Just about all decent profile photos of men come with profile descriptions of loving to 'stay active', or loving to 'be fit',,,blah blah blah

its almost like the cliche , girly, 'loves walks on the beach'

I think I am a nearly extinct human

one who doesn't like the beach or the outdoors in general
and one who loves to 'sit down'...lol


do you know how hard it is to find males with that profile description?

'fit male loves to sit down'...

in the spirit of funny profiles

Sadly a sedentary life is often a short one... Being active is also a life style and there are others you might find listed as couch potatoes along with an excess of girth... lol

IMO/IME that is just a roundabout way of saying "no fat chicks!"
Or "I keep myself in shape, I deserve a partner that does too!" ("deserve" being the important term)

But when guys put either of those on their profile, they tend to get negative responses.

before gyms were all the rage, there were still fit people

normal life should suffice to stay fit as long as there arent extreme diets and such,,,

i guess ill hafta change mine to read...

"old geezer who doesn't need a walker...yet"...

Prone to having fits.

I totally agree with this. I've noticed years ago that especially Americans are very -what I call- over the top with this 'staying fit' stuff.
Like the Jane Fonda Fitness craze in the ... what was it? 80s? All that to-do always comes from the States. It's as if your not excepted over there when you don't work your butt off in the gym at least 3-4x a week.
We never really had such crazes here, not to that extent.

I also feel that living a normal life, going out and about, cycling, walking, more normal things, is more than enough. Keeping the house clean and gardening is a workout in itself.

The worst thing is that many of these over the top guys expect a woman to be like that too. I'm like "If you want to be a sports freak, fine. But don't bother me with it!"
I've got my own interests and things to do. Fact that I paint doesn't mean I demand of a partner to take an interest in Van Dyke brown, Alazarin Crimson, and fan brushes.

Oh, good! msharmony said males, not men. I have a chance.

Arguing over personal preferences is immature Learning how to accept others preferences without assuming theirs are wrong is the beginning of wisdom and being able to function as a person. Rationalizing ones own preferences to the detriment of others simply demonstrates fuzzy thinking and egocentric view of others and oneself,. People who are obese will suffer the consequences of their unhealthy lifestyle but do not need criticism nor do those who are active and lead a healthy lifestyle;. Both need acceptance and perhaps less criticism and more acceptance as each seeks out others who best meet their preferences and not denigrate others....

the thread was never meant to denigrate others,, but was an honest question, albeit posed jokingly


and an invite to other 'honest' and funny profile headlines like the 'Fit single male loves to sit'



to me , someone saying they 'love staying fit', is like saying they love 'wiping after taking a crap',,

I mean,, duh!!,, I Dont think anyone enjoys having a poopy butt anymore than they enjoy being UNFIT,, thats kind of a given


my question was more about when and why 'staying fit' became a full time obsession or 'activity' one 'loves',,,,,,,


those who live such 'active' lives are perfect matches for others with the same

I just find it hard to believe noone fit/attractive maintains a more 'normal' life of 'everyday' activities

I was just wondering if there are 'fit' people with other 'loves' besides 'staying fit'


or if there are fit people who live normal lives walking, working, enjoying their home(sitting),,,and indoor activities,,,

becomes it SEEMS as if the claim of 'staying fit' has become a cliche like 'walks on the beach' used to be

msharmony, thank you for this forum, I find it very interesting. Let me use my profile and change it a bit to visit this line of thinking;

I guess I have my own answers, :p
My Appearance, Handsome as hell!!!!!
Height, Tall
Hair color, Greys
Body Type, that too, old
Ethnicity, the one you like
My Lifestyle, expecting to be serve on every way
Marital status, later
Do I smoke?, yes
Do I drink?, yes
Do I have children?, yes
Do I want children?, NO!!!!!
MY religion, There is no a fourth dimension
I like cause trouble, really easy going I do not think so, love to be paid to go to the movies, shop at BJ's. I like to look at the people do the beach and walking from my sofa. Help me find the positive on everything, love the feeling of a toxic relation, life is to short. I will treat you with respect as long as we visit BJ's as much as possible, do not like Costco!!!!
If you think we could be a match just message me instead, lets go with the flow and let nature take it's course.


