Is being jealous healthy to a relationship?

No, its not. It kills relationships

Green eyes is correct.

The existence of jealousy in a relationship, means only negative things are happening. Either the jealously is warranted, because one person is actively trying to cheat, or is otherwise showing a lack of concern and care about the other one, or the jealous person is mentally ill, and is imagining betrayal at every turn.

Either way, it means the relationship should end immediately if not sooner.

Nope~~~~ normally those that are jealous are controlling~~~~ both destroys relationships~~~

No, I am not a jealous person. In my opinion It shows a person to be possessive and insecure, it certainly can destroy a relationship.

I agree with Igor, but everyone is assuming a bad case of jealousy here. And that is not always the case. I think most everyone occasionally feels a pang of jealousy and that doesn't have to be bad for a relationship at all.
It depends on how you deal with it.

And I'm quite sure many men can feel a pang of jealousy but never ever talk about it, because they don't want to admit they can feel jealous.
I guess it's not considered masculine to admit you can feel jealous? A sign of weakness maybe, cos it's basically admitting you feel threatened in your masculinity by another man. Few men have the baws to admit that they can feel that way at times.

Does that ruin the relationship? No.

Am I jealous? I can be. Depends on context though. Context can be how I feel or how he makes me feel.
I guess both would be based on insecurity.
You could argue that isn't right, and maybe it isn't, but I'm only human. And even though I'm a woman, I at least do have the baws to admit that I can indeed be jealous.

I guess everyone has different experiences with Jealousy. I have had it in relationships and I have had it at the work site and everytime it was a ugly thing to see. It shines right thru

I don't think I am.
I am human. I do feel jealousy.
Hopefully when it's appropriate.
Hopefully that's not a primary motivator for my behavior.


It's not inherently unhealthy to a relationship.
Depends on the relationship.
Depends on the people.
Depends on what's triggering the jealousy.
Depends on how jealousy is being expressed.
Depends on if the jealous person is focused on proving the feeling "right," or using it as motivation to figure out (and possibly fix) what's "wrong."

Are you a jealous person?
No.

Is being jealous healthy to a relationship?
No.

If I may add:

Jealousy is often seen as a negative emotion even though it is normal in certain situations -- and may even be a positive thing. However, it can become unhealthy if it turns into an obsession, takes over your life and causes irrational behavior. The difference between healthy and unhealthy jealousy comes down to the way each individual deals with it.

First off there has been 2 different questions posed.

Topic question....Are you a jealous person?
I can be. I'm not afraid to admit, and it doesn't come about from me having a mental illness.
I love(sarcasm) how so many, want to blame things coming from the mental illness. Another by-product of media biasness.

OP question....Is it healthy to a relationship?

Personally I think a little bit of jealousy is a good thing. A lot of people may say it comes about from insecurity. I don't see it that way. Jealousy is more about a person not totally getting the overall sensation that they need from their partner. Once they do, the jealousy tends to dissipate.

Jealousy is anticipating dishonesty when it involves a relationship.
It affects trust which is vital to a relationship.

When you truly trust someone there is less jealous moments in that relationship.

Jealousy is also an indication of ownership in a relationship. It says that someone thinks they have control over another.

In my opinion, the only person I have control over is myself. I can ask of her anything that is important to me but I must understand that she is her own person as well. She will act according to her own nature. If I try to manipulate her by playing on her jealousy its not fair to me or her in establishing the trusting bond I seek.

One of the things that I have learned is that I should not want for things that are not in my ability to obtain. I am not jealous of the person that has more money, a beautiful wife or any other things like that. I do believe I can obtain a loving, lasting relationship with someone with my similar ideal and interests. If I didn't I would forego trying to find anyone at all.

If I were to realize that she was trying to or is actually making me feel jealous she is not the person I want in my life. There will be trust issues. I know, been there, done that, learned the lesson to be learned.

If I feel jealous over something she says or does, I will ask about it. Her response will decide if the trust is there or broken. Likewise, If she asks me, I will respond with truth. If it is not the truth she was needing then she should end the relationship.

These are things related to my idea match. There are degrees of magnitude I can accept in real results. I understand that I must be flexible in my search but I must also know what it is I truly seek just in case it comes along.

Yup. Totally agree

I have to go to the definition:

from m-w
JEALOUS
1a : intolerant of rivalry or unfaithfulness
b : disposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness <a jealous husband>

2: hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage : envious <His success made his old friends jealous.> <They were jealous of his success.>

3:vigilant in guarding a possession <new colonies were jealous of their new independence — Scott Buchanan>


according to this,, I am not intolerant, hostile, or vigilant in a relationship,, so I would have to say (as it pertains to relationships). No



I dont feel the above is healthy in a relationship either.

Not Inherently Unhealthy? Yes, I think it is.
SOURCE ~ https://www.psychologytoday.com/basics/jealousy

Jealosy is a negative emotional state. It is in contrast to what a healthy relationship is. People tend to think they need a contrast to highlight the best more vividly. Healthy relationships are vivid on their own.

"Depends" is a cop-out answer. It plays on people's inability to be decisive. All it does is state that there are probabilities in a chaotic Universe.


It has been my experience that jealousy fixes nothing. It proves only that trust is broken.

I'm sure everyone feels jealousy at one time or another in a relationship. When trust is established that jealousy can be dismissed before it becomes an issue by communicating with your partner over your concerns. If their actions continue to illicit jealousy either the partner has lied (trust issue) or you do not accept their answer (trust issue). When their behavior is not what you desire then that person is not the right person for you. End the relationship and find someone that is.

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I am like the anti-jealous..I trust completely.
This does not mean one cannot get a pang now and then,
in a healthy expression of protecting one's own.

However, my ex was so jealous, he wanted to know every
step I took away from home, who did I talk with, who
did I notice..what was I thinking..it was heartily
sickening.

Claustrophobic.
Obsession.
Scary.

Well, as usual, there are variations in how each of us imagines the term jealousy, what it means specifically. I support the dictionary definition that msharmony listed, and so I find nothing positive about jealousy.

But another way to look at this, is to take out the word, which WAS specifically made up to refer to the thoroughly negative behaviors and reactions people can have, and look instead at the difficult dynamics of human relationships, which are so problem filled precisely because they are so complex, and are shaped by each person's experiences and the timing of those experiences.

In short, there are certainly situations where someone can feel anxiety or envy about someone else, without it necessarily being entirely destructive. I think that that is what some are imagining when they say that "some" degree of jealousy can be tolerable or even a good thing.

But from my vantage point in age, I think it is very important to decry jealousy firmly, and at all times. This is because I have seen again and again, that as soon as SOME amount of jealousy is allowed or even praised, that MANY people who have not yet learned what they need to, to recognize the subtleties involved, leap to energetically performing destructive experiences with each other.

Suggestion to consider: check before you use the word "jealousy," to see if perhaps a more accurate word is apt. "Envy," for example, is a sort of "cousin" to jealousy, but envy does not carry with it, quite as much antagonism and active negative intent. You can feel envious of another, without wanting to prevent them from enjoying what you wish you also had.

Whatever the words we choose, I think it is important that we don't allow those words, to become what causes or excuses sloppy or negative behavior on our parts.