Topic: I DO Have Regrets!
Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:13 AM
I am not sure if it is a platitude or cliche....but that whole statement,
"I would not be (who, what, where, how, why) I am."....is a bit tired, no?

Fictional or NOT, name a regret. ie..
-I really regret sticking that knife in the toaster!
-I really regret not paying more attention in my early Math classes.

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:21 AM
Regrets are negative thinking.

I like me. I am who I am today because of my past. Even the mistakes I made had a hand in making me who I am today. I'm sure I will make more mistakes in the future. I only hope that I learn from them as well.

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:32 AM
Edited by Beachfarmer on Thu 02/09/17 06:34 AM
Don't get me wrong Tom. I am on board with positive!!!! However this is EXACTLY what I am talking about.

but isn't there anything that you would tweek..if you could?

panchovanilla's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:33 AM
I'm a middle aged man.
We're supposed to have regrets.
Then we go buy a candy apple red sports car
and get over it.
Until we regret buying the sports car.frustrated

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:35 AM
Edited by Beachfarmer on Thu 02/09/17 06:37 AM
Combing over as we speak

and a Hot 22yo blonde just "Nudged" me.
I think she's real this time.

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:41 AM
I regret getting into that Tijuana oil pit when there was donkeys involved.

sybariticguy's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:44 AM

I'm a middle aged man.
We're supposed to have regrets.
Then we go buy a candy apple red sports car
and get over it.
Until we regret buying the sports car.frustrated
I bought a blue one and no regrets either

panchovanilla's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:45 AM

I regret getting into that Tijuana oil pit when there was donkeys involved.

Just keep in mind, the joy you gave the donkey.
Keep on the sunny side.

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:54 AM
I was really trying to keep the sunny side up. :-/

no photo
Thu 02/09/17 06:57 AM
that whole statement,
"I would not be (who, what, where, how, why) I am."....is a bit tired, no?

Only if you're tired of/with the person using it.

Most/many platitudes and "statements"/sayings have multiple levels of meaning and depth.

With time and experience different levels and meanings, how they're interconnected, and related to a bigger picture, open up and are understood.

When people use "statements" or sayings/platitudes in a relationship they can act like a Rosetta Stone in understanding them better, communicating with them better.

So, if you're tired of/with the person using it, then it's simply a "tired" saying. You've "figured it out" for yourself and are applying your biased understanding towards them.

Fictional or NOT, name a regret. ie..

I regret not eating more vegetables instead of (or with) pizza when younger.

panchovanilla's photo
Thu 02/09/17 07:12 AM
My failing memory allows me fredom from regrets.
At least nothing dating back before my last bowel movement.
I'm assuming I ate something hot and spicy recentlywhat

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/09/17 07:13 AM
If I were to " compartmentalize"..ok.
Agreed on the vegetables

Tom4Uhere's photo
Thu 02/09/17 07:14 AM
There are many things in my past that I now realize I should or shouldn't have done. I choose to live in the 'now'. I know that I can't change the past and therefore I don't fret about the shoulda, coulda, wouldas.

If I put too much mayo in my tuna salad I won't like it and will either add more tuna or toss it. The next time I make up tuna salad I am more precise with how much mayo I add to the mix. Tasting as I add until I get the right amount.

I understand that there is no way I can forecast the result of every life choice. Sometimes I make the wrong choice. Rather than regretting the choices I made, I embrace the result and learn from my errors.

I dedicated myself to the wrong woman many years ago. I regretted it for years. Then I realized that I couldn't change my past. Instead of feeling sorry for my poor choices I decided to learn from them and adjust myself accordingly. In the process of removing those regrets I have become a better person both to myself and to others.


soufiehere's photo
Thu 02/09/17 07:22 AM
I regret staying on the Atkins Diet for 10 years
instead of the 6 week limit they suggest.

It is high protein, low carbohydrates.
Animal protein=kidney stones.
Baaaaaad idea.

Beachfarmer's photo
Thu 02/09/17 07:33 AM
I thought the green leafies were the balance. Something to do with starches and "good" sugars?

no photo
Thu 02/09/17 07:42 AM


If I put too much mayo in my tuna salad I won't like it and will either add more tuna or toss it. The next time I make up tuna salad I am more precise with how much mayo I add to the mix. Tasting as I add until I get the right amount.


That should be a regret....laugh 1st mistake was using mayo, instead of salad dressing. oops

no photo
Thu 02/09/17 11:20 AM

There are many things in my past that I now realize I should or shouldn't have done. I choose to live in the 'now'. I know that I can't change the past and therefore I don't fret about the shoulda, coulda, wouldas.

If I put too much mayo in my tuna salad I won't like it and will either add more tuna or toss it. The next time I make up tuna salad I am more precise with how much mayo I add to the mix. Tasting as I add until I get the right amount.

I understand that there is no way I can forecast the result of every life choice. Sometimes I make the wrong choice. Rather than regretting the choices I made, I embrace the result and learn from my errors.

I dedicated myself to the wrong woman many years ago. I regretted it for years. Then I realized that I couldn't change my past. Instead of feeling sorry for my poor choices I decided to learn from them and adjust myself accordingly. In the process of removing those regrets I have become a better person both to myself and to others.




You have the wisest posts!

SparklingCrystal 💖💎's photo
Fri 02/10/17 02:33 AM
I don't have regrets.
I do sometimes wish I'd known certain things at an earlier age, but since you need to live life in order to learn, that isn't possible.
So no, no regrets. Not even about the many trials and tribulations I went through. They all helped me to become who I am today. And I happen to be quite happy with myself :)

IgorFrankensteen's photo
Fri 02/10/17 04:29 AM
Funny thing about the whole ACT of having regrets.

For a lot of people, expressing "regrets" is actually an attempt to declare that they are not the person who did whatever. It can SOUND as though they are apologizing for whatever they did, but what they are really doing, is trying to absolve themselves of all guilt and real responsibility, by saying they've outgrown it, or "were never really that person" or some such.

I don't so much have "regrets," as I do have emotional scars. As with some physical injuries, those events of long ago still cause me pain today, but there's no way to erase them, or change what life became because they occurred. Just have to carry on as best I can now.