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What is the right thing to do in a relationship where both couples seems to be the innocent one in their own mind while the other is completely guilty.
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If someone can't put their big kid pants on and admit their contribution then no thanks
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It depends.
What is the other person guilty of? |
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When you ask a lady why the breakup; what we hear is the man is always after other ladies.
Ask a man what comes out of his mouth is "the stupid woman has hot pants and nag a lot. Who is saying the truth then? |
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its social intercourse......everyone makes up in there own mind there own
version of reality.....and it usually based on the good opinion of others...never personalize anything said bad... or good for that matter.....if you do its like taking poison......we humans like to put the blame ''out there''  .
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It usually takes more than one person to destroy a relationship.
Both parties are usually to blame in some way |
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What is the right thing to do in a relationship where both couples seems to be the innocent one in their own mind while the other is completely guilty. Please comment Another couple? Two couples? If it is NOT you in the relationship. Then stay out of it. |
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In my experience, MOST couples fit that description. Both think the other is most of the problem.
In a way, they are usually both right. They each want to live a certain way, that the other other one doesn't. Relatively speaking, even if you want to screw around and have your mate put up with it, when they dump your sorry tuchas for going ahead, it's THEIR "fault" for not going with the flow. And I'm with Sassyeuro in that if it's someone else you know, the rule is, don't take sides. It's their business. |
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It's like I've said before, I like to believe there are three sides to every story. His side her side and the truth which is hopefully somewhere in the middle.
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What is the right thing to do in a relationship where both couples seems to be the innocent one in their own mind while the other is completely guilty. Depends on what kind of people they are and what they're realistically capable of. ask a lady why the breakup... Ask a man... Who is saying the truth then? It doesn't matter. What practical use would the "truth" be? Other than for feeling some kind of moral superiority and righteousness to their judging others? No one has ever really needed "truth" for that. And at best, if you know the truth, and hold it against a person, you're mostly just marginalizing their feelings. Feelings don't go away just because you show someone the "truth." |
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It's like I've said before, I like to believe there are three sides to every story. His side her side and the truth which is hopefully somewhere in the middle. I Agree to that....  
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In my experience, MOST couples fit that description. Both think the other is most of the problem. In a way, they are usually both right. They each want to live a certain way, that the other other one doesn't. Relatively speaking, even if you want to screw around and have your mate put up with it, when they dump your sorry tuchas for going ahead, it's THEIR "fault" for not going with the flow. And I'm with Sassyeuro in that if it's someone else you know, the rule is, don't take sides. It's their business. NOBODY messes with family 
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Edited by
Annierooroo
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Wed 04/13/16 01:30 AM
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It's like I've said before, I like to believe there are three sides to every story. His side her side and the truth which is hopefully somewhere in the middle. Man Blue! Have you been talking to my great Aunt and Uncle? They say that all the time. It's very true |
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Does it matter who's speaking the truth?
If you love each other, focus should be on resolving the issue. A tit for tat game will only make matters worse. I do know that men mostly use the lame statement "You're always nagging!" to upset the woman and make her feel small. Which is called "disempowering someone". Question is why you'd do that if what she's saying isn't true ... |
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Does it matter who's speaking the truth? If you love each other, focus should be on resolving the issue. A tit for tat game will only make matters worse. Resolving the issue is very good but for me, I can't live in the same room with somebody who had cheated on me. The trust is that I do have a total trust, affection and everything, when I'm in love, I give my partner my trust, heart and soul. So, when she bridges it; I loose all trust in her. And trust is everything in a relationship. I do know that men mostly use the lame statement "You're always nagging!" to upset the woman and make her feel small. Which is called "disempowering someone". Question is why you'd do that if what she's saying isn't true ... Nagging is the end result of an abusive partner. "Where the hell have you been all this while", "you refuse to do your part in this house". Nagging can bring a man down to his lowest ebb. These are symptoms of breakdown of good relationship so we ought to see the sign when it starts to manifest |
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Does it matter who's speaking the truth? If you love each other, focus should be on resolving the issue. A tit for tat game will only make matters worse. Resolving the issue is very good but for me, I can't live in the same room with somebody who had cheated on me. The trust is that I do have a total trust, affection and everything, when I'm in love, I give my partner my trust, heart and soul. So, when she bridges it; I loose all trust in her. And trust is everything in a relationship. I do know that men mostly use the lame statement "You're always nagging!" to upset the woman and make her feel small. Which is called "disempowering someone". Question is why you'd do that if what she's saying isn't true ... Nagging is the end result of an abusive partner. "Where the hell have you been all this while", "you refuse to do your part in this house". Nagging can bring a man down to his lowest ebb. These are symptoms of breakdown of good relationship so we ought to see the sign when it starts to manifest |
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It's like I've said before, I like to believe there are three sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth which is hopefully somewhere in the middle. I Agree to that.... Why is that people doesn't like to see "the Truth" in argument but where it comes its always allowed to comes last |
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It's like I've said before, I like to believe there are three sides to every story. His side, her side and the truth which is hopefully somewhere in the middle. I Agree to that.... Why is that people doesn't like to see "the Truth" in argument but where it comes its always allowed to comes last Errrr....I don't get you...coming from where and who??? I for myself always want the truth and nothing but the truth...I don't get what you're really driving at in here...The truth Will Always Set a Person Free and if it comes out in the open, deal with it right away but if you are enraged lay low, back off and calm yourself...if you still have that love in your heart and still want to carry on then forgive and forget; start anew... but if you can't forgive then settle amicably like mature and responsible adults esp. when it involves children, their lives shouldn't become miserable because of the mistakes of their parents. |
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When you ask a lady why the breakup; what we hear is the man is always after other ladies. Ask a man what comes out of his mouth is "the stupid woman has hot pants and nag a lot. Who is saying the truth then? the man is always right, duh... |
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Edited by
kriszo101
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Wed 04/13/16 12:17 PM
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Errrr....I don't get you...coming from where and who??? I for myself always want the truth and nothing but the truth... ......The truth Will Always Set a Person Free and if it comes out in the open, deal with it right away but if you are enraged lay low, back off and calm yourself...if you still have that love in your heart and still want to carry on then forgive and forget; start anew... but if you can't forgive then settle amicably like mature and responsible adults esp. when it involves children, their lives shouldn't become miserable because of the mistakes of their parents. Well, I strongly agreed with you that when it involves children, we should soft pedal... their lives shouldn't become miserable because of the mistakes of their parents. When things get wrong it is always the children that suffers, emotionally and other wise. What can we do to reduce their sufferings; continue the relationship and die in sorrow or what? Yet, we need to put the children into consideration in whatever decision we take. If the woman is a loose woman, what morals would these children get from their mum if they live with her. Likewise the man too. The children's welfare should be paramount in any decision taken. Raising children alone is not easy. |
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