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taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with?
Sometimes...life surprises you. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't Take a chance and see what happens 
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I always see people forever limiting their options. Even when I was young, and all the girls would talk about their ideal man, I had no image in my mind, I would say, 'When I meet him, he will become my ideal man' and it has always been so. I think love can find you easier if your back isn't constantly turned to it. |
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Edited by
Dodo_David
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Thu 06/23/16 09:43 PM
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taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with? I met my late wife on a blind date. So, my answer to the question is Yes. |
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I always see people forever limiting their options. Even when I was young, and all the girls would talk about their ideal man, I had no image in my mind, I would say, 'When I meet him, he will become my ideal man' and it has always been so. I think love can find you easier if your back isn't constantly turned to it. Check out Soufie, You Zen Master you. Guess hanging around the zanies of Uncle Bob has cut ya loose! Jkd killer! |
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dolphin0925
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Thu 06/23/16 10:29 PM
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taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with? Sometimes...life surprises you. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't Take a chance and see what happens Life is always full of surprises, no one knows what the future will bring. Being open to all the possibilities makes life worth living, if you won't take chances or risks as an individual , you will never grow and experience the great things in life. Yet embracing life is not just about going after what we want always, we were given the mind and heart to think and feel and put everything in balance 
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Now that Abba song is stuck in my head...
Thank you Candi... 
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taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with? Sometimes...life surprises you. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't Take a chance and see what happens Yes, I have. Often. And always got disappointed. Always ended up thinking "See, my intuition was right all along, I should really learn to pay heed to what it says!" |
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Although being single is fun, there is always the risk of dating someone who'd own a lunchbox with my picture on it..:-D
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Although being single is fun, there is always the risk of dating someone who'd own a lunchbox with my picture on it..:-D Makes me wonder .. who eats a sandwich in this case .. |
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Take a chance and see what happens  Ha Ha! Been there done that! It turned out horribly wrong. Nope, the ones I deem not good for me really aren't! Too difficult to ignore the red flags of incompatibility and it isn't fair to the other person who could be happy with someone else. |
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I didn't got the chance to experienced blind dates, I wish I did. I never dated others, other than my brother's friend. Its not surprising anymore, they knew me and I knew them.
Taking a chance is a good thing , rather not to try it. |
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taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with? Sometimes...life surprises you. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't Take a chance and see what happens It seems I've been trying to expand my thoughts with this as of more lately. I always thought I had a preconceived notion of who my possible match for a partner could be.....but in time now, have realized that way of thinking has been limiting my options of possible dating.  So now I've been just going with it.....we'll see what happens. 
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taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with? I'm not exactly sure how you mean this but how it's typed no, not really. Otherwise I'd start dating dudes, and 4 year olds, and 97 year olds, and chimpanzee's that know sign language. They all fulfill the criteria of "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with." Plus I think I would be a real a-hole if I did the whole "well, I never dreamed I would like you, let alone fall in love with you, dating you was purely an experiment to get out of my comfort zone or whatever, or I simply felt sorry for you and to feel like a good person I decided I'd deign to date you, thank god I used you for that! Turned out well, huh." Otherwise the whole "dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" seems to offer a huge danger of "a sure road to settling because you want immediate emotional gratification and a false sense of security, and you're only expanding your horizons because what you were doing wasn't working for you in getting what you want." IOW there seem to be far more negative possibilities stemming from"dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" for the off chance that you hit the super mega powerball love and viable relationship jackpot. So, no, I wouldn't take the risk dating "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with." Sometimes...life surprises you. Sometimes the measure of an adult is being prepared for surprises. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't What is right for you, or wrong for you, changes throughout your life, it can even change on a day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, basis. I think a better leading question would have been something like "do you believe in the immutability of your personality and life, that who you are is who you are, and who you like is who you like, always and forever, that you have a very specific type that is your ideal match. And if so, what would get you to take a risk/chance on dating someone you never dreamed you might like or fall in love with?" If you don't address the...default mind set...of the people answering your question, the answers are ultimately meaningless. I say I won't take a chance, but what does that mean to you? Do you simply read "closed minded?" Let's say I will date any woman I find attractive between the ages of 28-50, any race, any culture, within the neighborhood of my location, in a city of millions of people. But I said I won't take a chance. Then Pete McPetey responds after me that "yeah! I'm changing lately! I'm broadening my horizons! You have to have an open mind to find love! I'm willing to take that chance!" Only in practical reality that translates to the standard of an attractive woman between the ages of 25-26, blonde, christian, southern american, within the city of 1500 people , but there's this brunette that's 25-26, christian, southern, he's had his eye on and he's thinking of going for. What meaning did the answers "I won't take/haven't thought about taking a chance" vs. "I would take, do think about taking, a chance!" really provide you? |
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Depends,
If i feel i'm sacrificing some part of myself in order to date this person, then no. But on the other hand, if I realize some things on my list of 'check boxes' are really not that important in the long run and I'm evolving in what my ACTUAL needs may be, then yes. Example: List I created when I was 14..she had to be blonde and big boobs, and perhaps I'd doggedly stuck to that throughout the years, Now a brunette comes along and I'm attracted to...then perhaps I could scratch off that criteria. However: Other criteria, such as compatibility, communication, etc...I won't sacrifice those, just for the sake of having someone around. I think everyone creates lists(or has ideas of what they want) at some point, but I also believe those lists should be changing constantly as what we needed when we were in our teens, SHOULD be different when we are in our 30's, 40's 50's etc.... But I have seen some people hold on to the list from their teens, never altering, never compromising, every person they reject at some point because they aren't 'perfect'....I have a name for those people...I call them...Single |
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For me , I guess I had some issues with men of a certain culture and religion . I'm not racist but felt they wern't for me. Even had my problems with the big age difference thingy.
