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Edited by
Jimmy_roy
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Wed 02/10/16 08:42 AM
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I have seen lovers breaking vows and promises they made to their partner. But I also know a couple who has broken all the promises they made to each other but still living happily. So I feel "Always love you" is the best promise I can say to her because I will surely break others.
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You will 'surely break others?'
That is a built-in excuse to cheat. |
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As long as you truly mean it....but your actions will always speak louder to her.
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I promise I didn't look at that other woman..
I promise I won't be late for supper.. I promise the check is in the mail.. I promise I won't----- in your mouth. I promise it didn't mean anything.. I promise it's your turn next.. I promise I won't be late.. I promise I took the pill.. I promise I'm clean we don't need a condom.. I promise they didn't mean anything to me.. I promise I actually had an orgasm.. I promise I didn't take the last cookie.. I promise I love you..yup..lol |
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You will 'surely break others?' That is a built-in excuse to cheat. It is not always to cheat that you break promises as I gave the example of my friends. Don`t tell me you never broke any promises you made to your man |
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damn.. I wanted that cookie
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As long as you truly mean it....but your actions will always speak louder to her. Well that is why I am promising that only right because I truly will be able to keep that only. There will always be situations where I will need to break some or the other promise (for her not for cheating) |
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damn.. I wanted that cookie |
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I promise I didn't look at that other woman.. I promise I won't be late for supper.. I promise the check is in the mail.. I promise I won't----- in your mouth. I promise it didn't mean anything.. I promise it's your turn next.. I promise I won't be late.. I promise I took the pill.. I promise I'm clean we don't need a condom.. I promise they didn't mean anything to me.. I promise I actually had an orgasm.. I promise I didn't take the last cookie.. I promise I love you..yup..lol well if i say that way then surely she will not believe..the heck I will also not believe. But yeah I am clean and I didn`t take the last cookie 
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I have seen lovers breaking vows and promises they made to their partner. But I also know a couple who has broken all the promises they made to each other but still living happily. So I feel "Always love you" is the best promise I can say to her because I will surely break others. Two points under consideration: (a) 'I'll always love you' being the 'best' promise or otherwise, is a question that one should be asking one's own self, instead of soliciting 'public' opinion. (b) 'I'll always try to understand you' is a better than the best promise, IMO. 
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Edited by
Kaustuv1
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Wed 02/10/16 09:57 AM
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I have seen lovers breaking vows and promises they made to their partner. But I also know a couple who has broken all the promises they made to each other but still living happily. So I feel "Always love you" is the best promise I can say to her because I will surely break others. Two points under consideration: (a) 'I'll always love you' being the 'best' promise or otherwise, is a question that one should be asking one's own self, instead of soliciting 'public' opinion. (b) 'I'll always try to understand you' is a better than the best promise, IMO. 1. Bro forum is normally the best way to get opinion of people and help yourself to get better answers. if I get a better option than I would opt for that right..human nature 2. Well this is also a good option but I have seen max fights in any marriage are due to misunderstanding so I know it can happen and there are max chances that I may break the promise so why to promise that. A promise or vow is not tentative but should be solid..my opinion 
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1. Bro forum is normally the best way to get opinion of people and help yourself to get better answers. if I get a better option than I would opt for that right..human nature
2. Well this is also a good option but I have seen max fights in any marriage are due to misunderstanding so I know it can happen and there are max chances that I may break the promise so why to promise that. A promise or vow is not tentative but should be solid..my opinion Understood & Accepted 
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Is "Always love you" the best promise? Not out of context of the relationship. As that's when it's usually given, in mind of everything that's gone on before. So I feel "Always love you" is the best promise I can say to her because I will surely break others. The more you try to preplan the relationship the more likely it is going to fail. All you're doing is building up expectations. Including the ones you think she is going to have. Putting thoughts, feelings, in her head that may not be there, rather than listening to the things that are actually there. No one can live up to that. So "always love you" is the best promise you can say if at the time, based on your interaction, your relationship, you feel you can live up to what you are saying. |
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Edited by
peggy122
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Wed 02/10/16 02:13 PM
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Why do we feel this compulsion to make promises to our mates? Is it some kind of foul-proof aphrodisiac to secure a regular stream of blissful, but mis-guided sex? For the people who are actually sincere about executing the WORK of love ( and yes, love is work); Why can't we just profess our love to our mate , if that is our truth, and then strive to back it up with our actions long-term, if things work out that way. I have gotten enough love promises in my 40 years to keep Hallmark in business for the next 80 years, but what do I have to show for it? Are promises the ultimate proof of someone's love? ... or is the truth in ACTIONS, which are nurturing/protective/sacrificial over a long and consistent period of time? And do we truly even love our mate if all we know or accept about them is the BEST of what we see in them? How deep does that river of love run after we have seen the worst in them? Isn't that the real testament of love? |
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Why do we feel this compulsion to make promises to our mates? Is it some kind of foul-proof aphrodisiac to secure a regular stream of blissful, but mis-guided sex? For the people who are actually sincere about executing the WORK of love ( and yes, love is work); Why can't we just profess our love to our mate , if that is our truth, and then strive to back it up with our actions long-term, if things work out that way. I have gotten enough love promises in my 40 years to keep Hallmark in business for the next 80 years, but what was the fruit of those words? Are promises the ultimate proof of someone's love? ... or is the truth in ACTIONS, which are nurturing/protective/sacrificial over a long and consistent period of time? And do we truly even love our mate if all we know or accept about them is the BEST of what we see in them? How deep does that river of love run after we have seen the worst in them? Isn't that the real testament of love? Your first sentence about compulsion and making promises. I never do I thought this topic was a bit strange. Would anyone actually sit there and say 'I promise you I'll always do this, I promise you I'll never do that. I don't even recall doing that kind of stuff when I was 14 |
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Edited by
lu_rosemary
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Wed 02/10/16 02:36 PM
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Oh, but please do.,,,
Love me today... Love me tomorrow... Love me everyday... Love me always... Love me forever... What a nice thought. 
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For me it would be difficult to promise to do much of anything "always" because I have seen enough people change into people one would not even recognize.
I can say "I love you" to some one I feel those feelings for; once they develop and enjoy giving that gift of affection. I think it is important to do that for the person you care deeply for because it enriches the giver and the receiver. I believe humans need that affirmation. I have seen people wilt with out it even when they appear to have every "thing" a person could want. But it just not seem anything but cruel to set yourself up or the other person up making a promise that can be easily broken by so many interpretations. |
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I long ago learned the hard way (as many of us do) that when someone promises you forever, all they are really saying, is that they feel very intensely positive about you right NOW.
Love especially, isn't under the control of the person who feels it, or the person who is loved. You can decide what to do about it, but not to feel it. Not to have it. I understand why you think as you do, OP, and I'm not being critical. It would be a very valuable thing indeed, if it were possible to do as you try to promise you will. It would be very comforting if a person could really believe it, and really experience it. So I agree with the value you place on it, and with how it does symbolize the epitome of giving to you. It's just that all that anyone can actually DO, with appropriate work and nonstop effort, is to make sure to always deal HONORABLY with whomever you care for. So I guess what I would promise, is that I will always show HONOR to the people I care about in my life. |
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As long as you truly mean it....but your actions will always speak louder to her. I agree with this 100% |
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