Wonder what this may bring.

good luck on your search

Ditto (not extinct but so unique from stereotype I am strange)

Here are some more profile claims that get me.
It is like she is claiming interests that reflect what she imagines a man would want.

"Loves Football - Go (insert team here)"
In reality she will put up with having football play on the TV while she does something else. Will go to a game to be with the person she loves but would rather go and do something that she feels is romantic.

"Loves Fishing"
Another that is seen on many women's profiles. Yet when I go to the beach and look at the pier or go to the river and see who is fishing 80% of the people actually fishing are men.

"Listening to Music" and any other standard human interest.
Its like they are selling themselves as a potential match using keywords that are common instead of displaying unique.

I don't want someone that is just like me. I want someone that broadens my horizons so that we can both experience new things by our association.

Granted, I have interests in my profile that play to women's expectations.

I like watching sports, I don't like watching football, baseball or any of the TOP sports that men feel they must watch to feel like a man. I like off-road motorsports like mud-bogs, rock crawling and tractor pulling. I "used to" like playing football, baseball, softball, tennis and volleyball. My body tells me that is no longer possible.

I "used to" fish and hunt but life removed those from my ability. They are not a defining interest when offering myself to another.
I tried to list interests that I have right now.

"I love to Read"
is another frequent interest seen on profiles. Well, I read all the time. Internet, recipes, instructions and other everyday written words.
I "used to" read dead wood books. Now I read eBooks and listen to audio books. Audio books allow me to interact with someone while still getting the reading experience.
Reading books shows intelligence but it is a personal thing that is done alone. How is cuddling up on a chair under a lamp reading a book appealing to anyone but yourself? Yet you see it commonly in profiles.

Then there is the disclaimers. LOL
Do Not Contact Me IF...
Keep right on moving along IF...
I am not on here for....
Seems like negativity to me.

I have seen women that are seeking sex. They actually state that they are seeking sex.

I have seen many times, on profiles, that they are here only for the forums. That may be the case but then why do they have seeking a serious relationship and a filled out profile that looks like a quest for a match? There are much better community forums available on the web, so why are they really here? I never attended dating sites until I was faced with trying to find someone. I am on many other forums and have been for years before participating or even looking at dating forums.

I am here to find a match and nothing more. Once that match is found, I will no longer be here. My profile reflects this and my participation in these forums supports it. I am not trying to fit in, I am trying to show my personality to potential matches. The forums and my profile are merely tools to be used to find someone that is right for me and I for her.

The culture has changed with over half being obese this is a function of sedentary life, poor eating and an abundance of terrible food . The average woman now weighs 165 and this is obese so any woman is free to weigh in as she wishes but not free from the consequences of her choices in fitness nor diet... There is a degree of rationalizing regarding being fit as though its bad rather than the obvious acknowledgement that obesity, inactivity, and diet are positively related to a myriad of health issues, heart and other ailments, but its easier to poke fun at healthy folks than simply look in the mirror and watch oneself waddle around a room and not be able to cross ones legs either.... The photos of people making comments do speak for the people least likely to be active too...Myself included at 6 ft 1 and 186...

its not my intention to poke fun at anyone

just the ,uh,,,,silliness (imho) of the statement that one loves to 'be' or 'stay' fit,,,,,,, as if anyone loves being unfit,,,

like I jokingly mentioned,, its like someone telling me they love to wipe after they crap

to me, being fit is just making healthy and rational choices about a COMBINATION of food, rest, and activity,, I do not relate to making it any more of a 'love' or passion than getting sleep or eating, its just something that is a natural desire of existence



and the lack of 'fit' people who actually 'love' more sedentary forms of 'entertainment' or at least the lack of those willing to advertise it,,


makes matching more difficult, for a 'fit' person who remains so just with sensible eating that matches moderate movement during each day

and loves the things that DONT require elevating the heart rate


but taking a BREAK from all the everyday activities that already do


but, that's why they call it 'matching'

