Your best relationships, happened...

While you were seeking one?
-or-
When you least expected one?

I keep telling myself that! To STOP looking and let "it" happen.

Humm everyone one of them when I least expected it was not looking at all..

I think we will see a pattern here.

It happens when I least expect it.
Being young, I did try to look for someone before, but nothing serious comes out haha.

Well i was seduced when i least expected it & it lead to it getting very serious & i thought this could be it the one i've been waiting for... but it turns out i was just being used

i hate it when that happens... getting used for sex...

but i also like it...

Lol that's funny

I am still waiting...........

but it wasn't only sex but a lot more then that, 7 months of daily intense passion but i had to pull away knowing the truth & it was too hard to do it but i had to...but i still think of her tho

I have only really started looking for a relationship, since I started exploring online dating. a year ago , so I dont have a reference for comparison yet

It just happened, when I was going thru my woman friend inventory...okay, personal address/phone book( yeah no hi tech gadgets in those days)...saw the number and kinda liked it...called it, and a year later we were hitched......true story...

ALWAYS when least expected, never looked.
And I think there is a reason.

When you are not looking, someone really special
has to practically knock you over to get your attention..
so you tend to notice. You are more open and friendly
as you know you seek nothing.

When you are looking, you tend to sniff everyone
of the opposite sex as they pass you by, for..possibility,
you cannot help it, that is built-in.

when I least expected one...

I see a pattern.

As I have seen throughout my life, at the very same time that the loudest voices proclaim that it's up to each of us to "make things happen," even, or perhaps especially in the realms of romance, that what many of the same loud voices proclaim in the end, is that all the best romances occur spontaneously.

Seems a bit of a contradiction.

All failed.
Or I wouldn't be here.

Other than that, I'm not the type of a-hole to compare one relationship to another creating a hierarchy of "better," or, "best."

That's little different than a parent saying "you know what? I just like your brother better than you. Sorry, I just like and love them more. It's not that I don't love you...I just love them 'best.'"

Kind of a crappy thing to do.

Each relationship is unique with it's own positive and negatives.

You are just as responsible for any "bad" or "good" thing that happens in a relationship as they are.

You can compare jobs to figure out which one is the best by measuring what they've given to you. Money, knowledge, position, authority, esteem, experience, whatever you value that adds to your life.
With relationships what you get is just as important as what you give.
And you don't get to measure the worth of what you give.

So coming up with an idea of what your "best" relationship was is the height of solipsism IMO.

So

Both and more.

I'll cast another vote for unexpected..

I believe in synchronicity..:-)

Best relationships.. not many.. two to be exact.. just happened.

I think the unexpected.. but I feel either way it's exciting to know there is someone who likes us. It's a nice feeling thinking about them..all the time.. can do crazy things to you.

I have had both happen.

If you're not looking, you may not be all that open and simply not notice that other special person even if they were jumping up and down stark naked in front of you.

So I disagree with Soufie, although it depends on how you interpret "Seeking" and "not seeking".

If you ARE looking, searching, from the right place within yourself, and not like "I can't do it on my own! I need someone yesterday!", Law of Attraction will help you out.
That means you ARE searching, but the right person may -and likely will- still turn up unexpectedly.

If you're not searching, just expect someone to come knocking on your door, you will still be alone and single when you're 85 ...

hoping for this one would be my best...

it just happened.. with the least person i expect and never expected at all