that is with sunglasses of course lol
shirtless photo
about me: hi
i'll tell you later

nicknames like: handsome guy, naughty boy, crazy handsome, hopeless xxx :has:

having said all these; forum attenders are all out of this categorizing. because they at least have something to say.

* Nicknames like: Mine (grrrrrr) Ok-ok-ok I am dumb at times

Oh yeah butribu! I forgot about that! Lol... the guys with the cheesy sex names eg spermdelight, cum4 u etc. I'm usually laughing too much at their names to actually respond. That being said, some people really do come here for sex and in that case, they are targetting a very specific audience . 'To each man his own' as the saying goes.

Bad profiles are so pervasive it has gotten to be expected. Disappointing because a good profile is not that difficult. Lots of pointers and if you actually read what you have posted you can edit most mistakes. If you would not date someone that writes what you have why put it up there?

I think what vaguely peeves me is that if you are going to take time to put one up, why be ignorant about it and punish yourself? Bad profile is no skin off my nose if anything it helps me because brings the serious contenders to me. But really bad profiles and the scammer profiles (which are SOOOH obvious) do not bug me. The delete button is so easy. It is like thanks for letting me get you out of the way. I will spend my time on the people who invest in the process.

If you want to be skipped the sure fire ones are;

No Photo. Sorry if your life is so dramatic you can not put up a photo I don't need you in mine. If you are famous you can't deal with it why should I? If you are hung up about being seen on this site then don't be here. You have just said you are pretty much saying I do not have enough value to show up in your elitist world so you are sneaking into mine to troll; so get lost.

A lead shot that does not include at the very least a limited smile. I hate having my picture taken every bit as much as anyone else but if I am picking a photo to introduce myself to another person (Not to mention the world) basic manners and common sense say I make a congenial first impression.

Vulgar screen name or banner. Not funny or cute. In or out of context. Too stupid for me to waste my time.

Looking for intimate encounter. One it is so ignorant to even say because if things go really well that is eventually a given and it says you have zero focus or ability if you are that desperate to say it. If that is your only goal I know you are going to be boring as a board.

Announcing you are looking for honest, loyal, real people. Ok right there you have labeled yourself a failure and that you have consistently picked losers. Stupid and no common sense is not attractive. I figure if you are chronically being played or ditched by devious means you are either too vague to know you are not the one or you are one of the people others are so desperate to get away from they will resort to any escape possible. I back away and run the other direction. Even if you are not violent who wants to live with walking wounded and spend the first few dates proving you are what you should be as a given.

The next one is a little tougher but I have learn over time the phrase " Looking for God Fearing" is not a person with Christian values it is a person who has a radical agenda and you are signing up to be their congregation of ONE if you go out on a date. Often it will be a person who is so submissive to doctrine or wants you to be that so this is not even remotely an equal relationship. And they are way to caught up in recruiting to actually see others aa persons of faith. It is kind of insulting. You know if you don't meet their restrictive definition you are dead meet once they have failed to convert you. And you have ZERO chance of actually growing together in faith.

Any where in the basic profile queries it says "no answer". Common theses are not deeply personal questions and sure are not rocket science. If you can not come up with a minimum response why should I bother. To me no answer is am assumption the worst answer is the truth. You really want to choke yourself on that?

I Will Tell You Later. No you won't. You have already wasted my time I am not going to give you another chance. If your communication skills are so poor you have to make me come back for a simple answer there are a dozen people in my mail list that just got in front of you. If you are so new, less than 24 hours, and so eager to poach views you can't make a minimum profile I am not going to respond to you. I am not that desperate that I have to maul you the minute you walk in the door.

That is pretty much the same as posting "Have any questions just ask". If you KNOW you have left most of the critical information out and are expecting me to do the heavy lifting to dig answers out of you then you have made yourself resemble a toothache. Not my idea of a fun date or a relationship that will be anything but a drag.

IF, and this is a big IF, you did not ask for the information my profile says I want to know about you when you read mine and CHOSE to contact me you pretty much want to get down to brass tacks and tell me. Other wise I assume you are trying to slide something by I have already told you will not fly. I respect Everyone's right not to put it all out their on a profile but when you contact me the game changes. You want to be and exception you are going to have to make a really good case for it.

No interests listed. Give ne a break you are and adult and if you have zero personal insight to have interests why am I going to make the effort to contact you or respond to you if you contact me? If you only put generic nouns with no verbs you sound boring or wishy washy. Just because you have and interest does not exclude others but plant a few seeds for connection or at least conversation. I don't know about others but I am not looking for carbon copy of myself in all areas. Your interests might just be what is your hook.

You must lists do not bug me. Everyone gets boundaries but if you want to edit someone make sure it is a criteria that really matters to you because I take them literally.

And I don't take orders well so if you have crossed over to sounding like a dictator even if I match your you must list I am likely to walk away because I don't like living in a box where coloring outside of the lines is never going to be accepted.

I get life happens and I don't go in thinking I can maintain perfection or demand it. I am still "passable" in the looks department ect. but even when I was Young, a "Brick House", knocking the world dead; the people who were looking for a trophy were deleted and still are. If I have to enhance you then you are lacking what I am looking for.

Damn it Peggy, there's no like button here, some of these comments are brilliant. :)