I just suspect people don't want to put up profiles that don't make them sound like amazing physical specimens,,lol


BUT IN ANY CASE


more power to all fit people,, those who point it out and those who just are


I really was hoping for some funny tagline suggestions and examples, but seeing the thread has gone another direction,,,,,,I will check back later and hope the original intent catches on

In my Big Picture kind of way, I see a few things that led to this.

It seems to be mostly about egotism, with capitalists immediately chasing after (and trying to push) to take advantage of the egotism, and make a profit off of it.

For my entire life, I've seen a long series of ever changing, often unrelated games being played out in society, all with one thing in common: puffing up egos.

The Disco movement was only party to do with having fun dancing, it was 98% who could dress up in fancy clothes, and perform certain frenetic, stylized movements, which proved to onlookers that they were "In." The clothing marketers and disco club owners were attached like leaches to the whole mess, shouting all the while for everyone to join in, or be left behind and laughed at.

Hot on the tail of that, came the first "fitness fad," in the form of going to the Gym, and doing dico moves while wearing leotards and leg-warmers (and getting laid). Again, the money makers chased and led at the same time, promoting the idea that if you didn't exercise while wearing the latest hot clothing, topped off with a stylized sweatband, you were social garbage...and of course, you needed to join the exercise club that the BEST people went to (at high cost) or be considered totally lame.

Those trends dropped off when the economy soured, and we went into limbo, until another trend/money making scheme was discovered.

The online dating world seems to have picked up where the third rate Disco nonsense left off, with catch phrases, jockeying for position on websites and forums, and non-stop games of one upmanship and derision as people paw at each other.

With every fad or movement, there is a small cluster of serious people who actually DO want to get fit, stay fit, do wild crap all the time and all that, but also with every fad, most people are just mouthing the words they think they are supposed to say in order to get the "treats" that the fad pretends to offer.

IgorFrankensteen,
What a refreshingly accurate assessment.

Its the "Keeping Up With The Jones" mentality.
Personally I never really went for that.
Want to buy a Pet Rock?

I was pretty fit up until my body started to give out around the age of 47. I worked very hard and was very energetic both at work and at home. I didn't exercise per`se but I did work my body to its fullest.
Never really had insomnia either.

Once my body said stop. It slammed on the brakes because I failed to listen to its gentle persuasions. I am still trying to recover from that fateful day when I looked at death.

I have a bicycle, dr. won't let me ride it. I bought exercise mats but the dr says I should not exercise. Still I find a way to keep my muscles active.
I've lost a lot of my muscle mass but the dr. doesn't seem to care. When I was working I was buff.

The phone craze is another ego thing that is subtle but exists. When I tell people that I don't carry a phone or text I get some pretty hairy eyeballs. I've had a few women that found out I don't text and they lost interest in me immediately. I've seen people compare their phones and apps to figure out who is the best. Its crazy when ya think about it.

There have always been
Memes

There will be many more.
Some are vital to society and others hamper it.

When I read things that silly I go take a nap.

I wish I could find a man my age around me that likes to stay fit and be active in every way... I do like to kick back as well.... I just don't want to sit on the front porch all day long....lol

The problem I keep coming across is those men are on here looking for younger women.... and hey whatever turns them on...

Now I can't speak for anyone else but I have it on my profile because I want them to know I work to stay in shape and maybe they won't just pass me by because of my age..... lol


But when it gets right down to it....I work out to make myself feel better and be strong and fit enough to take care of the things my husband used to deal with before he passed away....

It sucks to be single sometimes.....lol

There you go, precisely what I was referring to with the "there are always a few genuinely serious people involved" observation.