Well I met a guy like that 2 years ago...from the start I'm like "no freakin way will this work" ...it didn't because I wasn't willing to open my mind to this. So we spent a lot of time off and on. The last breakup lasted 5 months..I did a lot of thinking and gave it one more try. We still did not give up on each other completely. It's going great now because I took the wall down..relaxed and let' things flow. Maybe we create the problems we have in our relationships based on our own biases..preconceived ideas and insecurities. |
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Now that Abba song is stuck in my head... Thank you Candi... 
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Every guy I've dated has been way different looking than the last, many different nationalities, jobs and life histories. I tend to bond with people on a very personal level which has nothing to do with any of the above listed. The unfortunate part is that most of these guys were disasters hahahaha
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No but it may be they way to go cause cant catch a break with them woman im normally attracted too
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taking a chance/risk on dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with? I'm not exactly sure how you mean this but how it's typed no, not really. Otherwise I'd start dating dudes, and 4 year olds, and 97 year olds, and chimpanzee's that know sign language. They all fulfill the criteria of "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with." Plus I think I would be a real a-hole if I did the whole "well, I never dreamed I would like you, let alone fall in love with you, dating you was purely an experiment to get out of my comfort zone or whatever, or I simply felt sorry for you and to feel like a good person I decided I'd deign to date you, thank god I used you for that! Turned out well, huh." Otherwise the whole "dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" seems to offer a huge danger of "a sure road to settling because you want immediate emotional gratification and a false sense of security, and you're only expanding your horizons because what you were doing wasn't working for you in getting what you want." IOW there seem to be far more negative possibilities stemming from"dating someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with" for the off chance that you hit the super mega powerball love and viable relationship jackpot. So, no, I wouldn't take the risk dating "someone you never dreamed you would like or maybe fall in love with." Sometimes...life surprises you. Sometimes the measure of an adult is being prepared for surprises. What you may think is right for you, or wrong for you really isn't What is right for you, or wrong for you, changes throughout your life, it can even change on a day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute, basis. I think a better leading question would have been something like "do you believe in the immutability of your personality and life, that who you are is who you are, and who you like is who you like, always and forever, that you have a very specific type that is your ideal match. And if so, what would get you to take a risk/chance on dating someone you never dreamed you might like or fall in love with?" If you don't address the...default mind set...of the people answering your question, the answers are ultimately meaningless. I say I won't take a chance, but what does that mean to you? Do you simply read "closed minded?" Let's say I will date any woman I find attractive between the ages of 28-50, any race, any culture, within the neighborhood of my location, in a city of millions of people. But I said I won't take a chance. Then Pete McPetey responds after me that "yeah! I'm changing lately! I'm broadening my horizons! You have to have an open mind to find love! I'm willing to take that chance!" Only in practical reality that translates to the standard of an attractive woman between the ages of 25-26, blonde, christian, southern american, within the city of 1500 people , but there's this brunette that's 25-26, christian, southern, he's had his eye on and he's thinking of going for. What meaning did the answers "I won't take/haven't thought about taking a chance" vs. "I would take, do think about taking, a chance!" really provide you? |
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it's always a risk to try something new.
I took tge chance once and it turned into an abusive relationship. some time later I met someone else different in so many ways. we learned to know and appreciate each other's interests. he's a very nice man but I wasn't his happiness and we parted as friends. my other half took a chance with me. he's never gone out with a book worm like me and it's working out beautifully |
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