It has been said that Happy people in a committed relationship do not cheat.....

I have known people men/women that do cheat on occasion but swear they are Happy and Love their partners.....BUT still cheat.

Is it a natural impulse or something else that draws them to do it?



What are your thoughts????

It has been said that Happy people in a committed relationship do not cheat.....

Absolutely True!!!

I have known people men/women that do cheat on occasion but swear they are Happy and Love their partners.....BUT still cheat.

They are liars!!!

Is it a natural impulse or something else that draws them to do it?

I guess one needs to seek a doctor for help!!!

Thank you for your intelligent input.

The people you know that cheat on their partners, have they ever told their partners that they are cheating on them? I can guarantee that if they did the majority of them wouldn't be happy anymore. Like most humans these people want all the things they perceive as good in life heedless of the feelings of anyone else that may be involved.

If you're happy and you know it look somewhere else.

Unless they are in an open relationship, there is no excuse.
I have seen this happen from someone close to me.
I honestly do not think they really love their partner if they cheat on them. How could they? How could they make love to mistress/mister and then go home and with their "committment" of a lifetime like nothing is going on?
They are liars with no conscience whatsoever.
Taboo is exciting..the Forbidden fruit.

But I do I understand why they cheat. They go looking for something they can't get at home, or used to get but the relationship has grown stale over the years. No one puts in the effort to keep it fresh, fun, exciting..
Sometimes it's not even sex, it's how they make them feel about themselves.

I think they need to come clean or make an ef''ng decision and get out of the relationship.

Well, apart from the mentioned "They're lying about being happy", it can also be that they have different views regarding monogamy than their partner / most people.
These days there are quite a few people who don't really believe in monogamy.

And as for the happy section: one can be happy living like Al Bundy, but there's very little excitement left in such a life. If then they meet someone else and sparks fly... Still doesn't mean they don't love their partner or are unhappy. Their lives just lacks fireworks. Most ppl's lives get dull after X amount of years together. Usually ppl don't even compliment each other anymore, aren't impressed by the other anymore etc. Basically take each other for granted.
Then someone else appears who does think they look good, are funny, great etc... well ...

I don't think unhappiness is at the root of cheating.

If unhappiness were to blame for infidelity, then every person in the world should be cheating because nobody is happy with their partner 100% of the time.

And even if you are mostly happy with your partner, there is always someone who can temporarily make you happier in one area or another.

The root of cheating is selfishness and thoughtlessness regarding your partner.

That selfishness maybe a one time deal or an ongoing thing, but it's still selfishness, and a betrayal of your partner's trust.


If it happens just once , and the offender confesses and never does it again, then I don't think it is fair to say that the offender doesn't love their partner. But obviously they wounded their partner and most of us have wounded our partners in other ways.


But even though the offender may truly love their mate, it doesn't mean that they will be forgiven or trusted again.

The love may not be broken in some cases, but most of the time , the trust is destroyed.

All you say is true and I am sure they did not tell their partners

We both have seen this happen and they are eventually caught and try toile out of it. Never works.

That is why every day together should be a new adventure bringing you closer

I do not think there is such a thing as cheating once. After they have taken the forbidden fruit there would be no turning back.

People cheat I believe because there was not love in relationship to begin with passion yes but not love . Loving relationships are built on trust and communication and a awareness that for love to continue it must be nurtured and fed each and every moment , in the good times and the difficult times .

I have heard many reasons why some cheat, even old acquaintances, and to me not one makes sense if you love someone.

Why?

" Bigamy is having one wife to many. Monogamy is the same"...this is true for many people huh!!!Signs of the time.....As for me I am a solitary guy....looking for a solitary woman...ha ha....but then you already knew that...

Yea....we know that

Perhaps because they can,
they are not content with what they have,
they think one time doesn't count,
they are caught in a loveless marriage,
there are people who are willing to cheat with them,
but mostly,
they cheat because they are selfish, self-centered, thoughtless arses.

I fully agree with you and once is never the norm for cheaters

Very articulate

But true IMO